Riddhi Deorah helps a parent decide whether to move her class 7 son to a distant, reputed school. She weighs the 40 km commute against academic pressure, extracurricular opportunities, and whether the child is ready to adjust to a new social circle.
Questions this video answers
40 kilometers
Admission in class 6 or switching in class 7 (discussion centers on class six vs class seven).
Leaves at 7:30 AM and returns around quarter to four (3:45 PM)
Ma', am, he is in CBSE board and 58 students in his class. So can I change the board? Yeah. Can I change the school?
Class seven, you can change of course.
Class seven.
It depends on him also. See, sometimes what happens, children don't want to change, see. And in this age group you have to take his permission and all of that. And you have to be a little empathetic because they have friends.
Yeah.
You know, when they switch, adjusting can become a little problem. Because by 7, the new school that you'll be shifting him into, they'll also have their circles of circle of friends. Right.
But he has no problem, ma', am, in changing the school. But one school, it is a 40km distance and it is a good, good school. But he is getting admission in one previous class, ma'. Am, sixth class. So should I get admission in class sixth? Yeah, yeah.
Class six, no problem. One year does not really matter in the long run. We give too much stress. That one year waste Ojaga and all of that does not matter as long as your child is being able to adjust better. I think that would be a nicer idea. School is saying that, you know, it would be easier for him at six. They must have thought something and then suggested class six. So I think that would be better. Because in six actually a lot of new subjects are introduced. So I think it would be easier for him. And if the school is ready to take him in six, then you don't have a choice. Also you'll have to do what they want.
Okay, ma', am, but there is no time because of distance is 40 kilometers. So he. He goes at o' clock in the morning and four o' clock in reach at four o' clock in the evening. So ma', am, extracurricular activities and all date ma', am.
Extracurricular activities near school.
Cricket or vasa drum. Here ma', am, sixth class means educational.
You will not get the whole sky ever. So you have to prioritize what is it that you want. So if you feel that extracurricular is important then you choose a different school. Or you choose a school where they are focused on extracurricular plus activity. Academics. Both like the school that I'm sending my son to. They are focused on everything. They have play time, reading time and sleep time. Break time. So again, you know. But it's again same timing. He leaves at 7:30 and he comes back at around quarter to four. 3:30, quarter to four. So one hour lesser in the morning. But again the standard is also class is also lesser. Sakshi I'll not be able to share the school just for security reasons. But you know, if you ask me on chat, I'll tell you separately. Just, you know, this gets recorded. So that's why. So I. I will just tell you one thing that you know, just pick what you feel is right for your child. There's no right school, wrong school. In fact, according to me, all school is wrong school. But since we don't have an option and we have to send our children to a school. So you choose. What is more, see, if your child is not too much into academics, you don't want him to be in an environment where there is too much academic pressure. Because from what you shared, he's not too much into academics. So, you know, taking him from one school and shifting him to another with a similar environment and pressure, I don't think it would make any sense. So see if you can put him in a different format, like a Montessori, where he gets to pursue his passion and also give exams and all of that.
So ma', am.
If he's in class one or two, you can still tell him what to do. But class like class seven, you have to ask your child.
But he always tell me.
If you are okay with it, then let's plan. But still you want to involve him in the decision making. It's his life, right? See, I'll tell you. As mothers, we are coaches. And as coaches, the most important thing is never make the decision for somebody. Why? Because you. You can give ideas, you can give suggestions, but the decision has to come from your child. Or let's say if you. I'm talking to you. The decision has to come from you, Kavita. Because if I make the decision for you, maybe it is a good decision, right? And you're very happy. But there is also a 1% chance that it is not the best decision for you. And if you are going through a tough life, you will keep blaming me that because of Riddhi Mary life, SEO Gaia. So what happens is you get karmically tied to the process that the other person is going through if you make decisions. So that's why in coaching, you never make the decision for somebody else. You can give them options. You can tell them that, you know, these are the things that you should look at exactly what I'm doing with you right now. But I'm not going to tell you.
Right?
Make a list of why are you pulling him out? And then accordingly, you pick.
