Nicole HollarIntegrative Life Coach | Behavior Change Expert | Author | Speaker - Helping high-functioning people and organizations uncover blind spots so they can get out of their own way.

Stop saying I should

17 Jul 2024 · 1 min

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This content was created by Nicole Hollar. This content was uploaded by Nicole Hollar. This is a YouTube video titled "Stop saying I should" (created 2024-07-17) containing a short English self-help/motivational monologue by a single speaker (labelled SPEAKER A). The speaker advises against using "I should" statements because they create guilt, consume mental energy through rumination, and inhibit action; they recommend tabling desired changes (e.g., losing weight, quitting smoking) until genuinely ready and returning to them later.

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You have to get rid of the I shoulds. The I shoulds really do very little for people other than create guilt. And the biggest I should, I think, that I've ever heard is I should lose weight, I should change jobs, I should stop smoking, stop drinking, whatever it is. But they're just not ready to do it. Just stop saying I should, because what you're doing is you're creating this visualization process in this cycle Having your mind continuously think about it, but taking no action. It's really just—it's occupying a lot of valuable energy and resources in thought and focus, and just recreating that cycle of why we don't make change in our life. So it's okay; just table it. You don't have to lose weight right now. You don't have to stop smoking or curb your. You know, pizza habit. Not right now. Maybe you should, but if you aren't ready, then table it for right now. There's nothing wrong with that. And then when you're ready, come back to it.