1% Better Every Day | The Mindset Mentor Podcast

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial, and if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. Today we're going to talk about how to get better every single day. And I'm not going to talk about how to become exponentially better or how to wake up tomorrow and become be 10 times richer than you are, or wake up tomorrow and you're having the perfect body or the perfect relationship or any of that stuff. I'm going to talk about how to simply just focus on being 1% better every single day. That's it. And we're gonna talk about the journey of life that you're on and what you're focusing on and what you're doing. And we're gonna talk about the journey of self improvement. Because I don't see self improvement as something that you just do like a diet where there's an end point to it. I see it as a lifestyle. You know, if you want to completely change your body, you don't just go on a diet, you change it and be the new healthier version of you is your new healthy lifestyle. I see the journey of self improvement the exact same way I've lived my life since my very first mentor in 2006, under the impression of something called kaizen. Kaizen is a Japanese phrase for constant, never ending improvement. In every single aspect of what I do. I'm constantly trying to grow and improve. So it's a constant, never ending improvement. It's a journey of life, it's a lifestyle. It's not something that you just decide that you want to do. And the whole idea is, I don't expect to wake up tomorrow and be like this super ripped, 10 times richer version of Rob. I know that for me, it's just about how did I show up for myself every single day? How did I show up today? Do I feel like before my head hits the pillow that I'm 1% better than I was when I woke up today? I'm curious with you. What do you think when you went to bed last night, do you feel like you were 1% better, or do you feel like you were the exact same person that woke up? Because if you're the exact same person when you woke up, nothing's gonna change in your life. But if you're 1% better and you do that every single day for the next year, that's 365% better. That's 3.6 times better than you are right now simply by focusing on little teeny tiny things to get better every single day. And the reason why this is important is because your current circumstance in life, the way that you look, the way that you feel, the relationships that you're in, the amount of money in your bank account, the success or lack of success in your business, all of those are just lagging results of past habits, traits, behaviors and actions. That's it. Results don't come right away. That's the interesting thing about them. So where you are right now is based off of decisions that you made in your past. Six months ago, three months ago, a year ago, two years ago. You don't get results right away, most of the time. Usually it takes time. They lag. So if you look at your life right now, if you don't like where you are, I'm gonna give you a harsh reality. You chose to be there. If you don't like where you are right now in your life, you chose to be there. Whether you realize it or not, there was a bunch of decisions that you made to allow yourself to be in the position that you're in. That's the beautiful thing about life, is that no matter where your life is, you can always blame yourself for it. If you look at your life, and this is one of the very first things my mentor, actually, in my very first mentor, I don't remember anything else he told me in two years. I remember it was all really good. But I remember one conversation where he literally said that you have to become the CEO of your life. If you wake up one day and you're 85 years old and you don't like where your life is at, it's your fault. But if you wake up at 85 years old and you love where your life is at, it's also your fault. Wherever you are in life, you chose to be there. And that can be something that's very empowering. But for some people, it can also be a really big smack in the face because your past decisions got you to where you currently are. Can't blame anybody else. You gotta stop blaming other people. Don't take any blame and put on anything external. Oh, well, my mom was this way. My dad was this way. My dad was an alcoholic. I was raised in this part of town. My sister always used to tell me I was ugly. You know, I was raised with a bunch of poor people, so I never knew what it looked like to be rich. And it's all of their fault. It's the government's fault. It's the president's fault. It's the president before him's fault. It's the president before the president, for the president's fault. You can blame everybody if you want to, but it's not going to change your circumstances. You've got to learn to take all of your blame and put it on yourself, which for some people can feel stressful, but it can also be extremely empowering because you realize that you're the only one that's gonna change your life. That's empowering. So if you don't like where you are, you chose to be there based off the decisions that you've made in the past. And your habits come from a story that you are telling yourself about yourself. This is where it gets interesting. We're gonna start talking about your identity, okay? Your habits and actions that you take come from the story that you're telling yourself about yourself. So if you say stuff like, I'm lazy, I procrastinate, being overweight runs in my family. That's why I'm overweight. I love to sleep in. I'm always late. I love food too much to lose weight. If you tell yourself any of that shit, that's the identity that you have created for yourself, and you are going to take the actions that align with that identity. So if you say, oh, my family's all overweight, so that's, you know, I'm gonna be overweight as well. If you say that you have now placed an identity on top of yourself, my family's overweight. I'm going to be overweight as well. If I take the identity of I'm going to be overweight because my family's overweight, then I'm going to take actions that line up with that identity. Why the hell would I ever work out? If I think to myself, I'm going to be overweight no matter what I do? Because if I'm going to be overweight no matter what I do, why the hell would I go to the gym? That doesn't sound fun. I'm still going to be overweight, so I'm going to take actions, not going to the gym, that line up with my identity being overweight, which is going to then make my identity being overweight a reality. I will be overweight. If I say to myself, oh, yeah, you know, I love food too much. It's just a part of the way I was raised. It's my culture, you know, for us to eat big meals together and all of that. If that's your identity, then you're going to eat more than you probably should. And you're gonna have a hard time breaking the habit of eating something that's bad for you or too much for you into something that's healthy. If you have the identity of that's just the way I am. I'm always going to be overweight. Why would you ever eat a salad? Like if I had the choice, if someone came to me and said, hey Rob, I've got a salad right here and I've got a pepperoni pizza right here, which one do you want? Pepperoni pizza is going to win every damn day. Why? Because it's so much frickin better than salad. We can all agree on that, can't we? So if I know that I'm going to be overweight no matter what I do, why would I ever eat healthy? Why would I eat a salad when I can eat pizza? I'm gonna be fat anyways, right? I'm gonna be overweight. Cause that's just my reality. That's the results that I'm going to have. So why don't I just do what I need to do? I have created an identity in my head. I'm taking actions that line up with that identity. And my results from that identity will create the identity that I have which is still overweight. And this goes with lazy. This goes with broke. This goes with I procrastinate too much. This goes with I'm late all the time. Your actions and habits will stem from what you believe about yourself. So if you want to become 1% better every single day, guess what you're going to have to do? You're going to have to work on your mindset every single day. Your mindset's going to have to get 1% better every single day because your identity needs to shift. You're under no obligation to be who you were five minutes ago. That's what Alan Watts always says, right? If you want to be a different person tomorrow, you've got to shift your belief in who you are today. You know, if you think you're overweight, you're not going to work out. If you think you're going to be overweight no matter what, you're not going to eat healthy. You're going to be overweight anyways. Why would you put your body through stress and eat something that doesn't taste as good? You have to change your internal story in order to change your external results. So you got to change your behaviors. But true behavior change is actually a change in identity that's what people don't realize. I heard a crazy statistic the other day. For people who lose weight at least 20 pounds, do you know what percentage of them keep the weight off? Let me ask it another way. Out of people that 100% of people that go and they lose 20 pounds, what percent of them do you think actually go back to that weight? Say it out loud to yourself, what do you think it is? I asked my videographer right before she started. She said 50%. The number is 97%. 97% of people. 97% of people that lose at least 20 pounds gain it back in the next couple years. 3% of people keep it off. There's a lot of reasons why one of them has to do with their identity. Another really big reason why is who they surround themselves with. If you're, you know, if you lose weight and then you hang out with a lot of other people who are overweight, you're more likely be overweight. If you have one friend that's obese, you, you have 57% higher chance of being obese if you have one friend that's obese. So if you lose weight but all your friends are still overweight, you're probably going to gain all the weight back. If you lose weight and you start hanging out with people who are extremely fit, you're probably gonna be in that 3% that continue to keep the weight off. It has to do with your community that you surround yourself with. It has to do with the identity of the way you actually see yourself. Same thing works if you think of someone who grows a successful business and they keep it and they continue to grow it and grow it and grow it versus running into the ground. The person who grows it and grows it and grows it usually is somebody who is surrounding themself with other people who are growing their business as well. That's keeping them motivated to go in that direction. And a lot of it has to do with the community. And the other bit of it has to go with obviously the identity that they have. So changing your behaviors, true behavior change, is actually a change in identity. It's saying, this is who I am, that this is who I am, will dictate the actions that you take all of the time. Just the way that it goes. Your bank account, just so you know, is a result of your spending and earning habits. Let's make this as simple as possible. When you look at your bank account, if you don't like your bank account and how much is in it, your bank account is a Result of only two things, how much you earn and how much you spend. Nothing else. How much you earn, how much money comes in, how much you spend, how much money you let go out of it. So if you want to change your bank account, you've either got to earn more or you've got to spend less or both. That's it. Your body is a result of your eating habits, your working out habits, and how you take care of yourself. So if you want to change your body and make it better, you've either got to change the amount of working out that you do and the way you work out, or you've got to change the way that you eat, or both. That's it. Your business is simply a result of the hard work, the dedication, the work habits and the commitment that you have to your business. That's it. It's very simple. Like you don't have to. People make life and happiness and success so hard, they struggle their way to get there. But when you take a 10,000 foot view and you go, let's look at it from 10,000ft, you go, yeah, it's really not that hard. If I want to lose weight, I got to work out more, I got to eat healthier and I've got to, you know, if I want to lose weight, I've got to have a deficit in my calories, I've got to burn more calories than I consume. That's it. There's nothing else. If I want to make more money, have more money in my bank account, in my savings, I've got to either make more money or spend less money or both. That's it. There's nothing else that's to it. And so you just make simple habits around it. But you've got to ask yourself, what is your identity around that? If my identity is, I've been broke my entire life and my entire family is broke, we've always been poor, we've always struggled. Rich people have to screw people over in order to make their money. If that's the identity that I have around myself and around other people who are rich, then I'm gonna have a really hard time taking the action that I need to to become wealthy simply because my identity is wrapped around this fake story. It's this narrative, this story that we're telling ourselves at all points in time. In James Clear has a quote that I love and it's every action is a vote for the person that you want to become, whether you realize you're doing it or not. Every action is a Vote for the person that you want to become. So how are you voting? Are you voting to become the person that you want with the body that you want, with the bank account that you want, the relationship that you want? Or are you voting and not realizing it for becoming the person that you don't want to become? Not in the shape that you want, not with the relationships that you want, not with the bank account that you want, not with the business that you want. And it's little teeny tiny habits. That's why it's 1% better, not 400% better tomorrow, 1% better. It's little teeny tiny habits. Like nobody dies from eating one hamburger. They don't. They don't have a heart attack from eating one hamburger. They have a heart attack from a bunch of decisions over 5, 10, 15, 20, 30, 40 years. Decisions, little tiny decisions they accumulated over years and years and they compounded to get them to a heart attack at 55 years old. Whatever it is, no one gets fit from one pushup. No, you guys know that. It's a lot of work and time put into it. And then one, two, three, two years down the road, now they've got the body that they want. No one gets smart from reading one book. No, it's a bunch of reading books. And having a dedication to knowledge, having a dedication to the body of the 1. Having a dedication to the religious should be the one. Having a dedication to the bank account that they want, Having a dedication to whatever it is that you want. Tiny habits make up who you are. What are your tiny habits? If I were to follow you around, I always ask this. I said, if I were to follow you around all day, every day with a pen and paper and write down every single thing that you do, what habits do you have that you'd be worried about me seeing? What actions do you take or not take that you would be like, oh, shit, I don't want Rob to see this. Think about that for a second. Because those are the ones that have got to go. Those are ones you've got to get rid of. Are you the type of person to wake up on time? Or are you the type of person to hit the snooze button 17 times every single day? Are you the type of person to spend money or you the type of person to save it? Are you the type of person to eat that unhealthy food? Are you the type of person to say no to the unhealthy food and go for the food that you know you should? Are you the type of person that says, oh, I need a glass of wine every single night. Or you're the type of person that says, you know what? I've come to realize that it's not good for me to be able to drink every single night, so I'm gonna not drink every single night. I saw a study not too long ago about what one glass of wine over the course of an entire week does to your brain compound over 10, 20 years. And it literally, if the guy's name is Dr. Amen, if you wanna go to him, he's got a book called Change youe Brain, Change youe Life. A m e n Dr. Amen literally puts holes in your brain from having one alcoholic drink every single week. Holy right? But if you look at someone's brain at 60 years old who decided to drink a little bit and they've got a brain that isn't complete, when you look at the scan, it's because of just decisions that they made. There's no right or wrong, there's no judgment. It's just simple. You're going to get the results of your life based off of the decisions and the actions that you take. That's it. There's nothing else. You're going to get the results based off decisions and actions that you have in your life. That's it. Those things come from your identity. And that's what we're trying to shift every single day to become 1% better. Right? We only see people who are successful in their end result at the end, but we don't see the little teeny tiny things that they did for 5, 10, 15, 20 years to get there. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. And we start something brand new and we're excited to start about something brand new. And then within two weeks we're pissed off because we're not at mile 1,000 yet. No, dude, you're at mile. You're literally step 14 and you're pissed off that you're not at mile 1,000. Every single day is another step. You got to know that the journey, as long as you're on the right path, as long as you're on the right path to get there and you're progressing there every single day, it's a win. And you've got to just know that eventually time will get you to where you want to be. You can't be pissed off that you're not where you want to be. You know, two weeks into starting a brand new business, you're not there yet. It's not time. You can't look on Instagram and see somebody who has a Lamborghini or the body that you don't have and be like, oh, yeah, well, they were just born with money or they were just blessed with that body. No, they fucking took action to make the money that they wanted to to get the Lamborghini or they worked out and ate in order to get that body. Like, just simply look at it. Stop giving excuses to why you're not having the body or the Lamborghini that they have, and simply realize they did actions that got them that body or that Lamborghini it. And if I take actions, I can get that body or that Lamborghini as well. It's that simple. Don't compare yourself to other people. And also don't compare yourself if you're week one in the gym to some woman who's been working out for five years and be like, well, I'm not where she is. You can't Compare your chapter one to somebody else's chapter 20. As long as you're on the journey and trying to improve every single day and noticing, oh, you know what? Well, at least I'm working out four times a week now. Three weeks ago, I wasn't working out at all. At least I've lost a pound in the past couple weeks. At least I'm not eating the food that I was eating. You're on the path to where you want to go. That's all that really matters. It's the path of just changing yourself and becoming a little bit better every single day. You can't compare yourself to other people because some people have been on the path, the same path that you're now on or starting to get on for a lot longer than you. Stop comparing your chapter one to somebody else's chapter 20. Stop shaming the other people and stop making excuses as to why you're there. There because they're blessed with certain genetics and because they're blessed with being in a family that gave them enough money to get a Lamborghini or whatever it is and go, you know what good for them they've gotten. They're just a little bit further along in this journey than I am. I'm going to be there one day as well. You know, who do you wanna be in 10 years? What do you want your actions to line up with? Like, what actions do you need to take in order to line up with that life? Right? Do your actions right now line up with that future ten years from today? Do your Current actions look like the habits and the actions of the person that you need to become. Because if they don't shift them, move them, change them just a little bit. It's never what you need to do in order to get to the life that you want. It's who you need to become in order to make that life happen. That's the interesting thing about it is most people think, oh, I need to do all of these things, which I agree with. But if I become the type of person who, who is healthy and I tell myself that I am healthy and not tell myself, oh, my entire family is just overweight, that's what I'm going to be. But if I tell myself I am a healthy person, I will start to make healthier decisions. It's not about what you need to do in order to get the life that you need or you want. It's about who you need to become in order to get the life that you want. And if you become that person, you will simply start to do the things that that type of person will do. And you have to change a lot less about yourself than you realize. A whole lot less. There's maybe five or ten things that you really need to change about yourself to have massive changes in your life. And I'm talking about little tiny changes. It's not 50 different changes, not 100 different changes. You know, it's like, wake up earlier, have a morning routine, meditate a little bit, read a little bit, eat food that's good for you and realize that food is medicine. Stop poisoning your body, stop procrastinating and just start taking action. Stop making excuses as to why you're not where you want to be. Take full ownership of your life. Work out three, four, five times a week, and stop watching TV and the news. And if you do most of those things, you're gonna have a pretty damn good life in about 10 years. It's not a million things that you need to change. It's just a few things throughout your day. It's just about being 1% better. So it's not about being a brand new person tomorrow. It's about being 1% better when you go to bed tonight than you were when you woke up. And you have to decide, is this journey that I'm on, is it a hobby? Is it, is this something that I'm just trying out, or is this a lifestyle? Is this a lifestyle of me just trying to be better every single day? And all you have to do, and this is what I want you to do, an assignment I'm gonna give you. If you're listening to this, okay, I want you to identify three to five small habits, not massive habits. Three to five small habits that you want to implement and start implementing into your day every single day. And then once you write those down, I want you to ask yourself, how can I make taking action on these easier and make a plan and to make these easier? And eventually, if you just keep improving a little bit every single day, you wake up a year from today and you realize, holy shit, I'm in a much better place than I was 12 months ago at this very moment. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please do me a favor. Please go ahead and go to itunes, Apple Podcasts. However you listen to us and give us a rating in review, it helps the podcast more than you could possibly know. It helps us pop up in the organic rankings. 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