Babies learn to walk because they can't talk themselves out of trying. As we grow, the stories we hear from parents become our internal voice, shaping what we believe we can do. Most of our fear and self-doubt comes from messages we absorbed before we could question them.
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When did you learn to give up? When did you learn what fear was? When did you learn who you were, good or bad? Or when did you learn all of this stuff? Because if you think about it, does a baby decide to stop trying to walk because they're taking too long to get it? I've never. Never in my. Maybe it's happened before, but never in the history of my entire life have I ever heard of a child that just decided to stop walking because they didn't get it. No, they persist. They don't understand language. They don't have an internal narrative yet because they don't understand language. They might understand a couple words, but they don't have full sentences of, I'm not good enough for that perception of themselves. So they don't understand every word their parents are saying around them. But at some point, we as children learn what we can and what we can't. Quote, unquote, can and will. Quote, unquote, can't do. You know, like, some of the kids say, I'm not smart. I'm not old enough to get this. Whose parents ever told them, like, oh, you're not old enough yet, Right? You have to start thinking of this. And if you're a parent, you definitely gotta start thinking about this with your children. So what is crazy about it is the unconscious programming is how most people are unconsciously operating in the world every single day.