Riddhi Deorah explains why kids do the opposite of what you ask: psychological reactance, a defensive response when they feel their freedom is threatened. Stop lecturing, give them some autonomy, and pick your battles by keeping a short list of non-negotiable rules while staying flexible on everything else.
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You keep telling your child what to do, and your child always does the opposite because telling your child never works. Let me explain this to you with the help of a simple concept called psychological reactance. Psychological reactance क्या होता है? When your child's freedom of choice is threatened, आपके बच्चे का brain एक trigger response देता है, which is a defense mechanism designed to keep your child safe. सेफ एंड प्रोटेक्टेड। तो जितना हम अपने बच्चे को बोलेंगे, उतना ही वो कम करेंगे, बिकॉज़ ये मैकेनिज्म एक्टिवेट हो जाता है। सो इन दिस केस यू हैव टू रिमेम्बर दिस टू थिंग्स। नंबर वन, प्लीज़ डू नॉट जज एंड लेक्चर योर चाइल्ड इंस्टेंटली। या तो आप अपने बच्चे से प्यार कर Sometimes they will choose what to do and what not to do. उनका भी कुछ freedom होना चाहिए. So you have to pick your battles wisely. Always have a list of non-negotiables which cannot be compromised, and allow your child to do other things freely. Now since this video is getting long, I have mentioned three extra points in the caption. So please take out the time to read these points and type connect, and I'll share with you three beautiful strategies that have worked for more than twenty thousand mothers in my community.
