How To Accomplish All Of Your Goals

Welcome to today's video. Today we're going to be talking about how to actually start to get on the direction of accomplishing all of your goals. Let's dive in. No matter where you are right now, in fact, I don't care where you are right now, where you are right now means absolutely nothing. Your past does not matter. Okay? Your past taught you some things, sure, great. But your past has nothing to do with your future. Too many people have their past and they bring their past with them. And every single present moment, and they bring their past them, and they create a future. And because they won't let go of the past, they create a future. Fast forward five years that is identical to their past and they're like, I don't know how to break free of it. It's cause you won't let go of what's already happened. And so today we're gonna talk about where you're going. We're gonna talk. Stop talking about all the crap that you've done and all the stuff behind you and your trauma and all the stuff that's happened. And you know how you wish that your dad would have spent more time with you, you wish your mom wouldn't have yelled at you, or how you wish your little brother wouldn't have been the. It might be. We're gonna let go of all this stuff. It's on the past. We're just gonna talk about where we're going. We're gonna talk about the future. First off, before we do this, I want to make you understand that we have been programmed unconsciously. Not purposely, not in a bad type of way, but we've been programmed. We live in a world where almost everything happens right away. We have extreme convenience, and that's great, but also at the same time, it makes you think that every. Everything is like that. You know, if I want to know, like yesterday, literally yesterday, my wife's mom was over at the house and we were watching some on tv and a guy misspoke and he said that the. The moon is 250 miles from the earth. And she's like, 250 miles from the Earth. She's like, I didn't know it was that close. And I was like, no, no, no, no, no. I think he meant 100,000 miles from the Earth. And they're like, really? Are you sure? And I was like, let's find out. And I was just like, hey, Siri. Sri's like, yes. I was like, how far is the Earth from the moon? And it was like 239,000 miles or something like that is what I think that it was, right? I remember being a child sitting around with my friends, and we'd say something like, well, I wonder how far the Earth is from the moon. And we'd sit there and we'd go, well, we can go to the library. And we'd have to ride our bikes to the library. And then we'd go to the library, and we have to find the encyclopedia. And then we'd look for E and for. I should probably look for M. So we look for M and for moon, and then we would get the answer, hopefully somebody and check out the M and the encyclopedias, right? But now it's like, near immediate. We have Amazon, we have Uber. Someone will come pick us up. We have food delivery, we have Uber Eats, we have doordash, we have grocery delivery, Instacart, Whole Foods. All of these things are, like, almost near instantaneous. If I want something delivered, if I want strawberries, if I'm sitting on my couch and I'm watching YouTube and I see somebody eating a strawberry, I'm like, man, strawberries sound really good right now. I don't have any. I don't have to get off of my couch. I can pick up my phone, I can order strawberries from Whole Foods, and I can get it delivered to my house. A couple hundred years ago, if you wanted strawberries, you'd have to go buy the seeds. You'd have to wait for the right time of the year. You'd have to plant the seeds, you'd have to water the seeds, you'd have to take care of them for a couple of months and make sure rodents didn't come and eat it. And then hopefully, hopefully one day they ripen and you can eat a strawberry now. You can sit on your couch, you can order them, and within two hours, some dude named Travis who's a student at the local university, is going to deliver him to my front door, right? The only thing that doesn't happen is Travis doesn't feed me my strawberries. That's about the only thing that doesn't happen, right? So we have been indoctrinated to believe and to think that everything should happen right away. And it doesn't happen like that. It doesn't happen. The great things take time. Rome wasn't built in a day, and so we're used to immediate gratification. What does this have to do with today? That's not the way most things work. You know, like, the example I always give is, like, let's say that you're a woman and you're pregnant and your husband comes up to you a couple months in and he's like, hey, honey, listen, like, I know this. I know this birthing thing is supposed to take nine months. It'd be really good though if, like, we could get a vacation by the end of the year. Do you think maybe you could get it done in like, five or six months? You'd slap him in the face, wouldn't you? Why? Because some things take time. The universe, God, whatever you believed in, says that that child needs nine months to bake in order to come out the perfect child that you need. That's what it's decided. That's way that it is. You can't change that no matter how much you want to speed up the process. For some of you women who have had children before, you probably wish you could have sped up that process, right? Short four extra months in my life without being pregnant, that would have been great. But it doesn't work that way. Some things just take time. The universe has decided that in order for a child to be born, it's going to take around nine months for you to get the life that you want. Well, it's going to take the right actions, but it's going to take a certain amount of time. The only thing is, you don't know how much time it's going to take. So today I'm going to talk about the thing that you really can control. You can't control the time because that's not really up to you. What you can control is the direction that you're going. And if you're heading in the right direction, accomplish everything that you want. The direction that you're going is more important than the speed that you're going. Right? So many people get a great business idea and they're like, I'm going to build this business. And they start to build this business, and three months in, they give up because they're not doing a million dollars a month yet. That's not how business works. You look on Instagram and you see this random kid that's 19 years old talking about how he made $14 billion through some random coin that you don't understand. And you're thinking, oh, my God, I'm supposed to become a billionaire in three weeks. No, that's not how it works. That's not how building a business works. It doesn't blow up like that. It takes time. Businesses take time the same way that growing a child takes time. Businesses Take time, like for my business, if I would have given up within three months because I wasn't a million dollars yet, then I would have just probably would have started something else and then given up and then get started something else and given up. It took my business three years to hit a million dollars in a year. What if I would have given up in the beginning because I was, oh, I wasn't there yet. Right. I was just still making mistakes. I was still figuring it out. It goes back to like the Tony Robbins has a quote around this, which is, people overestimate what they can do in a year, but they underestimate what they can do in a decade. Now that I'm, you know, what am I at? I'm at eight years into my business. I like really get that phrase now. Like, I understand it because I was thinking like, oh my gosh, I'm going to be making $500,000 a year the first year. Nope, that's not the way that it worked. 60,000 was the first number. Okay? And then you build and you build and you build. So we overestimate what we can do in a year, but we underestimate we could do in a decade. If you put a decade into a business, I guarantee you, if you put a decade of really quality work in 10 years, that business is making way more money and way more successful than you could actually realize and think in your mind, right? It's like if you know of this guy named Andy Frisella, he has a company and he runs $100 million a year company now, but he slept in a warehouse and barely broke even for the first two years. Most people are not willing to put in that hard time. They're not willing to put in that effort. Right? Right. Everybody sees like, oh, I want to run a hundred million dollar a year company. Yeah. No, I don't want to sleep in a warehouse though. I like my comforts. I like the way that is. Oh, no, I like to be able to travel. I can't be broke for two years. Right. He slept in a warehouse and barely broke even for the first two years. So it comes down to like, how bad do you really want it? How bad do you want a different life than you currently have? Are you willing to put in the work? You know, you don't have to live in a warehouse if you don't want to. It doesn't have to be that hard. But you do have to realize that it's not going. I'm just telling you right now, everybody listen, the life you Want is not going to happen as fast as you want it to happen. But that doesn't matter because once again, you're not in charge of the time that it takes. What are you in charge of? The direction, the actions that you're taking. That's what you're in charge of. Realize it's going to take time. We've been taught this since we were children. We've been taught this since we were children. Slow and steady wins the race. It's a tortoise and the hare. The tortoise wins because he's slow and steady and he's just going for it. He eventually gets there. All you have to do is decide what it is that you want. Decide, like, really decide. And the root word for decide and decision is dicadare in Greek, which actually means to cut off, which means to cut off all other options. It's like, you know, the great Marshall Mathers, the philosopher. The quote is, success is my only motherfucking option. Failure is not. That's what you have to decide. It's gotta be like, this is it. There is no other option. And that's the only way. You just can't give up on whatever it is. You just go and you don't stop. The only time that you fail at something is when you give up. If you just won't give up, you can't fail. You'll eventually get there. You'll figure out whatever the missing pieces are in order to get you where you need to go. But you might not figure it out in two months. You might not figure it out in a year. Might take you two years. You'll figure out the missing pieces eventually. And I want you to think about this. Think about, you know, you can't fail on something. You can't fail at something if you don't give up at it, right? Think about the things that you've given up on in the past, the things that you really wanted. Like, you really wanted to grow that business. And then it got a little bit harder. It required you to be better at time management or required a little bit more extra effort from you. And that was seven years ago. Think about where you could be right now in this moment, had you not given up on whatever that was. Some of you out there have, you know, a year ago, you tried last New Year's resolution, you tried to lose weight and you wanted to lose £40, but you gave up. Where could you be if you didn't give up? If you just headed in the right direction every single day, if you just would have pushed through the discomfort. Because I'm just going to be honest with you. Your desire to stay in your comfort zone will kill your dreams. Your comfort zone is where your dreams go to die. Your desire to stay where you comfortable and in this nice little spot. You might hate where you are, but you're comfortable. Your desire to stay comfortable will kill your dreams. So, you know, you really start to think about that. We talked about how long it's gonna take, what it could take. Do you have to give that up? Let's talk about where you're going. Right? The direction that you're going matters, and the actions that you're taking are what really matters. I always say it's very simple. Like, I always try to take things that people act are very super complex and zoom out 50,000ft and look down below. And I say, okay, if we look at goals, what do goals need? They need direction. Are you heading in the right direction? They need action. Are you taking the right action? And the last thing is, they need time. Oh, I'm not in control of time. That's right. I don't control time. And when I'm going to get the things that I want, what can I control? I could control the direction that I'm heading, what it is that I'm shooting towards, and. And I could take the. Can control the actions I'm taking every single day. Because if you're heading in the right direction, you're taking the right actions, and you just don't stop, you'll eventually get there. So where do you want to go? What is your destination? I always use the example. It's very simple. I always say, like, I live in Austin, Texas. North of Austin, Texas, is Dallas. If I want to get to Dallas, I could get there many different ways. I could take a plane, I could get in a car, I could ride a bike, I could find a bird scooter, I could walk, I could crawl, I could take any of those ways. Are some of them going to get me there faster than others? Of course. But as long as I'm just heading north, no matter what means of transportation I'm taking, but I'm just heading in the right direction, which is north. I'm taking the right action, which is riding, walking, flying, swimming, whatever it might be to get there, as long as I'm taking the right action, I will eventually get there. It might take me an hour, it might take me a year. I'll eventually get there. So do you know where it is that you actually want to go like, do you know what you want in your life? Like, I always ask people, what do you want in your life? And most people are like, well, you know, they give me this really vague answer, and I'm like, you don't even know what you want, do you? Like, you've never sat down and actually said, this is what I want in my life, have you? And they're like, no, not really. Well, you're not going to get what you want in life if you don't know what you want in life. You'll just get whatever it is that, you know life gives you. So I want you to think of your goals. Like, what are your goals for the next year? What's your goal for the next five years? What's your goal for the next 10 years? And have you sat down with a pen and paper and asked yourself, like, write down on a pen and paper, what do I want? And you answer that question, who do I want to be? And you write down the answer to that question, who or how do I want people to talk about me at my funeral? Which would be like, what characteristics, what habits, what traits do I want to like the type of person that I want to be? How much money do I want to make? You know what I want to make a couple hundred thousand dollars a year. Okay, tell me why you deserve it. Write it all down. Why do you deserve it? How are you going to do it? Where do you want to live? So many people just stay where they grew up or stay where they currently are just because they haven't thought about thinking outside the box then because moving somewhere else takes you out of your comfort zone. Where do you want to live? Do you want to marry? Do you want kids? How many kids do you want? Do you want a family? What do you want all of that to look like? If you have a family, what do you want your family to look like? What do you want your relationship with each and every individual to look like that's in your family? And after you get really, really clear on where you're going, AKA what it is that you want, now you need to make a plan. You have to have a plan to figure out, okay, I'm gonna go from here to here. Like, if you get into your car and you're trying to get somewhere, and you're gonna go in, and you're gonna probably go to Google Maps, you're gonna put your phone. You're put the address to your phone, right? And your GPS is gon two things. It's gonna figure out number One, where you are and number two, where you wanna go. Okay, so you all know where you are right now. We just talked about getting very clear on where you wanna go. Now you need to do at the GPS or do in Google Maps, you need to figure out the plan. You need to figure out the route of how you're gonna get there. Do you have a plan after you put all this together of where you're going and how you're gonna get there? You know, like, I love the example of, you know, say we're in Miami. And if you don't. If you don't know it, if you're in Miami, you can actually hop on a boat. And you can hop on a boat and get to the Bahamas. It's just a straight shot straight to the Bahamas, right? Let's say that you and I, we wake up in the morning, It's a beautiful morning. We have a captain. We're going to hop on a boat, and we're going to hop on a boat with him. When we wake up in the morning, we get 6 o'. Clock, sun's just starting to rise. The captain's like, good morning, guys. We're like, good morning. We're like, hey, go ahead and hop on. We hop on. We're like, where are we going? He's like, well, we're going to head over to Bimini and, yeah, we're gonna head over there. And you're like, okay, cool. How long is it gonna take? He's like, oh, I don't know. Probably take like three or four hours. Okay, great. What direction are we going? And he, like puts his hand out and kind of waves it back and forth from left to right. He's like, it's kind of like in. It's kind of like in that area. You're like, okay, that's kind of shady. He doesn't really seem to know exactly where this is. And you're like, okay, what are the seas like? He's like, actually, I don't know what the seas are like. I don't know about you. I'm not taking that ride to Bimini to the Bahamas with this guy. There's no way. But if I get on the boat and I sit there and I say, hey, how long is it going to take to get over there? He's like, oh, it's going to take about three hours and 15 minutes. Okay, cool. What direction we're heading? Well, we're going to head. We're basically going to head east and a little bit northeast because it's a little bit further up for us to get there, but north northeast is basically the direction that we're going to be heading. And you're like, okay, how are the seas? Seas are great. Today. I check it. A little bit of waves, about one foot. That's about it. You'll be like, okay, cool. He's like, yeah, go ahead and crack a beer. Go ahead and hang out on the top of the. On the front of the boat if you want to. You would feel much more comfortable, wouldn't you, if you had that type of person. Yeah. It's funny to think that you'd be like, I don't. There's a captain that's like, we're gonna head in that direction, I hope. Right? It's funny to. But that's how most people live their life. Of like, well, I think there might be, I don't know, are there storms? There might be storms. Well, I'm heading in that direction. I don't know how long it's going to take. Right. Life is like a ship. You're just floating around in the sea. You have no direction, you have no. You're just going with the winds, you're going with the tides. You have to just put your sails down and say, I'm going to head in this direction. I'm going to figure out how to get there. Right. And you have to make the decisions to do it. And then after all of this, you create weekly and daily check ins with yourself. Every week you see if you're progressing towards where you want to go. And every day you make a list of things that you need to do for that day to get you closer to your goal. It's really not that hard. Realize this though. You will mess it up. You'll mess it up over and over and over again. You're going to screw this up 10, 20, 30, 400 times. It's okay, just keep going. Because with every mess up, you figure out what's not working and you make little tiny adjustments. It's not about being perfect. It's about getting more tally marks in the win category than in the lost category. You know, if you say, I want to wake up early every single day and you wake up six days a week and one day you screw up. Okay, don't beat yourself up for the one screw up. Look at the six that you did do well and say, okay, I did pretty good, I can celebrate myself for those six wins. There's only one loss. Let me learn from this. What did I do wrong? You know what I should have gone to bed earlier last night. Okay. How can I make sure that I do that tonight and just realize that you have to know where you're going. You have to know what direction that you're heading in. And you have to take the right actions each day to get there, because your direction is more important than the speed that you're heading. Time will work itself out. And time is either your best friend or it's your greatest enemy. But it will work its way out eventually. Bad habits. Yeah, time's going to be your worst, worst enemy. Good habits. Time's going to be your best friend. But the actions that you take now, in tomorrow and the next day are going to dictate what that relationship is going to be like in five or ten years with time. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories. Tag me in at robdial Junior R O B D I A L J R the only way this podcast grows is from you guys actually sharing it. So I greatly, greatly appreciate. 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