4 Steps To Find Yourself | The Mindset Mentor Podcast

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. Today we're going to be talking about four steps to finding yourself. And these are inspired by Friedrich Nietzsche, if you've never heard of him. And let's just dive into it. So four steps to find yourself and then also truly become who you were born to be and who you want to become. Unicorn shit and rainbows. It's not going to be that way. You have to learn to take the difficult path in your life. You have to surround yourself with other people who are also taking the difficult path, who are trying to go on this path of self discovery, trying to challenge themselves to be better. Because the path of self discovery can be hard. Hey, if you're loving this episode, please do me a really quick favor. Hit that like button down below. And then if you have a topic you want me to cover in future episodes, comment it down below so I can see some of your recommendations, like real hard. And it makes a lot easier when you're on other people who value the journey as well. And so what I would recommend is try to distance yourself from people who aren't on the same path, at least for just a little while. Like give yourself a little bit like a head start. Give yourself six months away from some of those people who really are just trying to diminish your dreams and what is that you're trying to do and the hard work. Some people will never hop on the self development train and that's fine, they don't have to. But if you continue to hang out with them, a lot of times they will slow you down. So can you distance yourself for the next six months as you just really focus on yourself? Because in many cases those types of people hold you back. The people that you surround yourself with will either propel you forward to create an amazing life or they will hold you back from creating that life. You've heard me say it, you've heard many other people say it as well. You're the average of the five people that you spend the most time with. You should really start to pay attention to who you're spending time with. And you know the path of self discovery can get hard. In order to get better, we sometimes we have to go to the past and look at traumas that happen to us. Like a way I like to think about a trauma is kind of like a broken bone. If you've ever had a broken bone before, imagine that you break a bone and then you go to the doctor and you get it set, you wear a cast and then 10 years down the road, you realize that the broken bone still hurts you, it still doesn't feel right. You go to get X rays and you realize that the broken bone was never put back and set back in place correctly. It's just a little bit off. Well, what do you need to do in order to fix that broken bone? A lot of times you have to break it again to put it back in the right place. And so trauma is like that broken bone that first happened. And if you don't overcome the trauma, it's kind of like the broken bone isn't set correctly. And sometimes we have to go through that pain of re breaking, going back and visiting that, that thing that we're running from in order to live the rest of our life and go back to what feels good with that broken bone. And it goes back to the phrase, which is one of my favorite phrase about personal development is the cave that you're afraid to enter holds the treasure that you seek. Right? Sometimes you gotta go through some shit. That's just the way that it goes. It's not always going to be easy, but it will 100% be worth it. The life you want will only come by overcoming the skeletons that you continue to keep in your closet and try to act like are not there. Okay, so that's number two. Number three. Say yes to what gives you meaning. Say yes to what gives you meaning. He who has a why can bear almost any how when you know what it is that you want. Like when you have something, if you're kind of struggling with where your meaning is, an easy way to start to find more meaning is what gives you energy. I don't mean like coffee. What I mean like is when you do this thing, it gives you energy. That's usually something that gives you energy. It's kind of a little bit of the sign. It's like the universe kind of giving you a little nudge of like, hey, this is what you're supposed to do. Like for me, when I get done recording these podcast episodes, I have more energy after recording the podcast episodes than before. When I get done doing a live for, you know, Mindset Mentor University and I go through and I do a live and have everybody there, I have more energy after. And for those of you guys that always email, they're like, how do I find out about Mindset Mentor University? Our weekly calls, it's infobdial.com you can email. My team will send you some information. So infobdial.com. and so when you look at that and you start to think about, like, I get energy from those things. I always have more energy after than I did before, which shows me it is something that gives me meaning. And so follow your energy. If you've been trying to think of your meaning and you're thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking about it all of the time, hey, I got an idea. Why don't you just ask yourself, what gives me energy? What gives me a feeling that I'm getting pulled towards it? It's kind of like a gravity that's pulling you towards this thing. Usually that has some meaning to it. Okay, what is it that you love? What is it that you love to do? You know, what did you love to do as a kid? What makes you happy now? What made you happy as a kid? Make a list of all those things. Bring all of those things into your day. Stop doing things that you don't like. Right? Like, there's one thing that's really kind of. If I'm being honest with you, it's kind of tiring that I've been posting on Instagram and Facebook and all this stuff for a really long time, and so many people just post with this negativity of like, well, yeah, it'd be nice if my life could be this way, but my life sucks. In my life, I've gotten this and, you know, must be great to just be raised in a perfect world. And people just have this feeling of like, life has to suck. Oh, it must be nice. But my life is gonna be shit for the rest of my life. Like, where did this come from? Why do you have to do things that you don't like? Oh, that sounds nice. But you don't know my life. Okay, you're right. We don't know your life, but your life is completely in your control. So if you're doing something that you don't wanna be doing, maybe you can't leave it immediately, but you can make a transition plan. You can say, but by 2024, I will not do anything that doesn't light me up inside. You can come up with it. What is it that you want by 2025? I will not do anything that doesn't light me up inside. I can't leave my job immediately, but I can make some sort of transition plan. I can start to put a plan in place to get my life to where I want it to be and to get on the right track. Right? So that's number three. And number four, find your true Values. Do you really know what your true values are? Not what your mom taught you, not what your dad taught you, not what society taught you, not what your religion taught you. Like, what are your true values as a human? Have you ever thought about that before? Not what's been told to you, but like what actually feels like are your values. Who do you want to be? Write down everyone and everything that limits your freedom. There's someone in your life that's, that's limiting your freedom. If there's a job that you're working, that's limiting your freedom. If there's an action that you do that limits your freedom. Write down every single thing that limits your freedom. Start to move those things off of your plate, stop doing them as much. Come up with a plan to get them off of your plate. I'm not saying it's gonna like happen like that. Some things take time, some things take a plan, some things take a lot of action before they finally change. But like, what are your true values? When you're dead, which you will be one day, you will be. So will I. We all will be. How do you want to be described at your funeral? What do you want people to say about you? I remember when an ex girlfriend, her dad passed away probably about 10 years ago at this point, while ago. And I remember going to. And he was always an awesome guy, he was always really cool. And we were already broken up for like 10 years at this point. But I knew him really well in high school and I remember going to his funeral and there were so many people there and it was like a really kind of eye opening thing for me. There were so many people there that they didn't all fit in the church. So there were people sitting down, there were people standing on the outside of the edges of the church and there were people standing outside with the windows open so they could hear. And I thought to myself, holy shit, I want to have this sort of impact on the world. Like most people are worried about how much money is in their bank account. I'm worried about how many people come to my funeral because of what I did, the actions I took, the personal that I was. And so what are your true values and what do you want people to say about you at your funeral? That's how you should start living your life, in the lens that you start looking at the world through. And so if you want the four ways to truly find yourself, number one, stop following the herd mentality. Number two, embrace the difficulty of your self discovery. Number three, say yes to what gives you meaning. And number four, find your true values. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please do me a favor, share it on your Instagram stories and tag me Obdial Junior R O B D I A L J R Once again, I'll just tell you real quick. I mentioned it super briefly, but if you want to learn more about Mindset Mentoring University, which is where I actually teach weekly in 75 minute sessions every single week live on Zoom, you can email my team infoobdial.com so I n f O at R o B d I a l.com they'll give you some more information there. And with that, I'm going to leave you the same way leave you every single episode. Make it your mission. Make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.