105. What’s the point of tracking every penny?: Ramit’s 3 Lessons from Ep 104

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I'm feeling hopeful, excited. We were never really good at talking finances. I feel like I'm getting better. I'm definitely the problem. She wants me to communicate better, but it's become habitual for her to almost gatekeep. This conversation is going to be most helpful for us to continue in the right direction.

I'm excited. Jesse and I talked last night to say like, you know, are we on the same page before we jump on this call? Like, what are our goals and our expectations? I think I'm just excited. See if you hear something that we can't see or hear ourselves.

A couple days ago we heard episode 104 with Stacy and Jesse and I want to share a few key lessons from that episode. Recall that Stacy makes a lot more money than her partner Jesse, and she desperately wants for him to be engaged. But she's also set up a system where she controls everything financially related in their relationship. I was struck by how complicated of a financial system Sty has built. She's got 32 categories. They've tracked everything for over 10 years and I'm just thinking to myself, what's the point of all this? What does it get you? Because their system is actually more complicated than my system. Real question for you, do you know how often you're supposed to see your primary care physician? How about the dentist? How about a dermatologist? A lot of us just wait to get a text from the dental hygienist to know it's time to make an appointment. But your health is important and we talk about going from defense to offense with your money. What about with your health? Why not make your life easier and Book this year's appointments today with ZocDoc ZocDoc is a free app and website where you can search and compare high quality in network doctors and click to instantly book an appointment. They have over 100,000 doctors across every specialty from mental health, dental, primary care and more. Just filter for the doctors based on your insurance, your location, even ratings and find a doctor who's a good fit for your needs. Plus, Zocdoc appointments happen fast, usually within 24 to 72 hours. Instantly click through your options, book the appointment and you are good to go. If I needed to find a new doctor today, this is what I would use. Stop putting off these doctor's appointments and go to Zocdoc.com ramit to find and instantly book a top rated doctor today. That's Z O c d o c.com ramit zocdoc.com ramit When I talk to new business owners, I hear a lot of the same motivations. I want to make extra money. I want more freedom. I want flexibility. But I will tell you something that I've never heard. I want to start a business so I can fill out a bunch of tax forms. That sounds like my hell. The good news is you don't need to be a tax expert to start your own business. Instead, you can use Gusto, this episode's sponsor. Gusto is online payroll and benefits software built for small businesses. It's all in one, it's remote, friendly and it's incredibly easy to use so you can pay, hire onboard and support your team from anywhere. They offer automatic payroll tax filing, simple direct deposits, health benefits, workers comp 401k matches, you name it, they can help. Plus, it's quick and easy to switch to Gusto. Just transfer your existing data and get up and running fast with no hidden fees and no surprises. Try gusto today@gusto.com ramit and get three months free when you run your first payroll. That's three months of free payroll@gusto.com ramIT. Once more, gusto.com/ramit. So you decided to take control of your money. You're on top of it. How many different Excel spreadsheets and budgets do you have? Tell the truth.

One Google spreadsheet. But it probably has 20 hidden tabs over the last 10 years.

How do I know that?

Yep, there's.

And how diligent have you been in tracking your spending? Let me guess. Extremely. Go ahead.

Correct. We both have used an app that I love for the last 10 years to track every expense. Anytime we swipe our credit card, it goes in. And I trained Jesse to do the same thing.

Jesse, you do that?

Yeah. I am not as diligent as her, but yeah, it will track down to the penny, even on cash.

And what does that get both of you?

It's very satisfying for me to have the data to tell me what we're spending on. It actually helped us when we were filling in the conscious spending plan.

So you track everything you're tracking, like the price of Brussels sprouts over time, so you can trend that for from.

2010, but, like, how much we spend on groceries per month, you know, clothing, transportation.

How many categories do you have?

More than we should.

How many? Tell me, tell me.

Oh, hang on.

She's gonna pull it up right now. This is amaz. Oh, my God. Look at that. She's like, finally. It's been 13 years, and finally someone asked me a question about my app. Okay, tell me, how many categories?

Do you want sub categories too, as well?

High level categories?

No, I want all of them. Don't. Don't BS me. Oh, wow. She just took, like, at least swallow, probably. Everybody watch. However long this takes, I'm going to run completely dead air. I will burn literally gigabytes right now just watching them. Look, he's still counting. This is unbelievable.

32.

32 cat. Wow. So simple. You ever hear me say that phrase, fight for simplicity in your finances? You ever heard me? Yeah. She's going, yeah. She goes, yeah, that's a great phrase. I chose not to adopt that. That's great for other people, not for us.

I'm learning. I'm learning.

Okay, what kind of emotions you get when you log in and you track stuff and you change the cat? What do you get?

Feel satisfied or. I feel. I feel better that I just played around in the spreadsheet because it. It feels like work. And the work is never done.

It feels like work because what is it that you're actually doing?

Working to not a lot of outcome or out results.

Total $3 questions. Tracking a budget for what? Tweaking a spreadsheet. For what? I've said it before, I'm going to say it again. The more successful you get with money, the more you have to fight for simplicity. Fight for it. It's got to be a key priority. It's so easy to get a 401k from that old job. And another one over here, a credit card. You open up at Express because you literally want to save 10% off of my shirt. Don't ever do that. And all kinds of assorted in your system and suddenly one day you wake up, you don't know what flows where, you don't even know how much money you have because it's all in a million different places. Fight for simplicity. And you know what else I have to say? So many people are obsessed with this idea of precision rather than getting the broad strokes right. You know, recently I posted on social media about the conscious spending plan. The four categories, the four numbers you really need to know in your spending, fixed cost, savings, investments and guilt free spending. I had like 3,000 questions about categories. Ramit, where do car parts go? Ramit, what about cavities? I was like, who cares? Seriously, these are minute questions. Use the system, adapt it to what you need and then move on. The goal here is not to get everything absolutely precisely right. That's not the point. The point is that it's simple enough so that you can deeply understand it and move on. Now there are a couple ways that I account for little details. I add 15% to fixed costs because everybody forgets about stuff. I always am conservative with my numbers. But if you want to put cavities under fixed costs because you get one every year, or you want to put on your guilt free spending because you love candy, it doesn't really matter. Get 85% of the way there and then move on with your life. A simple financial system is one where you track a few key numbers. You have room to account for mistakes, late fees, overspending because your college roommate came in from town, all of that stuff. You build a healthy buffer. You have a couple credit cards, a few bank accounts, an investment account, and then you get on with your life. You know, I don't have any problem talking about death. I really don't. I think sometimes we avoid talking about it as if it's not going to happen, but this is a sure thing, it's going to happen to us. My feeling is we might as well talk about it. You like to worry.

Less so than Stacy, but yes. Still.

What do you get out of it?

Out of worrying?

Yeah.

I. I worry a lot. That if she suddenly is out of the picture, for whatever reason, I am in a lot of trouble.

Because if she were hit by a bus. By the way, I love this morbid conversation where we're talking about one person's premature death who just happens to be sitting right in front of us.

We're okay, we're both European. We, we talk about death a lot.

Fantastic. All right, great. So if she were to get, you know, hit by a bus, you still have $1.2 million and you're young, able bodied guy. It's not the number that concerns me. It's that everything beneath it, which is you would have no idea how to manage it on a day to day basis. No idea how life insurance works. No idea what investments are or how they interact with your savings. None of it. Would you agree?

I would agree.

You see the issue? You have no fingerprints on your finances at all. You're merely a passive observer in your financial life. And she doesn't like it. And if she gets hit by a bus tomorrow, you're.

Actually not that.

That is a conversation we have had.

What do you mean? He can get a big old life insurance check. That doesn't mean he's going to know how to use it.

That's true.

I'm serious. You know that I had the same conversation with my wife, right? It's like, look, I could be the money manager in our relationship, but I'm not going to be. We got to both do it in case I get hit by a bus because I need a second set of eyes and because it's just more fun. You know, I remember talking to my parents about setting up a will and I was encouraging them saying, look, we might as well talk about this now. You don't want to leave your family with a bunch of accounts where we don't even have login information. You want to come up with your decisions now? Let's just do it. Get it out on paper, be clear about it. There's no problem talking about this stuff. I think a lot of us are afraid to talk about money and death because we are afraid of money. We're also afraid of death. And putting those together is absolutely terrifying for a lot of people. I think a lot of you actually believe that if you have some life insurance policy, you're good. Wrong handing over money to a grieving family without the wisdom to go along with it. Is actually doing a disservice to your living family members. Talk about money. Now get good at money. Build habits and rituals together with your family. That is how you create a rich life for multiple generations. You know, when I was studying persuasion in college, we studied a lot of health psychology. And health psychology has this concept of adherence. How many people actually take the medication that's prescribed to them? You would think that if it's a life or death situation, a hundred percent of people take their medication.

Wrong.

The adherence numbers would shock you. Sometimes they're 30 to 40% of people actually taking their medications. Some of it has to do with cost convenience. Some people forget. Some people just don't want to take it. But when I understood this, I became a lot more compassionate. Because if people aren't even willing to take life or death medication, then we realize how hard it is to stick with a gym routine. And that's why my entire life's work has been focused on simplicity and focusing on the high leverage areas, not 300 categories of budgets. I know that some of us think better when we write our thoughts out, but but for a lot of us, including me, I'm better when I can think out loud. If that's you, I recommend you check out Whisper Flow to save you tons of time to bring your ideas to the page. Whisper Flow turns your voice into clean final draft writing inside whatever app you're already using. Email, Slack Docs, even text messages. And it works on Mac, Windows, and iPhone. So instead of spending all of your time responding to messages and especially while sitting at a computer, you can hit a hotkey, speak, and the text appears. It's accurate, it's fast, it's all formatted so you can get back to work. Here's what my friend said about it. Whisper is amazing because it learns the way you speak. So you can send this rambling note as a text message and it kills all the filler words and it perfectly formats it for you. They said it's much better than using the Apple Voice to Text feature. The spelling is way better. If you want to buy your time back and get back to what matters, check out Whisper Flow. Try it for free at whisperflow AI/ramit. That's whisperflow AI ramit w I s p r flow AI ramit or click the link in the description below. What comes to mind when I share these specific moments? Renewing your passport, Scheduling a dentist appointment? Replacing that light bulb that's been out for six months and you're not sure what's the right Bulb. We all procrastinate on weird stuff and taxes are usually right at the top of that list. We wait until the last second that we get overwhelmed. We got to pull all this paperwork and we're panicked because the deadline is approaching. That's why I recommend gilt. Now that tax season's over, this is actually the best time to get ahead. If you run a business or you filed for a tax extension, one small move right now could save you thousands later. G is not just another CPA firm. They helped one of my colleagues rethink his entire tax setup. Now he's saving more than he spends on tax prep. With Gaelt, you get a proactive year round strategy. Not just a one time filing, credits, deductions, business structure. It's handled. And their tech platform makes it easy to stay organized. You'll also get access to ghelt's full tax library with guides on retirement plans, QBI and more. So if you've got a business or you filed for an extension, this is the window to take control of your tax plan. Head to joingelt.com ramit to book a consultation and as a member of my community, you get to skip the waitlist. Again. That's joingelt.com ramit join G E L T.com ramit taxes don't have to be a task with Gelt. They can be a tool to build wealth.

He was debating to get a gym membership. So he's had some physical ailments in the last couple of years. His physiotherapist recommended a gym, or rather a treadmill. We didn't want to buy a treadmill to fit in the house. There's a gym near our house and near Jesse's business that he can easily go to. It's like 15 bucks a month. And he hemmed and hawed about like whether we could afford it. And I was like, we're not poor anymore. We can afford that. It made me realize a he doesn't understand that and B, that such an insignificant amount of money per month you're not really going to find a cheaper gym. It's already a discount gym. He felt like he had to figure a way around not spending it. Instead of just talking to me about the expense, we had like a discussion about it and I was like, we're not poor anymore. You can get this. And I think it still took him two weeks to actually buy the gym membership.

I dragged my feet on a lot of like random expenses because I'm always trying to save money. Why I just have it in my head that, well, I mean, I don't personally make a whole lot, so I feel like the household doesn't necessarily make whole lot, which is not really the case. About a week later, I did finally pull the trigger. Got the membership. And I've been trying to do as much stepping or walking. Sorry. As as I can to heal my ankles.

Cool. Well, I'm glad you got the membership.

Thank you.

Would you consider that discussion or series of discussions a success?

Yes. Oh, 100%.

But I want Jesse to be like, I'm getting this gym membership. It's $15. This is the decision I'm making. And just buy it.

What you want to do is not depend on willpower because that fades away. You want to build systems so that by waking up breathing oxygen and drinking water, you are basically doing the right things. For example, if you don't want to worry about tiny little questions, then use my concept of a worry free number. Anything below 20 bucks, you don't even think twice about, or fifty or a hundred or five thousand, depending on your level of net worth. You want to build systems so that if you claim health is important to you, that you actually pick a number and you say, okay, every year I'm going to spend 3% of my gross income on health. Or 10%, whatever your number is. And suddenly it's not should I go to the gym or not, it's I need to spend $300 a month on health. Where am I going to allocate that money? If you are interested in health, by the way, we've got two sponsors I want to draw your attention to. Methodology is this amazing meal delivery service with Michelin quality ingredients. The food comes to you. It's absolutely beautiful and delicious. The second one is Ness, a credit card where you can be rewarded for spending on your health and wellness. You can get access and special deals to these programs@iwt.com sponsors. Thanks for tuning in to this Thursday episode of Lessons Learned. Don't forget to go back and listen to the full episode with Stacy and Jesse on any podcast player or of course on YouTube. I'll see you next week and I will also see you on my podcast newsletter this Saturday where I share material that is never shared publicly@iwt.com podcast newsletter. Thanks for listening to I WILL teach you to be Rich. I'm Ramit Sethi. Please follow the show on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts. If you haven't read I WILL teach you to be Rich. My book Pick up a copy. You can get it at any bookstore or any library. And it will show you the specific tactics for how to build the I will teach you to be rich system into your personal finances.