5 Things that took us from Struggle to Abundance | Lost Jobs | Rebuilt life from ZERO

Can I have a huge standing ovation for my very dear friend, Vanita Siddharth. First of all, Riddhi, I'm so happy that— actually, I didn't know that she doesn't give permission to anybody to change her name. And now, you know, I've not just kept it with Riddhi, Riddhi Lu, whatever comes to my mind, I just talk, I just call her that. And I should tell you this, you know, that I also have been very choosy about bringing people into my inner circle because I've done that before and I've burnt my hands and I've not felt good about it. Like Riddhi said, the conversations I've had with her has helped me think differently, has helped me process emotions differently. And I totally feel, I second what she says about the fact that we are not connected only in this life. We've been together for many lives before. And I already see myself in the eternal world of Radharani as her sister, you know. So yes, that's about, you know, how I feel about her. And you know, as when I saw Riddhi Deorah talking on stage today, I just thought, you 'No, maybe next life if I have a birth, I should have sisters like this.' Then I corrected myself, 'Yaar, kisko wapasana haiyaar? Kisko wapasaa ke A, B, C, D se churu karkhe fir E, P, H mein aake, fir after that,' you know, knowing what you want to do and then living. No, this should be last life. So issi janam mein adopt karoongyaar, I will make myself a place as a sister. I'm the only child, I don't know what it is to have siblings and I just said that on a lighter note. So thank you so much for being here today. I think if there's one word that comes to my mind from yesterday, I've attended this event from the start till now and I just feel it's wow. It's absolutely wow. I feel no difference. Yes, she deserves it. I feel no different from being in an FBR. It's so beautiful right from that. Whole intention setting with the water, and then how God delivers the message that you're not very comfortable with, but whoever makes you feel bad, it's Lord delivering the message. She told me this before she brought it here, by the way. I really needed it. So like she said, drama, all of that, I tell her, and then these things help me so much. And then after that, Rahul's talk, what a powerful talk that was, guys. I mean, I think I relate a lot with him in that front. And then after that, Prashanti's talk, and the woman after that, all of that was so beautiful. And This morning, Pallavi starting the whole call with that we are all the suns, not the S-O-N but the S-U-Ns, and we got to breed more of that in our lives. That was beautiful. And I think my best biggest takeaway here was the family. They all coming and, you know, talking here. So I have a question before I, you know, go on with what I've come here for. How many of you would like to have mother-in-laws like Madam, seriously, you know, I mean, thankfully I have been blessed with a good family, but why do you think all the serials, this Hindi serials, what does it thrive on? The plot is saas and bahu, bahu and saas, that's it, right? So Riddhi Deorah, next line of business is not just helping mothers become mothers, but mother-in-laws become like what you have made yours or how she is. I think it's such a blessing, such a blessing. Truly, I pray to God that this family always is together in the eternal world as well, and they just always are flooded with abundant happiness and harmony and prosperity and everything that they want. You know, I just feel so, so beautiful. Yeah, so coming to what I have come here for, I mean, I've been carried away with all this. So I think for me, it's like how Rahul said, 5 Fs. Just shout out the 5 Fs, please. What's the first F? Yeah. What's the second? Faith. Yes. And family, right? So I have for you today 5 Ss. S, okay? Are you guys ready for it? Type ready. Ah, see, type, type is coming. So I've just I want to just tell you guys my story in the form of 5 S's and the lessons I've learnt, which could help, which has helped me bring in a lot of abundance in my life, of happiness, of prosperity, of harmony in my relationships, of just living a better version of myself. So are you guys ready for the 5 S's? Yes. Okay. So the S number 1 is spirituality. Okay. Spirituality according to me is the foundation, like it is something that, that all of us have within us, but it takes some time for it to get awakened. Yeah, I'll tell you how it happened in my life. So as a child, I was brought up in a nice family. My dad is a chartered accountant, you know, lived a very comfortable life. I'm the only child, so everything, all attention on me, all eyes on me, no need of sharing, nothing. I ask, before I ask, it's in my house. So I have lived a very comfortable life as a child, and then I found Sid. We both found each other in a retreat, and then that was also beautiful. I am very grateful for that. And after that, things were going well. So until then, although I have been raised in a family that was spiritually very strong, but I didn't need, I did not need, I didn't feel the necessity to go and call God for anything. Any help. I was just happy, enjoying my life. And then suddenly, asa hota na ek baat tora jhatka milne se, hamko we remember yaar, koi hai, somebody is above us, we have to take help from there. Similar thing happened to me. So as time passed, you know, Sid was working in a job, I was also doing a job in Dell, and then we were just having big dreams. I would say I was the one having big dreams and Sid was the one who felt, even if I have 50,000 rupees, I can be happy playing mridanga in a temple and I can just, you know, eat khichadi, that's it. He had no big dreams, okay? He was very happy and contented for the person that he was. But on the other hand, I was like, "Yaar, ye kaisa hoga?" We have to live a very, very prosperous and abundant, and I had a lot of dreams, okay? And suddenly when I was pregnant with my first child, like all of you, maybe whoever is in ILH will know that Sid suddenly tells me, "Aah, job is gone." Then what is the next natural step would be, okay, go find another job, right? And he's like, no, I'm going to do a business, that's it. And in my life, my dad has been a chartered accountant all his life, and the minute he started business, everything went. We lost all our money only in business. So it was a big jhatka for me. Arey, business naam kaise hai? No way that you can do business. We are not business people. You better do a job. He said, no, no, no, I'll do business, you know. And then somehow I was little uncomfortable, and luckily his uncle and aunt, they were already good in business, and his aunt wanted to start a digital marketing agency. So 7 years he spent in that. I was very happy, ki wow, at least something. No, no job, it's okay, at least agency. 7 years went, agency mein sab, he's working with Jack Canfield and Robert Kiyosaki and All these big names, but bank mein kuch paisa nahi hai. And I am wondering here, what are you doing? You are working so much and it is not amounting in the bank. And then he said, no, no, it will work, it's okay, we will see, we will see. And then I started thinking, some magic has to happen. Something has to happen and our lives should change. I don't know what, because I don't have a degree, I am only a graduate, B.Com graduate, Siddhi is only a sound engineer. We are not from Cambridge and London School of Economics like Riddhi, okay? If Riddhi can go today and get a job, they will headhunt her. But we don't have that, right? So whatever job was there, I wanted him to cling on to it and do something that can feed us, that basic necessities. And one day, one magic happened. How many of you want to know what's the magic? Say magic. Magic. Right. One day, Sid gets a call from Flipkart. Flipkart, you know how big the agency is. This guy has not applied for any job. They just created a position for him. They headhunted him. And they said, "We are going to give you 36 lakhs per year." This is in 2013. How many of you feel 36 lakhs per year in 2013 is a big amount? 3 lakhs per month, life is jingalala. I am like seeing stars. Wow! All my financial problems are over. Idhar se mera pura sikhsari lagne wala hai mujhe aur kuch ki, you know, I don't have any fears. And you know what Sid says? He tells me this, and when you tell somebody a good news, usko celebrate karna hai na? What is the next step? Celebrating. This guy takes that offer letter and pshh, he fodifies it, he tears it in front of my eyes. And I'm like, what is wrong with you? Should I call an astrologer or do you need some counseling sessions? Because this is a magic that's happened. 3 lakhs from where? They have seen value and you just take it. And you know what Sid did? You guys want to know what he did? 'Take whatever I'm saying from here and throw it out of here. What I will say will go here, throw it.' I think he's bred that in Riddhi and all the other people in ILH, you know. But he was very sure that whatever he's thinking of is going to happen and it's going to become good. But I didn't know. No, I'm a mother of a small child and I'm not educated to go out. If I was earning money like Riddhi, I would have said, 'Ya tum jo karna hai, karo. Main sab samalungi, no need, don't worry, I will take care.' 'But I don't have that and my—' So we've all struggled and he kept doing this. And at that time I remembered there is somebody called God. And if there is one person who can change your destiny, who is it? God! If there is one person that can completely, you know, change, turn tables, you know, like 'Asman or Zamin ka Farak'— who can bring it? Right? So that's when I just caught on. Yaar, abhi toh idhar se idhar jaa rahi hai, this guy is not going to listen. Now I better catch on to God. I told, okay, God, you gave me a miracle. This guy is not taking it. At least I pray. I don't know what Siddhi is doing, I don't know, but please make it work. Please. At least you should know what to ask, no? I didn't know what, what I'm asking for. I just said, jo karr rahi hai, karrne do likin, please make it work. That's it. And then I started doing Vaibhav Lakshmi Puja, I started doing my prayers, and whenever I felt stuck, whenever I felt lonely, whenever I felt like there's nobody to hear, like Sid won't hear what I'm saying, he's so busy in his work, I'll just catch on to God, okay? And I've learned 3 things from this. What do you guys want? Are you ready to hear the 3 lessons I've learned from? Yes! So the first is, I have a question to ask you. If you had to take your children to see animals, Would you take them to a jungle and take them in a— for a walk there, or would you take them to a zoo? You take them to jungle, not Masai Mara. I'm saying an open forest where there is no barricades, nothing. You go there, a lion can eat you also. Zoo, right? Why? Safe. So I realized that when you take shelter of the Lord And when you pray, when you believe in what his plan is for you, it is like walking in a zoo. Animals are in a cage, you are outside, and you are protected, and you still have fun. Yeah, so that's one thing. And the second thing I learned was that it is only God who can help you reach the highest potential in your life. I'll give you an example. Suppose you have an attic in your house, you want to clean it. With your height, can you achieve? Can you just put your hand up and clean? What do you use for it? Ladder. So when you climb on the ladder, you can easily reach the height, right? So according to me, that God is the ladder. With your potential, there is a limit that you can reach, but if you have the surrender in Lord, in God, he can help you reach that highest potential. For how many of you that was powerful, these two realizations? Thank you. So this is what I learned. This is what spirituality taught me over the years. And then now that goes to the second S. Ask me, what is the second S? It is support. Support. I'll tell you how this has happened. I have two stories in this. The first is When both of us were in the lowest point of our lives, like I told you, Sid didn't want to go to a job and I did not know what to do. It was my parents, my mom and dad, that came forward and they said, "Beta, jo karna hai karo, we'll take care." I think that belief and faith, you know, my dad was a chartered accountant, immediately he took up a job in Bangalore for 3 years, 4 years, fully he supported us and and my mom, without her unwavering help in taking— see, now I have staff at home for morning and night babysitting and all of that. That's why we both are here. I have a 1-year-old child at home. But back then, I didn't have the resources to afford. So it was my mom that did everything, like from kitchen to the child to, you know, because my mind was fully anxious, ki kya hone wala, next how am I going to get, what's going to happen to our life, how is this, is this thing going to work or not. So I think support has been like the most important reason why whatever was happening in our life has happened. That's one part. Okay? So thank you mom! Thank you dad for what you've done. And here is a hack— okay, here is a hack you guys can apply it in your lives. So after me bakk bak bak bak bak bak bak bak bak and sit listening and throwing it out of this ear, One day I saw an advertisement in the paper and the advertisement was, "6 students will be selected in the Music Academy Chennai for a 3-year advanced course with training from the top of the top." Like how you feel Jack Canfield, Robert Kiyosaki, like that in Carnatic industry, the bigwigs will train only 6 students. Apply now. And this course is happening where? In Chennai. We are in Bangalore. Sid's company is in Bangalore. He is doing digital agency. 35 people are working under him. He is partnering with his aunt and there are a lot of dynamics here. It's not logically possible for a person to move from Bangalore to Chennai for an ad like this. I told Sid, I want to go. He said, how will you go? I said, I will go. I don't know. I will go. My parents will come. I will go. He said, I cannot go without you. I will also come with Rishabh. We three will go. So that according to me was like a very big, you know, wake-up call. Like, in spite of me, you know, continuously shouting at him, when it was a chance for me to really do something which I wanted, he was ready to let everything off and then just say, "Come, let's go." That's it. Then I asked him, "What about your work?" He said, "I'll figure that out. You want to do this, you come, we'll go." So I really felt that as a person, he is beautiful, no doubt. I can't be like him. But here's the hack, okay? Now, if I think about it, it was a very intelligent thing that he took because 3 years of his life he got free because I was busy in my music. I'll get up at 7:30, I'll go to college, I'll come at 12:30, 1 hour with my child, I go for concerts, 4, I come at 10:30 in the night. 7:30 se 10:30 tak mera shakalini dekna hai, main busy hoon. And he had that 3 years for himself, guys. So if you want to succeed in your life and you have a very tough spouse like me, find out what that spouse wants to do and give that 3 years. Jaao karo. So I think it has worked so beautifully and now, you know, that's the same kind of environment we love to give our children also and I know you are learning a lot about it. Just trust your kids, give them the space. Support gives birth to space. And when you have the space to do what you want without any fear and without any, you know, constant mind chatter, you can really achieve your highest potential, right? So that's what we do for our kids also. We just, we don't send them to a regular school. They go to alternate school. My son learns horse riding and carpentry, and he learns weaving and all these things. Now anybody asks, "Taekwondo se kya hone wala hai?" Why, why are you sending him for camps to Malaysia for taekwondo? But now, in olden days, they'll say, okay, engineer banna hai, doctor banna hai, lawyer banna hai. But do you think today that only by being engineer, doctor, lawyer, you can be successful? Correct. So let us give that opportunity to our children to explore whatever they want, because monetizing has become the most easiest thing. You agree, right? From Riddhi's teaching you, it's become the most easiest skill ever. So that support is the second one. And the third S, what is the third S? Ask me, what's the third S? Third S is synchronicity. So the synchronicity, you know when it happened? I've seen Sid working behind a laptop for 10 years. He's doing Zoom call after Zoom call after Zoom call. He'll go in the room at 10 o'clock and come out at 10 in the night. I don't even know what he's doing. You're not feeling hungry or what? You don't want to sleep or what? You don't want to go out and have some fun or what? What is this? I used to ask him and he's like, no, no, I'm just working with my community. And in my mind I'm thinking, community, what is community? He's not meeting anybody also, he's not talking, only simply computer, what community can be built? And anybody asks me, have you guys ever faced this? If somebody asks you, what do you do? How do you answer that question? What does your husband do? I don't know. I'll say he's in IT. That's it. You know, that's the easiest way. IT mein kya? Pata nahi mujhe. And then when I went to our first Freedom Business Retreat, like how you all are sitting here in EPH, I saw for the first time offline of what Sid had been building in 10 years. That one event was enough for me to get completely in sync. I cried. I cried unstoppably seeing the way the people were talking and their stories and how much of lives he has changed. So many hours sitting in front of a computer. That's when I told Sid, "Now how do I help you?" You know, I told him sorry so many times. I don't even know how many times I've said sorry. He said, "No, no, don't say sorry. If you'd not put the chabi and if you didn't put the fire under my ass, I wouldn't be where I am today." So somebody asked me a joke. 'What is the—' It's a question, you know, it's a joke. So one child is asking a parent, 'Why the plane is taking like, you know, so long to take off and then go up, whereas rocket like zoop it goes, why?' So the joke is that the rocket has fire under his ass, that's why it's going up. So Sid, I think, feels I am the— I have been that fuel and that fire to make him go where he is, and he says, thank you so much for all that nagging things you did in my life. And, and ever since that FBR happened, I think we've been discussing our goals and we have been aligning ourselves. Synchronicity is nothing but it gives birth to alignment, like support and space, synchronicity and alignment. And imagine if one person is doing everything and it's going at such a high speed, if two people partner, two most— two people who love each other most, if they both partner in this journey, and then they take it forward. Do you agree that it's a rocket after that? Yes. Yeah. So I think this alignment and this goal setting and this vision— one more thing which I heard one of my mentors say is that when two people are in love, they don't have to keep seeing each other's eyes. It's not two eyes looking at each other. It is two pairs of eyes looking in the same direction. That is true love. You know, this is what I learned from one of my mentors, and I think And we both are now like that. We both really, I mean, if he says something, I will 10x that. No, no, how can it be better? How can you make it better? How can you, you know, make this outcome? So I think that synchronicity has played a huge role and it has helped us move, you know, beyond what we expected in our lives. And that comes to the fourth S. The fourth S, ask me what's the fourth S? The fourth S is systems. How many of you have heard systems work, people fail? You all are familiar with that, right? Absolutely. So whatever you're doing, right, my formula for systems is not just sit doing an ILH, but already doing an EPH, but in your own homes, if you can delegate whatever is not your highest value. Like Dr. John Demartini says, always only do whatever is your highest value, and Delegate everything else that you don't resonate with. You continue focusing only on that. So whether it is housework, cooking, babysitting, all of that— I'm not saying don't spend time with your children, but the diaper changes and all of that, if it's not something that you want to really do, delegate everything that, that is not adding value and just stick to only what you feel you're good at and continue doing that and put systems across for everything. Even if you have house help, Don't just tell them, "Ye ye ye karna." Monday ko ye karna hai, Tuesday ko ye karna hai, Wednesday ko ye karna hai. Then they have the map instead of just overall. So I've put a proper system for my home care. I've put a proper system for finances. Like, we all are making a lot of money, agreed? Now, if we just keep making money and keep enjoying and splurging, what will be the end result of it? We'll be always that, that old, more month than money. When I was struggling, the money will get over half the month and remaining 15 days I am looking at stars, ek kya karo, baaki 5 din mein ek next salary aneeta kya toh do. So I think if we have systems like for charities, for taxes, for our wealth, for our enjoyment, all of that, just put a system for it. My system is called TWCGO. Just shout TWCGO. TWCGO. T stands for taxes, W stands for wealth, W stands for wealth, C stands for charity, G stands for general, and O for operations. Operations mein jo business ka expenses hai usmein aado. General mein jo ghar ka expenses usmein aado. Then your charities, whatever charity you believe in, causes you believe in, temples you believe in, mosques, church, doesn't matter. Just put the charities inside the C bracket. W is your wealth. Invest in metals, invest in real estate, invest in mutual funds. Okay, keep investing. And the first is taxes. I just wish Dubai ke tarah hum ko taxes nahi pay karna ratai, because it's so much of a heart pain every year when I have to take crores of money and pay it out for nothing in return, you know. So that's nothing we can't— we can't— Sid always says, only do talk about what you have control over and leave the rest. So just manage your systems well. Systems really help you progress. Okay, systems is the fuel again. And that brings me to the last S. Ask me, what's the last S? What does EPH stand for? What is the word with S that EPS— give yourselves a big round of applause for that. Yes, service. So according to me, after a point of time when all your dreams are realized, when all your wishes come true, I think you should move to a point where you do whatever you are doing, whether it's taking care of your child, whether it is taking care of your parents, or whether it is building a business, as a service to God. Because the frequency of the soul is peace. Soul is always vibrating at a frequency of peace. And what is the nature? The nature of the soul is to serve. So we are either serving our bosses, we are serving our husbands, we are serving our children, we are serving our community. Whether you like it or not, you are serving, right? You have to serve. That's how it is. But now let us consciously do it, because the minute we surrender whatever we are doing, right, if we let the Divine act, then our results are exponential. What you will get back By taking everything as a service is something you will always— who, how many of you like pleasant surprises? Yeah, give me a bigger yes. How many of you like pleasant surprises? So if suppose you tell God you want X something, and if God gives you 100x of that, how would you feel? Amazing, right? So when you do service, when you do devotional service, when you chant, like what she, what Riddhi Deorah is doing is Brilliant! Chanting, reading the Bhagavatam, in any faith that you are, whatever it is, but just keeping God in the center. Do everything with Him being the center and entrust it to Him. See, tell Him that, dekho, even today before I came on stage, I told Riddhi, I don't know what I'm going to speak. I don't know. I told God, you come on my tongue, you sit and talk, mujhe hai pata nahi kya hone wala hai. That's it. So if you entrust it to God, Thank you. Then your life becomes really exponential and you get lots and lots and lots of pleasant surprises. Okay, so that is how it is. That's how the 5 S's— let me just tell you the 5 S's again. The first S is spirituality. The second is support. Yes. The third is— yes, systems. Yes, perfect. Service. Yes, yes. So spirituality, support systems, synchronicity, and service. Yeah, so that's it from me, guys. Thank you so much for your time. Thank you for hearing me out. Thank you, Riddhi.