Nicole Hollar explains why chasing things and experiences won't make you happy long-term. She contrasts the typical Western path of having, doing, then being with a mastery path that starts with being. Real happiness comes from alignment across your spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical self.
In this path of life, which most of us do as Westerners, we try to do things to fill these voids, meaning like have things, buy things. And then at some point, most people get to this place where they're like, you know what, I'm less interested in having so many things. I want to do more. I want to have more experiences. Maybe they want to travel more or have something that gives them a different type of fulfillment. And then at some point, they may or may not graduate to this place of, you know, I don't need all this stuff and I just want to kind of be content where I'm at. You know, they could— all these tiny homes, how many people live in a 10 by 10 forever, but they've gotten rid of all of the things because they just finally gotten to this place where they're just content in their, in their being, in their existence. So that would be the path of life. We go from this having to doing to being, but the path of mastery is really that our being is the foundation and everything builds on that. What I encourage clients to do is really find that place in, in being centered, because when you're centered, the other things will filter out from that. If we keep trying to have in order to fulfill our being, it's almost like it's an empty pit. When I talk about the being energy, there's sort of a spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical component there, and all of those things Really want to work together. Like, who are you spiritually? Who are you mentally, emotionally, and physically? Once you can define who that is, make sure that whatever it is you're doing is in alignment with that. And that can be really, as you go about after who you are, you're doing and you're having can be in any of these areas of self.
