You fail because you focus on what you want to avoid instead of what you want. A motorcycle instructor teaches riders to look through the turn, not at the crash. Shift your attention to the destination, not the danger.
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Let me tell you why you're not getting what you want in life. It's really simple, actually. It's because you're focusing on what you don't want. Oh, I don't want to be broke. I don't want to be alone. I don't want to be sad anymore. Well, motorcyclists are taught in motorcycle school to look through the turn, to only look at where you want to go, because where you're looking is where you end up. If there's a crash, do not look at the crash. Look at where you want to go. So the reason why you're probably not getting what you want in your life is because you won't stop focusing on the things that you don't want.