Gregg Braden describes breaking free from a dysfunctional family by treating his thoughts and behaviors like a scientist: testing what works, discarding what doesn't, and amplifying what does. He argues people have the power to choose their response to past trauma rather than stay trapped by it.
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It's about participating in the way that this field unfolds and expresses in our lives. And when you really begin to get that shift, it's subtle and it's powerful. It's not making something happen out there. And that means you can't blame what's out there for your experiences. I come from a very dysfunctional, broken family, and I had to make a choice early in life as to whether or not I would and community as to whether or not I would allow that to define my experience, to define my existence. Other people around me had the same experience, and they made very different choices. They today continue to blame their environment, their parents, their family, their upbringing for the sad and unfortunate things in their lives. And that's a path. It's not right, wrong, good, or bad. But we have a choice to make another path. And when we begin as a scientist, beginning to understand these relationships gave me the reason to think differently. And it also gave me the reason to test in my life if those thoughts are really true or not, what works and what doesn't. And, you know, the things that don't work, stop doing them. Quit putting the energy into them. And if the stuff works, you know, figure out how to do even more of it.