My Husband said "Break your FD. Spend the ₹2 lakh. | Supermom Spotlight Chetna | Riddhi Deorah

Please join me to welcome Chetna Jagga Bhatia.

She has created amazing results.

Please stand up. चेतन, all visible?

Yeah, yeah. One silent prayer, one courageous decision. A right mentor and a supporting community. That's all I had to make transformation in my life. Yeah, but truly telling you that there was a time when I was not even believing in, on, in my own decisions rather than depending on others. There was a time when I was not in that feeling that I could be a good mother. I was frustrated, overwhelmed, too much exhausted living in a joint family setup, and I was completely lost in somewhere, and I was not connecting with my children. So hello everyone, my name is Chetna. Today I'm standing confident just because of EPH, and how the transformation journey happens today I'm going to share about with the— with you guys. My name is Chetna, and, uh, I'm a mother of 2 brave sons. One is going to be 9, the other one is 5.

It's been a year of journey with EPH.

Once I was a mother who was like overwhelmed, exhausted, and Totally lost somewhere in in my own family. I was not enjoying my motherhood at all. Always busy, not connecting with my children, and always finding faults in my children only. इन्हीं में problem है। यही नहीं सुनते क्योंकि there was so much of comparison in the family, in a joint family. We have so many kids. You know my मेरी co sister के भी बच्चे थे, उनके साथ कंपैरिजन चल रहा, जजमेंट, सो मच ऑफ़ जजमेंट एज़ अ मदर कि मम्मा है, ये क्यों नहीं आता? अपने बच्चे संभाले नहीं जाते, ये गिरा दिया, वो गिरा दिया। सो फ़ियर ऑफ़ दैट जजमेंट से मैंने क्या किया? उनको स्क्रीन दे दिया कि एटलिस्ट चुपचाप बैठे रहें, ठीक है? पेरेंटिंग अच्छी नहीं है क्या हुआ उससे वो पूरा फ्रस्टेशन सब कुछ जो होता था ना वो बच्चों पे ही जाता था तो इसलिए वो बचाने के लिए मैंने आईव गिवन देम दैट स्क्रीन और वो स्क्रीन टाइम व्हेन इट इंक्रीज्ड सो मच दैट इट स्टार्टेड अफेक्टिंग माय चिल्ड्रन यू नो देयर बिहेवियर चेंज दे स And moreover, the studies were hampering. When I tried to control that, that I should control the screen time now, it started like, you know, I have to, you know, I started with doing it with anger. So much of frustration, so much of frustration was there, obviously. So I, I started throwing anger on them. कई बारी मारा भी ठीक है और उसके बाद पूरी रात भर गिल्ट में रोती भी रही। I still remember that one day wherein I was sitting in the temple and was crying a lot कि मैंने अपने बच्चे को हिट किया and only one prayer was there how should I stop shouting on them? How should I control my children?

How should I You know, become a calm mother.

How should I, you know, change them and become a good human being so that they, you know, talk to everyone like very politely, like a good human being? That was my main prayer. And then something magically happened. Somebody— I'm not a social media person. But somehow on WhatsApp I got an Insta link that my one of my friends she tell me and with a random video. As soon as I opened that Instagram video, Riddhi ma'am was there and she was telling exactly the same. Are you facing any challenges with your child? Are you still feeling as a mother and you know crying the whole night in a guilt? So she was telling this. Is your child into screen so much? Do you want to reduce that?

मैंने कहा yes, I am the one.

ये तो मेरे लिए ही आया है. And अभी हम हँस रहे हैं. But उस time पे I started even you know crying harder because I got my answer कि हाँ ही मैं ही हूँ. मुझे चाहिए ये. And then a hope came कि अभी मैं कुछ change हो सकता है. लाइफ में मेरे चेंज हो सकता है, मेरे बच्चे ठीक हो सकता है, मैं ठीक हो सकती हूँ। अभी तक तो मुझे ये लग रहा है बच्चे ठीक हो सकता है, क्योंकि बच्चा ठीक कर रहे थे हम। ये पता ही नहीं था अभी तक। मास्टर क्लास ज्वाइन किया, got to know। पहले तो अपने आप को चेंज करो, you are so much overwhelmed, ठीक है? वहाँ कहीं पे समझ म हस्बैंड से ही मिलता था, तो अभी क्या था अकाउंट में सिर्फ लो बैलेंस मेंटेनेंस होता था ना, बस उतना ही होता था दस पंद्रह हजार रुपए, ठीक है? तो व्हाट डिड आई डू? मैंने उसमें से सिक्स ट्रिपल नाइन निकाला चुपचाप, देखा जाएगा जो होगा मेंटेनेंस का चार्जेस वाजेस आएगा, कुछ बोलूँगी, ठीक है और जैसे as soon as I entered into the gold membership and I met with the community, I started feeling changes in myself very quickly. अब मुझे ऐसा लग रहा था कि yes there is somebody who can understand me what I am going through. Somebody is listening to me what I am going through. How many of you relate to it? When you join gold or whether you join the Master class, you started feeling that yes, I've been understood.

Yes, yes, yeah.

मुझे भी ऐसे ही लगा कि अब मेरे पास still there is a chance that I could be a good mother for my child. And I, and I without any second thought, I jumped into the platinum because after joining gold, I realized that it's not about correcting or controlling my child, it's about correcting me first.

You know, know yourself first.

Where are you standing? What you are doing for your child? And I joined platinum. Platinum में भी मैंने borrow किया सब कुछ किया। And it's again a funny, very funny story how I did that. But I think right now we have. सुना दो सुना दो मैं कुछ 12 मिनट्स में नहीं बाबा हो नहीं पाएगा। but फिर भी थोड़ा सा मैं बताई देती हूँ, ठीक है? husband ने बोला कि नहीं करना है। मतलब उनको पता ही नहीं है। अभी तक मैं gold membership में कर रही हूँ, learning कर रही हूँ, सब कुछ changes आ रहे हैं मेरे अंदर। I became a lifelong learner and I started doing that certification course in memory training। वो बोलते रहते थे तू भुलकड़ है, मतलब like you always forget things। यहाँ रखके भूल गई, वहाँ रखके भूल गई। इतना exhausted थे भाई, overwhelmed थे, joint family था, सब ऊपर नीचे, ऊपर नीचे, floor system। तो I was doing that। तो अभी वो नहीं समझ पा रहे थे कि क्यों मैं इतना भुलक्कर सी महसूस कर रही हूँ? क्योंकि बच्चों को भी handle करना है, वो भी calmly handle करना है। अब तो gold membership भी आ गया था, platinum भी आ गया था, तो वो calmly भी deal तो अभी मुझे ऐसा लग रहा था कि अब प्लैकिनम तो मुझे चाहिए क्योंकि I need I know this will transform my whole life जब गोल्ड मेंबरशिप से ही मैं इतना आगे बढ़ चुकी हूँ कि that I'm becoming a lifelong learner ठीक है और मेरे बच्चे भी अब they have started connecting with me तो अभी तो ये इसको पूरे टाइम के लिए चाहिए आगे टीनेजर भी तो बनेंगे टीनेजर पेरेंटिंग भी चाहिए होगा Everybody knows the live energy. मैम की एक बात होती थी, मैंने शायद पूरे साल में सिर्फ दो बार मैम से बात करी होगी, live calls पे, ठीक है?

और सारी information मुझे वैसे ही download हो जाती थी, क्योंकि दूसरी mothers पूछती थी, right? Same.

See so many people relate to me, ठीक है? तो मैंने अपने husband को बोला, वो मेरे को बोलते थे, भूल लगकर है, बहुत ज़्यादा भूल लगकर है, मैंने उनको हस्बैंड को बोला कि ठीक है एक दिन जा रहे थे हमलोग गाड़ी में मंदिर जा रहे थे झंडे वाला मंदिर है दिल्ली में वहाँ जा रहे थे मैंने उनको बोला कि अगर आप चाहते हो कि मैं भुलककर ना रहूँ तो you need to give me two lakh rupees ठीक है आप मुझे ठीक करना चाहते हो ना give me two lakh rupees I spoke with a psychologist and he she is charging Two lakh rupees.

ठीक है?

अब उन्होंने मुझे बोला कि ना, उन्होंने ignore कर दिया कि ऐसे ही बोलिए। फिर he continued. Next day again he was telling me, तुम भुलक करो। मैंने कहा I told you ना, I spoke with somebody and they are charging two lakh rupees. Please give me those two lakh rupees. I'll be the you know मेरा mind एकदम sharp एकदम सही चलने लग जाएगा, ठीक है? ऐसे ही मैं बोलती रही उनको। एक हफ्ता भी दिया। उसके बाद मैंने कहा, you have your वो वाला ना, फिर FD वगैरह है ना, उसको तोड़वाओ अपना जाओ, जो करना है two lakh rupees कर जो, ठीक हो गया हो। मैंने कहा, ठीक है। वो FD वाला जो था, FD भी मैं नहीं तोड़वा सकती थी, क्योंकि I never वीक पॉइंट था एंड द वेरी फर्स्ट डिसीजन विच आई आई टुक इन माय होल लाइफ वाज टेकिंग ईपीएच कम्युनिटी गोल्ड मेंबरशिप वाज द फेरी फर्स्ट वन एंड सेकंड वन आपने मैंने बताई दिया प्लैटिनम लिया था टू लाख रुपीस अपने जुड़वा के लिए थे लेकिन उसके लिए भी डिसीजन उनसे पूछना पड़ Grew in this platinum. उसके बाद से तो I never looked back.

Now, the biggest challenge. Yeah?

The biggest challenge came. सबके साथ होगा screen time. How many of the mothers here are facing the challenges with their children? The screen time challenge.

You tell me.

या सेम टीनेजर हो, ठीक है टॉडलर हो एवरीबडी इज़ फेसिंग दिस चैलेंज ऑफ स्क्रीन आवर्स मेरा बेटा सेवेन आर से भी ऊपर टाइम स्क्रीन टाइम देखता था। ही वाज़ यू नो हैव लॉट ऑफ आवर्स स्पेंडिंग ओनली ऑन इधर फोन और ऑन द स्क्रीन बिकॉज़ आई वाज़ अ मदर हु वाज़ बिजी इन एवरीथिंग What did I do? Constant fight करता था। When I started, you know, taking him, taking away the screen and everything, he started throwing tantrums, hitting, pushing, you know, shouting, lying on the door floor, you know. And what did I did? Ma'am ने call में बोला, be creative, be creative. Mother should be creative.

I said, okay, surrender to your mentor.

That is one lesson that I wanted to share.

Surrender to your mentor.

If she is saying, be creative, be creative. And I blindly followed that. I did so many things, you know, anger was increasing and everything because at times I thought I should quit. No, I. अब मैं नहीं संभाल पाऊँगी इसको। But there was a constant support from the EPH community. There was constant live calls which I was attending, and I was getting the energy, the positive energy that we get. So that kind of energy I was I was you know getting, and I started you know being creative.

I you know introduced books to him.

क्योंकि मैम books पढ़ती थी बहुत. So much inspired by ma'am ठीक है मैं खुद book lover नहीं हूँ I'm sorry मुझे अगर अभी भी कोई कहे एक book पढ़ने के लिए तो मैं मेरे से complete ही नहीं होगी I felt feel like boring it's so boring reading मेरी मम्मा करा करती थी और उसके बाद मैंने ma'am से सुना था कि yes reading books is like very good so he started you know I started placing the books everywhere in every corner of my house Bedroom, bathroom, side tables, study tables. Wherever he goes, he finds book. ठीक है? If he is feeling bored, वो भी। Then I started you know using different kind of activities. I enrolled him into skating, football. जो भी वो बोलता था ना, मैं कहती थी screen नहीं मिलेगा। You ask whatever you wanted to join. Now he is doing drumming.

Nowadays, so that I done.

Then passwords. I've entered so many of the passwords.

Yeah, this slide very important.

So now before that, I wanted to say this. Yeah, I did password controls. I did activities and games. Then I more involvement with my child. I did this intentional parenting where I was, you know, talking to him, counseling him, uh, doing affirmations and such kind of things. When at the bed— right, uh, bedtime routine I set up wherein we'll do the family prayers and everything. So that what we were doing. And more importantly, when I was so much angry, the NLP techniques, which is again a part of NL, uh, Platinum, that has helped me a lot. You know, I still anchor my calmness by using the NLP techniques. It's very, uh, whosoever is the Platinum Mother, please go through it. It is very, very, you know, uh, useful and everything. And for the Gold Mothers, yes, definitely you need to upgrade for the Platinum to get this NLP technique. Okay, so, uh, see, again, the screen— reducing the screen time was not so easy. So I have seen so many tantrums. I used creativity. There were times when I wanted to give up, but I didn't. I've been consistent. I anchored my calmness using again the NLP techniques. From Sankirtan, I came to know that we are not here to control our children. We are here to serve them. We are here. They need that. My child needs a mother who can, you know, understood, understand him. So that what I have changed it in myself. That changes I felt in myself.

Yeah.

What is password controls?

Password controls on TVs, on your devices.

You know, he always track what is my password, but I never give him. So this is how that Platinum has changed everything. I got—

see, child in Gold, we generally have this, you know, wherein we get so many ideas about child counseling— sorry, child connection, then family connection. But when we— when I upgraded to Platinum, I received so many other things.

Was like ocean to me.

It was beyond what is child connection and family connection. It's, it's about, you know, your inner healing, your inner emotional well-being. It's totally related to that which has— which was happening. I anchored calmness, I anchored self-growth, spirituality, sankirtan, God-conscious parenting.

I learned So many things here.

Yes, and when I introduce the books, now my child when he comes from the school, he asks for the book. He randomly picked the book. He start reading. अब मुझे ये बोलना पड़ता है बेटा book side कर दो, थोड़ा कुछ खा लो, थोड़ा पानी पीलो, थोड़ा सा uniform वगैरह change कर लो, but नहीं. जब तक उसकी एक बुक कंप्लीट नहीं हो जाती, वो नहीं छोड़ता बुक को। He's that much into the books. He's a book lover. मैं नहीं हूँ, but my child is. He's so much inspired by Riddhi ma'am now. See again, now he's getting the awards also. He's a speed reader.

He's a book You know, he can complete his one book in one day.

Two hundred pages book. It's not like thin book he is reading. He is such a big speed reader. He is emotionally calmer because now he he don't hit his younger one which he used to. Now he read books to him.

आ मैं तुझे पढ़ाता हूँ.

Dogman पढ़ेगा?

Grandpa?

ठीक है?

Now the younger one is also following the same. You change because I was not a book leader. I started reading to them.

ऐसे नहीं हुआ था। It takes time.

You need be you need to be consistent. Yeah, now he's more focused and healthier habits have been developed.

Now the main important slide.

Mothers, I would say that transformation is possible if you are consistent. It happened with me; it can happen with you also.

Yeah.

Small steps daily creates big challenges.

I mean, big changes. I'm sorry. Yeah.

First time, Anna. तो इट्स लाइक लिटिल बिट ऑफ़ गुफा। तो स्मॉल स्टेप्स डेली। ये दिस कॉन्फिडेंस हैज़ कम फ्रॉम हियर हर ओनली। आई वाज़ अ होममेकर, नो सच कॉन्फिडेंस, नॉट इवन टेकिंग माय ओन डिसीज़न्स, एस आई टोल्ड यू। बट नाउ आई एम स्टैंडिंग इन फ्रंट ऑफ़ यू अ ट्रांसफॉर्म मदर व्हो इज Again, I took very small steps. ले ली need to be creative पहले password लगाया नहीं हुआ next चीज़ कर रहा तो फिर नहीं हुआ आगे आगे चीजें changes करते रही being creative and it happened yeah again I have already told you that children need not to be controlled but need connection with us so as soon as I build my connection it everything has changed It happened for me, and it can happen to you also. Patience, consistency—that what I feel. You know, the ma'am has already has. She's so consistent when she—you know—even if she is not well, she is always on the live calls. How many of you agree to it?

Yes. इतना धीरे से yes. Thank you, thank you, ma'am.

ठीक है। She's so consistent. She's always there for us. She the whole community that she has created will never leave you alone. Never ever leave you alone.

We all are here for each other.

Even if she is not on on the call, she is not answering. She has the AI now for everyone. So never feel that she she will never feel you alone. She she'll come up with more creativity. If she is telling you to be a mother with creativity, she is a creative person. First, she implement herself. She's not just telling कि creative बन जाओ. She is a creative person. Right? She come up with so many things.

Then again, yes, and the God conscious parenting. What she has come up with.

I don't think पूरी दुनिया में there is anybody or any mentor who is teaching spirituality to the children, to the mothers. Yes. And I proudly say that I am a part of EPH where I am learning spiritualism, where my children are learning spiritualism. जो मुझे ऐसा लगता है कि अब भी आज की दुनिया में बहुत जरूरी है Kids are getting, you know, weird things. They are getting into drugs. They are getting into so many other things. But with spiritualism, they are just leaving all those things.

They are not even thinking of.

अगर अभी छोटे से ही हम बच्चों को ये सब सिखा दें कि भगवान से डरना, भगवान से प्यार करना और ये सब चीजें घर के अंदर हैं, तो why not?

The world will transform.

And I like that mission. And I am part of that mission. I am proud to. I can proudly say that I am part of EPH and with this mission.

Along with you, ma'am. Thank you so much.

She's me.

She's Radha Rani. Okay. Three things. EPH के बारे में तो मैं आप लोगों को सब कुछ बताई चुकी हूँ। EPH You are EPH. EPH is nothing but a whole community wherein we are helping each other. We'll never leave anybody alone. She is not leaving me alone. Me not leaving her alone. So if we are crying, we we have the shoulders next to us.

Constant motivation.

How many of you get the calls from the leaders and everybody keep calling you? Come on, do your mission. Mission में ये करना है subconscious mind वाला कर लो। अभी forgiveness and acceptance चल रहा है। ठीक है, तो ये भी चल रहा है, ठीक है? तो constant motivation, yes, keep doing, keep doing. तो constant motivation that what we are doing, the entire leadership program. We learn together, we grow together. This is what we call EPH as.

Okay?

And this is my community, my leadership team, everybody together, just A tribute to them. Sorry. Yes, I finally I just thank Riddhi ma'am for creating such a beautiful community. I might have goofed up so many, yeah, so many places. Yes, thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you, EPH.

मैं भी मैम की तरह थोड़ा सा कर देती। मैं थैंक यू सर। Amazing!

How many of you think she was amazing? Very authentic. Yeah, it's so natural. And I think, um, you know, that's why I feel that every single one of you can be on the stage, right? And how many of you agree you don't have to be perfect? Your English can be messy, your words can be misplaced, but still Still you get the message, right? You feel the emotions. And how many of you feel that, you know, you learn more as compared to you listening to Shashi Tharoor? Agree? Yes. So thank you so much.

Thank you, ma'am. I love the story.

I'm going to try that with my husband. I'm also learning. I take notes.

That was not part of it.

ये ठीक नहीं है, दस लाख दे दो। कल कल ठीक हो जाएगा। अब this. So yes. So how many of you want to be the next mother on the stage? Some hands. Good. Yes, amazing. So now we will—

if I can do it, you guys can also do it. That's the power of EPH.

Say hip hip EPH! Amazing.

Thank you, thank you so much.

Okay, I want all of you to shout Chetna, Chetna, because this is her moment on the stage. I wanted to anchor.

Chetna, Chetna, Chetna, Chetna! Thank you, Lord. Thank you.