In this YouTube short, the speaker recounts a pivotal moment when they visited actress Tisha Campbell’s home. While there, a friend named Franklin, who sings background for Tisha, repeatedly praised the speaker, calling them “the mother” for their advice‑giving nature. The speaker, uncomfortable with being spoken about and feeling that such praise reduces their work to a mere job, begins to shrink and feel shy. Tisha notices this, confronts the speaker, and draws a clear line between humility and self‑disrespect. She urges the speaker to own the accolades, look the speaker in the eye, and stop fading away when praised. The monologue ends with a motivational call to “check in” rather than “check out,” encouraging listeners to accept recognition and be proud of themselves.
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I know. I don't like to name drop. I really don't. But that's really where I was. I was at Tisha Campbell's house. Matter of fact, meeting Tisha Campbell was a turning point for me. And I'm— and wow, that must have been why I brought it up. When I met her, one of my friends from Louisiana, from New Orleans, was singing background for her named Franklin. So Franklin had been telling her about me. So when I came and I met her, Franklin was like, yes, you know, this is Kaya. You know, everybody calls her mother at home because, you know, she gives out the advice. She'd have been with so-and-so. And the more he talks— I'm not a person that likes for people to talk about what I've done in front of me. It makes me feel weird, um, because again, it's just my job. I'm not gonna Man, she good at giving medicine. You know, she a nurse at the hospital. The way she give people shots, you know, I'm— so when you're talking about what my job, I feel like, why are you talking about my job? You know, because I'm not talking about yours. But I keep forgetting that people don't think this is a job. So, but either way, God did it for a reason. So the more he talked about me, the more I just kind of, you know, kind of— Shrink? Yeah, I just kind of regressed in my spirit, like, you know, very shy. And she looked at him and she said, wait, she said, stop. She said, um, do you not know He's been telling me you're the mother and you do this and you do that. She said, there's a difference between being humble and being disrespectful. And I said, well, what would make it disrespectful? I didn't say anything. She said, you know what would make it disrespectful? Come on. I already know what she's going to say. Go ahead. She said, how dare you stand here with all these accolades? She said, I bet if I was calling you a bitch across the room, you'd be looking up trying to see who said it. This man is telling me all these wonderful accolades and you are fading right in front of my face. No, ma'am, you gonna take it. I want you to look up, look me in my face when he talking about you, because that's you, that's what you did. You should be proud of yourself. Don't, don't, don't check out. Check in, because I could probably put you somewhere. Check in, don't check out. And I was
