I Was Just a Pot That Could Only Make Tea - My said to me|SuperMom|Neelam|Riddhi Deorah

Of course, the journey was not easy. There was so many concerns, like money concerns, time concern, being a mother, and fear of visibility, fear of judgment. जो भरा रहता है अंदर ही। There is never I am feeling it's outdated because my mentor believe in evolving. She is evolving and I am evolving too. कहाँ जाएंगे? पृथ्वी घूमेगी तो चांदी घूमेगा। And growth begins the moment you move despite fear. Yes, Agri? ये तो हम सबको रट गया है। Yes. I want to live this moment. I manifested this few years back. Before I begin, I want to ask one question to all the mothers. Sitting here, how many of you ever felt like deep inside you meant for more? Yes? Yes. But responsibilities, fear, guilt made you put yourself on hold? Yes? Then this story is for you. You understand because I was once that woman too. Today, I am standing here not someone as extraordinary. I am still learning. I am a best student. I am standing here as a mother, learner, a woman who chooses courage over comfort. Many years— so a few years ago, I used to work as a lecturer in management college. I love teaching, helping people to grow. In 2015, I become mother and completely enter into different phase. It opened a completely different world for me, not around the challenges. I started asking deep questions about parenting, emotions, marriages, and family dynamics. How many of you relate with me? Yes. Yes? We started understanding much differently after becoming a mother. I was never someone who followed advice blindly. Anyway, I wanted to understand why, why I need to follow this till now. So I started learning, researching, Observing and understanding children deeply. During that phase, I got an opportunity to work with pre-primary, primary, senior secondary schools, CBSE and ICSE schools. I got chance to interact more than 10,000 plus students and parents. Here I realized something very important: children were not only who were struggling. Parents were struggling too. Mothers were emotionally exhausted. Couples were emotionally disconnected. Families were struggling too. And that's the turning point. I realized my purpose was much bigger. Than I had ever imagined. I had my fears too. Questions like, am I able to do this? Will people trust on me? And this was my second inning. So I started thinking, can I grow this stage of life, this phase of life after becoming mother? And I realized one thing: the biggest battles are not often outside us; it's inside us. How many of you feel this? Thank you, thank you. That's when I discovered Riddhi. I had been following her content since so long time, so I attended her master class, and I realized this is the one place all solutions, families, mothers. Parenting, everything. So I took one more bold decision. I joined gold membership and later platinum. I joined platinum in 2022. So first, the first batch when she launched. Yes. So I was very passionate to work about parenting and want to spread awareness. And there are so many other. It's a messy. Place. And looking back today, I can confidently say that that decision changed the direction of my life. EPS did not just give me information, it gave me clarity, structure, direction, and most importantly, it expanded my thinking. Of course, the journey was not easy. There was so many concerns, like money concerns, time concern being a mother, and fear of visibility, fear of judgment, जो भरा रहता है अंदर ही, and so many moments of self-doubt. Have you ever experienced self-doubt? मिलता जुलता है ये yes yes and I realized my biggest challenge was the version of me wanted to feel safe instead of grow and growth begins the moment you move despite fear yes agree ये तो हम सबको रट गया है Yes, yes. तो DNA में आ गया ये। And I started implementing whatever I learned. And initially clients came to me about parenting guidance. But gradually I met people who were struggling with mental health, depression, anxiety, relationship issues, and intimacy concerns. Every conversation Hell taught me something deep about human relationships, about deeply human behavior, and pushed me to evolve. So journey from being lecturer to marriage intimacy coach and sex therapist, equal parenting educator, change a lot of phase, shows lot of phases to me. Today I can share This is my second inning. I have been working as a lecturer. That career was help my parents helped me to build that career, and this career my mentors helped me to build this career. It was never possible without that, without the guidance, without the right guidance. Right now, the guidance and information is everywhere. But the structure and direction is missing. How many of you feel that? Yes, thank you so much. So yes, it was. So today I can proudly share whatever I was earning yearly. Today I am earning per month. Whatever I was earning per month, today I am earning per day. Thank you, Riddhi. for trusting me before I trusted myself. I remember that call. Yes. And today I realized something deeply. I was never changing careers from lecturer to pre-primary teacher, primary teacher, senior secondary school, CBSE, ICSE, board classes. I was never changing careers. I was becoming— I was becoming more aware, more confident, that needs more aligned with my purpose. That was needed. And that lesson, the biggest lesson of my life is growth is not selfishness. Growth is service. When you grow and heal yourself, every relationship around you, even though you don't know that person, every relationship aura created around you get benefits. So this is our responsibility to grow and heal yourself. I believe today. I want to share three lessons from my journey. Even though I feel I have, I need to learn more from all of you. All are very intelligent and inspiring people. So the first lesson is trust your intuition. Today you all raise your hand when I ask deep inside you felt that you want, you meant for more. Yes. Find out what is more. I have been finding out from past seven years. So trust your intuition. कोई thought ऐसा आ ही नहीं सकता आपके दिमाग में जो possible नहीं है, कुछ नहीं आएगा। आपके और मेरे दिमाग में कभी राष्ट्रपति अमेरिका का बनने का आता नहीं है। तो अगर ये आ रहा है, it is possible. Trust your intuition. I was working in a good salary. I trust my intuition and today what happened? Changed. This is my version too. Even my parents don't recognize that was the same submissive Neelam. Yes, I was very timid kind of a girl. I was not very confident. I was used to follow the guidance. I was the obedient one. I was the elder daughter, and you understand everything. Growth before confidence. Sometimes we wait for We become confident, people wait, but growth is started before confidence. When you take actions, you feel more confident. The third one is small massive steps create mass— small steps create massive shifts. So sometimes sitting there and start thinking about I need to be place of Riddhi is very big. Yes, so small step you can think like okay I will be the Neela, I will be on this stage next speaker. These are small steps and these are workable. Your mind start believing in these thoughts and it is very possible. And that's how I shape my journey one step at a time. And my mentor told me this this line is not mine. Three things I want to share. I have a three thousand things I admire whole. My mentor. So I want to share, think bigger. Today we are seeing platinum, and we were in 2022. Whatever we are looking, it was always there in our mind. Whatever, and even something more is coming. Aim higher. She is alone can collectively impact this much. It means the aim higher. You can aim. It costs nothing. Let's see after five years it is going to turn up or not. But कल उठाके नहीं देखो, आज बीज डाला है तो कल मत देखो। पांच साल बाद मुड़के देखते हैं। So I started my journey in two thousand twenty two और आज देखते हैं उठाके Yes, thank you. Lead by example. A mentor who is implementer. Today I have also my own community. I can understand. मुझे एक बात निकलती नहीं है because of the training. जो खुद नहीं करते वो बोल नहीं पाते हैं because of I have seen a high standards. So she is leading by example. First she try believe. Experiment successful. Now she is telling you. Lead by example. Thank you, Riddhi. Three things I like about EPS: the growth environment. We all are in the Indian family, and we are the first generation who is listening and learning and everything. So we feel blessed to be the part of. But the worst part is we are the last generation who is. Facing lot of trauma, we need to heal, we need to grow. So this is the community EPH where you easily meet like-minded people. You will never be feel judged. So that's a growth environment and I feel इसके लिए कितना भी पैसा ले लो कम है। How many of you feel growth environment? The way we all are meeting here कोई jealousy नहीं है। आप कहीं और चले जाओ इतनी ladies को एक साथ रख दो फिर देखो, right? So even yes इतना experience even every and we all are here smiling even I was standing there everybody is congratulations Neelam good luck you are looking good कहाँ ग्रोथ इन्वॉल्वमेंट पैसा देके भी नहीं मिलता ही है। वी ऑल स्पेंड सो मेनी डेज़ इन फाइव स्टार्स, बट स्टिल यू विल नॉट गेट। सो दिस इज़ प्राइसलेस। ईपीएच इज़ प्राइसलेस फॉर मी। द ग्रोथ इन्वॉल्वमेंट। द सेकंड इज़ पावरफुल कम्युनिटी। वी आर नॉट ओनली गॉसिपिंग। यस? इफ़ आई क मेरा पति बेकार है तुम मेरा भी कहाँ पे ऐसे नहीं है, right? हम बोलेंगे नहीं यार मेरा पहले था अब सही हो गया तेरा भी हो जाएगा। Yes, thank you. Third one is I am the biggest example. I have been joined first platinum showcase. If I am standing here, it means constant evolution. It is the mark. There is never I feeling it's outdated because my mentor believe in evolve. She is evolving and I am evolving too. कहाँ जाएंगे? पृथ्वी घूमेगी तो चांदी घूमेगा। Yes, कहीं नहीं जाने वाले The constant. Your community is growing. The platinum when I joined it was only one year membership. Now it's a lifetime. So she is telling me, Neelan, think big. Do something big for others. Try something big. Do not go with bare minimum. Yes. पांच साल पहले जो चीजें काम करी थे बड़ा करो। लोगों को ज़्यादा help करो। So it is a constant evaluation. Thank you, Riddhi, for creating this safe space for me growing. And at last, I want to share my mission in short, very short. As a marriage intimacy coach and sex therapist, I believe marriages should never lose their honeymoon feelings with time. Yes! I believe, I believe it should grow Stronger love, deep love, friendship, emotional safety, and deep, deep, deep intimacy. So I help couples to move from emotionally disconnected marriage to deep emotionally connected marriage and keep the spark alive for forever. Amazing. Thank you.