When kids say "I hate you," they're usually overwhelmed and don't have words for big feelings yet. Stay calm, validate what they're experiencing, and offer connection. You're teaching them how to handle emotions.
If your child says I hate you, this is what you can do. They don't mean it the way it sounds. What they really trying to say is I am overwhelmed, I am emotionally charged, I don't know how to handle this feeling and I need help. This is what they really need. Their brain is still developing the ability to manage big emotions so when they feel powerless the words just come out. They don't really mean it. So what can you do? Instead of reacting with hurt or anger, try staying calm. Say something like this, I hear you. It sounds like you're really upset right now and I'm here when you're ready. It's not about accepting what they say. It's about seeing the emotion underneath the words. Because behind I hate you what your child truly wants is connection and support and and the way you respond now will teach your child how to respond to others tomorrow.
5 Emotional Needs Every Child Has | Raise Emotionally Healthy Children | Riddhi Deorah
