Learned this the hard way #raycantgetright #dating #challenge #growthmindset #selfcare

23 Aug 2026 · 2 min

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In this candid YouTube segment, Ray Sorrell reflects on a personal lesson about interacting with individuals who cannot spend time alone and tend to be overly clingy. He describes how such people constantly seek external stimulation—attending every event, staying on their phones, and demanding others' space—because they lack comfort with solitude. Ray explains that this behavior can be exhausting for those who have done personal work, therapy, and value alone time. He advises viewers to recognize clingy tendencies early, especially in dating, and to communicate boundaries from the outset to avoid misunderstandings. He also warns against pretending to tolerate clinginess for the sake of attraction, urging authenticity and discouraging the “GTD” mindset (implied as a superficial coping strategy). The overall message is a cautionary yet supportive call to set clear expectations and stay true to oneself when dealing with people who struggle with being alone.

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Stop scrolling. Unfortunately, I learned this the hard way. It's something about people who aren't able to spend time by themselves. You know what I'm talking about? The people that always have to be outside, have to be at every club. They always on the phone. They're not talking business. They're not talking money. They just always outside. They're at every event. They're at everybody's birthday party, at everybody's wedding, everybody's house party, everybody's reception. So you might be saying, Well, that just means they're popular. Are they popular, or do they not know how to spend time with themselves? It's something about a person who don't know how to spend time with themselves. They are going to bug the hell out of you if you are a person who's done the work, who's done the therapy, and you enjoy your time alone. This does not mean that you don't make space for them. I'm saying they would demand your space Because they don't know what it's like to be by themselves. I mean, even Jesus took time to be by himself. 'Cause I know the disciples was getting on his nerves. Jesus, why is the sky blue? You ever met Moses? Bathsheba was fine, wasn't she? What kind of rock did David really hit Goliath with? Shut the fuck—
shut— did I say shit? No! I— oh shit! Say it again!
Again, this is something I had to learn the hard way. Now, this doesn't mean it's like that for everybody. They might be digging you, they might want to be in your space, be in your space. But some people are naturally clingy. If you are a person who don't like clingy people, make that known at the beginning of the dating process so therefore they won't think you're acting funny. Another thing, don't pretend to be something that you're not. I've seen this before, you know, you act like you really don't mind her being clingy because you're trying to get the draws. Don't do that. Don't GTD. What does GTD stand for?
Got the draws, okay? Love is a choice. It's God's plan.