When your child is shouting, they're overwhelmed, not defiant. Skip the lecture and punishment. Hold their hand, stay calm, and let them know you're there until they settle. It helps them regulate and keeps things from getting worse.
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All angry children need help. They don't need your lecture, they don't need your shouting, they don't need your explanation. All they need is your help. Because they are emotionally overwhelmed and they cannot cope up with their surrounding. So next time, when your child is angry, when your child is shouting, when your child is rude to you, please do not lecture them, please do not try to discipline them. Just hold your child's hand and tell your child that Mummy is there for you and I'm going to be with you till you start to feel calm, because I know that you're much stronger and you're much better than this. Do this and you'll see how your child starts to feel calm and this will also improve your parent child bond.