Rob AndersonLead Coach/ Principle Owner, Stand Sure Coaching · Spending time in collaborative conversations with clients

Give Your Spouse the Best of You #shorts

19 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief devotional, the speaker observes a common relational pattern: people often extend their best qualities—patience, kindness, understanding—to strangers, friends, coworkers, and even their boss, while reserving the leftover stress, short temper, and criticism for their spouse. Citing Ephesians 4:2, the speaker emphasizes the biblical call to be completely humble, gentle, and patient with one another. The central exhortation is that spouses should not receive the “leftovers” of a person’s emotional resources; instead, they deserve the same grace, patience, and kindness that are freely given to others. The talk urges listeners to consciously extend the same level of love and humility to the person they chose to marry.

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Bet you caught yourself doing this. You see, we'll give strangers, friends, coworkers the best versions of ourselves, right? Even our boss. We're patient, we're kind, we're understanding, responsive. Then we come home and we give the person that we love just whatever's left over. The stress, the short temper, the criticism. Scripture says, be completely humble and gentle. Be patient bearing with one another. It's over in Ephesians 4:2. Your spouse shouldn't consistently get the leftovers of whatever you have. Give the person that you chose the same grace, the same patience, and the same kindness that you so freely give to everybody else.