I Needed this more than my Child | Supermom Spotlight Sonal| Riddhi Deorah

Growth begins when we stop doubting ourselves and start believing. Our next speaker brings lived experience, warmth, and authenticity.

She's a mother, working professional, coach, and committed to personal growth, conscious parenting, and she wants to help heal people through her live real examples. Her superpower is helping people feel seen, understood, little less alone.

Please welcome our own Sona Sapra. Okay, now I'm a little nervous, guys. So before I start, I want to ask each one of you Who am I trying to be a good mother or a perfect mother? Don't be. So my journey also started with this line that I want to be the perfect mother to my child, but ऐसा कभी होता नहीं है, right? So I'll tell you first how I met Riddhi. It's a Weird story, but yeah, I will share. So first, I'll— you can see me first because I believe in self-love. That's what I discovered in EPH. Yeah, so life before EPH, I had a lot of ambitions since my childhood. I was Very ambitious, very confident and very stubborn. If I want something, I had to get it. चाहे मुझे घर पे दो महीने hunger strike पे जाना पड़े, मैंने किया है ये सब। And the best thing is कि मुझे सब पता मुझे लगता था कि मुझे सब पता है। But then जब life hit करती है, चुली में समझ में आता है कि तुझे बहुत कुछ सीखना बाकी है। Right? So my journey in EP started. I saw one Instagram story from one of my cousins, and she just mentioned, "Thank you, Riddhi, for changing my life," and she just posted her gratitude letter. I had no idea who Riddhi was, and then I called her.

Who is she?

She said, "She changed my life." I said, "Okay, fine. Give me her number." She gave me Kanak's number, and that time I was going through a very, very bad phase. That was postpartum depression, and I called Kanak. I don't know what all membership you have. जो भी highest paid है वो दे दो। So she said, "No, no, we have a process. I'll send you a link. Attend this master class, and then you have to join." I was like I am coming paying you आप बोल रहे हो मुझे पैसे ही नहीं चाहिए and that day मुझे समझ में तो आया कि यार ये community पैसों के लिए या कुछ scam तो नहीं है right because family तो first go में कभी भी believe करेगी ही नहीं right उस दिन मैंने कनक को बोला और मैंने next day ही platinum gold join किया और next showcase platinum so then सबसे बड़ा problem self doubt यानी मुझसे हो पाएगा because I'm a working mother who all are working mothers right so हमलोग पूरा दिन timing ही करते रहते हैं right बच्चे का time family का time office का time घर का time खुद के learnings कर पाएंगे नहीं कर पाएंगे पूरा दिन यही चलता है We are always running on time, right? So सबसे बड़ा issue था कि मैं कर पाऊँगी या नहीं कर पाऊँगी। Because when you become mother, सबसे पहले doubt खुद पे आता है, right? And then procrastination. कौन-कौन हैं यहाँ पे procrastinators? The biggest one. I knew that since my childhood, जब भी मैं कुछ start करती हूँ खत्म नहीं होता मुझसे कभी भी। और मैं इस चीज़ को accept भी नहीं कर पाती थी। Right now I'm standing on stage and telling you guys and accepting this, it takes lot of courage, right? So I took that courage today to share that नहीं हो पाता था मुझसे। And then how I overcome surrender? Who all thinks that एक बार सरेंडर करके देख लेते क्या पता हो जाए मैंने भी डाउटफुल होके स्टार्ट किया था मैं करके देख लूँ कि हो जाएगा ठीक है नहीं होगा तो जहाँ है वहाँ तो है ही यहाँ से तो आगे वैसे भी नहीं बढ़ पा रहे हैं right that's how I started I just thought कि ये जो है ना मुझे नहीं पता I'll be just doing one thing that I'll be good student because I always heard from her She is the best student. मुझे लगा शायद पता नहीं best coach बन पाऊँगी या नहीं, but उनकी तरह best student तो बन जाऊँगी। That's how I started. And the second thing is community. This community has such a power. I'm I'm losing words because community में इतनी power है कि मुझे समझ नहीं आ रहा कौन सा word right है। तो इस community के वजह से I starting my coaching. There are a lot of friends who calls me and pushes me. कब start कर रही है? कब को first call ले रही है? WhatsApp community जो बनाया कि नहीं बनाया? That's how started my own things. And the fourth thing, leadership. किन-किन लोगों ने अभी leadership already try कर लिया है? And do you think it's helping you guys? Yes. That's great. I can feel you. That was the only thing Which gave me courage to live again. It was not about कि मेरी life बहुत sadness थी, नहीं थी, बहुत खुशियाँ हैं हमेशा से। कभी कुछ problem नहीं है। मैं हमेशा बोलती हूँ कि दीदी मेरे पास story भी नहीं है, मेरे पास पैसे थे, मैंने एक दिन में पैसे कर दिए, सब कुछ कर दिया, मेरे पास story ही नहीं है बताने के लिए। क्या बताऊँ मैं? But यहाँ से जो journey शुरू हुई, वह I started empathizing with people. That is the biggest worth I feel that now I have. Earlier, I used to, you know, we all do judgments. Now, I don't do that at all. When somebody is telling me, I'll just empathize and I'll try to help. That's how the thing has started and the growth journey. Hope. I found my purpose when I came into the leadership journey, because when we as a leader, super leader, super coach, super graduate call mothers and you know talk to them, then they are like, "Sonal, because of you, मैं platinum में आ गई. Sonal, आपकी वजह से life change हो रही है. तो मुझे लगा कि हमें इनके लिए अगर इतना serve कर सकते हैं, then why not I can also go and start something?" You know, and then I can help mothers. And how? That's how my purpose built it. And then coaching. So my coaching journey didn't started with any mother. I always had a thing. हम लोग पूरा दिन mothers के बारे में बात कर रहे हैं, तो I am also attracting mothers, mothers. But my first client was single father. And he was forty five year old orthopedic surgeon from South Africa. I when I used to talk to him, I used to shiver. Then एक ही चीज़ करती थी मैं call पे जाने से पहले इनका कोई एक class देखती थी, वही copy paste जाके उसको समझा देती थी। क्योंकि मुझे पता था क्या करना है, बस इतना पता था कि कुछ And then I, from this I got to know healing is not only, you know, gender-specific. It's for human being. And then I started connecting with each and every human, not just mothers. And then in-law. This is funny story. I am a working woman from last 11 years. Working as a designer, I'm currently working as a manager. इतने पैसे नहीं कमाया जो मैंने दो हफ्ते की कोचिंग में कमाया यहाँ पे। I was I half of my salary only for giving four hours a week. Four hours a week and half of my salary was covered. And it was only fifteen days of me. Hurt my coaching journey. Then, top lessons from my journey. I think when I started, I thought I'm starting for my child, but I realized the biggest support needed was for me. Then I started to heal. I have a full of stories, but I can't share this because we have less time. But I want to just cut it short, guys. If you feel that you are here for your child, please forget about it. Be here for yourself. The more you heal yourself, the less you have to work on your child. And that particular line I heard in the first ever showcase I came to, and that was stuck with me till late. Whenever I, you know, met with anyone or met, you know, in going arguments with even in with my husband, I always say this: Sonal, heal yourself. Heal yourself. It's okay. He's your husband. You're aware. It's okay. I keep telling myself. I keep telling myself that कर लेगा कुछ तरह उसको पता नहीं है अभी learning में कर रहा है मैं तो कर रही हूँ ना मैं तो अपने आप को ठीक कर सकती हूँ, उसको नहीं पता है। पचारा कैसे करे? इतने टाइम से एक सेट ऑफ पैटर्न में रहा है, right? And then consistency I've already talked about and then self. Oh my god! I think self connection. हम लोग अपना जॉब करते-करते बहुत मैकेनिकल हो जाते हैं लाइफ में। Have you all faced it? इतने मैकेनिकल हो जाते हैं कि पता ही नहीं है कि खुद के लिए भी कुछ टाइम निकालना है। रोबोट, yes the right word you said। वही शायद मेरे साथ हो रहा था 11 साल से। मैंने सब अचीव कर लिया लाइफ में, अच्छा करियर चल रहा था, अच्छी फैमिली थी, सब कुछ अच्छा हो रहा था। बचपन के दोस्त से शादी भी हो गई, जिससे मुझे पता था नहीं हो पाएगी शायद। सब हो लेकिन एक चीज नहीं हो पा रही थी खुद से प्यार। वो मैंने सीख लिया इनसे। सिंपल। नहीं पता है तो सीख लो। And then three power pills: learning again। उनको नहीं पता है, लोगों को नहीं पता है। आप learn कर लो, सीख लो हो जाएगा। मैंने करके देख लिया, आप लोगों से भी हो जाएगा। An inner child। This was the biggest thing for me when I was going through postpartum. I, I felt that I have lost myself somewhere. There was a point when I do not wanted to touch my child. I was taking pills, consulting some Instagram doctor, जो मुझे पता भी नहीं genuine है कि नहीं है। And then I realized कि ठीक है, कोई बात नहीं। अभी ये भी ट्राय कर ले, अभी रिद्धि को भी ट्राय कर लेते हैं। I was still testing myself, testing the all the things कि कुछ तो काम कर ही जाएगा। But ultimately सो ज़्यादा जाने के बाद काम एक ही चीज़ करी। All thanks to you for giving me that and regulation. Guys regulate yourself. I want to talk like long long पैरास which I have prepared. But yeah, 3 things I like about my mentor. I think I love her. I don't know if I have to mention I like her. I love each and everything that she does for us. I think we all do that, right? The first thing is her simplicity. I have a very small story to share. When I went to Goa event— sorry, I know I'm out of time, but एक छोटी सी। I met her after the for the crew meeting after the event. When I saw her, I didn't show to her कि मैं ऐसे मेरे mind में चल रहा हूँ। I was very spectacle about that। और मैं देख रहा हूँ क्या ये भी तो हमारे से same pajama पहन के खड़ी हैं मस्त जुड़ा-वुड़ा है कोई दिक्कत ही नहीं है। मतलब इतना क्या मतलब stage पे देख रहे हैं she looks so graceful, so divine। और वहाँ से I picked that thing। मुझे हमेशा से लगता था मैं वीडियो बनाने के लिए इतना ज़्यादा प्रॉब्लम होती थी पहले कि मैं हमेशा परफेक्ट जिस दिन सिर दूँगी तभी वीडियो बनाऊँगी नहीं वीडियो नहीं बनाऊँगी। किसके से ज़्यादा होता है? और इसी वजह से वीडियो ही नहीं बना पा रहे हैं। ड्रेस करना शुर वहीं से आ जाएगा सब कुछ सब कुछ हो जाएगा। That's the one thing I noticed and I carried with me and from that day till now सिर्फ दुल्हन नहीं दुल्हन मैं वीडियो बना लेती हूँ जब वो कर सकते हैं तो मैं तो कर ही लूँगी। Just copy and mentor for everything copy and mentor client आ रहा है नहीं समझ में आ रहा है एक दिन एक घंटा पहले बैठ के कोई वीडियो देख लो जाके उसको सुना दो Death spirituality. I think बचपन से मैं बहुत spiritual थी, but जब job में आते हैं again थोड़ा mind robotic हो जाता है, भगवान को ही भूल जाते हैं, है ना? और वो बोलते हैं ना कि लोग तो भगवान से भी दुखी हैं, तो फिर मैं तो चीज ही क्या हूँ? Right? तो मेरे को कुछ जब भी कोई ऐसे कुछ बात हो जाती थी, मुझे कोई सुनाते थे, मैं बोलती हूँ यार छोटी चीजों कोई नहीं सुना लो, right? तो अभी धीरे-धीरे समझ में आया कि actually spirituality कितनी माटा करती है life में। Now my two year old child says Radha naam every single day with me. Two year old who doesn't even speak, he only speaks for mama Radha. And the third one scene, this is my most favorite. How many of you feel कि EPH आने से पहले ना कोई देखता ही नहीं था हमें या हम we we couldn't feel that you know somebody is looking up to us or we used to feel like यार we are also somewhere or somebody at the home but in this community she made us feel like we we are seen like we are somebody mothers are calling each other loving each other you know hugging each other What else we need? If women support women, nothing can break that. And that's what she has built. Thank you so much. And thank you, guys.

All right, was it a wonderful day? I have one last thing for you to do. How many of you carrying cello tape? Can I request you to take it out, cut, and put on your mouth? Seriously, I'm not joking. Let's do it. We leave with the tape quickly. One, I'm going to count till five. Okay, one, two, very fast, three, four. Help your friend if you are they don't have tape. Give some tape. Four, five. So here's why I've taped you, or you have taped yourself. The minute you step out of this room, I'm not joking. The minute you step out of this room, you'll hear sounds. पूरे दिन बर्बाद करके आई है। बच्चा रो रहा है। You were not there. You have to ask me how difficult it was for me. All of this is a waste of time. When will you start making money? You've only been investing, investing, investing. When are you going to do something? You're always sitting with the laptop. ये सबसे कुछ नहीं होगा। And then you know what you have to do. Exactly what you're doing right now. This is what you have to do. Imagine there is a tip and you're just going to smile at— not— nobody's going to fight, nobody's going to explain, nobody's going to expect them to understand. You will quietly continue to do the work, right? Because if you want to be heard, that's the only recipe. Because if you start wasting time talking, explaining, defending, fighting, speaking, setting high expectations, मैं एक दिन ये करके दिखाऊंगी। No, quietly do the work, and the only people you speak to are the people you wish to serve. So I only speak with you guys. Like, honestly, this is an honest confession, I barely speak. The maximum I speak is here. You can remove the tape. I did it because I want you to anchor this, because now it will stay with you. It's a simple thing, but how many of you think this was powerful? Now one last activity before they throw us out because we have exceeded the time. All of you have sketch pen?

Yes.

Now you have to find a partner and you have to draw something on their hand. Okay, very quickly you have to draw something and then we'll go out. There's some tea and snacks. We'll quickly grab tea, snacks, and then we'll proceed. But before that, we are all going to draw something as a memory or as a love or whatever, whatever you want, just as a token. Or you can write your message, whatever. The crew will be giving all of you a chit. This is your divine message. All of you put a message in the morning. Now we've mixed up all the messages. Now you will get a divine message for yourself. All right, did you have fun today? Are you feeling relaxed? Are you feeling inspired? Are the weeds lesser? Seriously lesser? Is the flower blooming? Are you shining? Are you going to serve a lot of people once you step out? We have less time, EPH moms.

Yeah, start.

Your name?

Hi, uh, I'm Niveita.

Hi, Niveita.

Hi everyone, and this is a poem, uh, self-written just now for Riddhi ma'am, Rahul sir, and EPH.

Where is Rahul?

Yeah, if he's not here, then please record. You can start, but you start, Riddhi ma'am. मुझे खुद से वापस से मिलवाया है आपने। खो रही थी मैं जिसे अपने गुस्से के कारण उस बेटी को वापस से फेवरेट मॉम उस बेटी के लिए मुझे बनाया है आपने। खुद को पहले नरिश करो तबी सबको सर्व कर पाओगी य यह सब यह बताया है आपने अपने हालातों को कोसते हुए घुल रही थी मैं अपने हालातों को कोसते हुए घुल रही थी मैं मुझे कृष्णा भक्ति और राधा शक्ति से मिलवाया है आपने राहुल सर मेरी शादी को टूटने से बचाया है आपने पार्टनर को अनकंडीशनल सपोर्ट का मतलब समझाया है आपने फाइनेंशियल सपोर्ट मांगने की जगह इमोशनल सपोर्ट देना सिखलाया है आपने। किन शब्दों में करूँ? आप दोनों और ईपीएच का शुक्रिया। कम्युनिटी सपोर्ट की ताकत से मिलवाया है आपने। थैंक यू मैम, थैंक यू सर, थैंक यू ईपीएच, थैंक यू सो मच। Amazing, wow, wow.

Love it.