How to Enjoy Life: The Art of Slowing Down

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is I want you to take a

step back and I want you to look at your entire life and ask yourself, what's the point of all of this? It's like we've been brainwashed to go, go, go, go, and to never stop and to get to the next thing. That. And then when you get the next thing, you have to go to the next thing. But we never really have any idea where we're actually going or why the hell we're actually doing it in the first place.

Is that the reason why you're alive

here is just to chase the next thing, and once you get the next thing, you don't even notice it? You just go to the next thing? Is that the reason why we're both alive here? To just get to the next thing and never even appreciate it? Like, to not appreciate that thing and just go into the next thing? I know somebody who just accomplished a massive life goal, something big a few weeks ago, something that took him 10 years to build. And when he hit this massive milestone, I asked him, I was like, so how does it feel? And his face, it was like he didn't. It was like it didn't even register in his face how much he cared. It was like he didn't care at all. And he was like, well, it's just. It's pretty exciting. This just shows me what's possible, and I can't wait to see what's next.

I was like, what?

Like, you can retire right now. And to be honest, it made me kind of sad because I've done this. I've done that exact thing. Like, I feel like I missed years of my life chasing this unknown finish line. And I want to make sure you and I never do that again. And so let's dive in and talk about it, right? One thing that I realized when I was younger, probably 27, 28 years old, I realized that we've been raised like sheep. Like, we've been domesticated, to just basically follow the leader, to do what we're told to sit in a chair. If you need to go to the bathroom, you need to raise your hand and ask for permission. You've only got five minutes to go to the bathroom. You need to sit in your chair. You need to face the front. You can only get out of your chair whenever the bell rings. And so we were kind of trained this way, like, to chase grades and to chase jobs and to chase money and to chase promotions, and we call it, quote, unquote, success. But I don't actually think that's success. Like, when you take yourself out of this game of success, you look at that and you're like, that doesn't look like success at all. But what if success for us is actually learning to take ourself out of this Race and say, you know what? I don't like this game. I refuse to play this game at full speed anymore. I want to slow down and experience my life. Because slowing down and experiencing your life, which is what we're going to dive into, and I'm going to teach you how to. Is the only real way to experience a real, meaningful life. And it's scary because slowing down means you might fall behind this race that you never wanted to run in the first place. It feels scary because you might disappoint some people who benefit from your busyness. You might face the terrifying silence of your own thoughts. But slowing down is the only way to actually live and the only way to actually experience life versus just. Just exist. Otherwise, you're just a hamster in a wheel that doesn't know how to get off. And so have you ever asked yourself and thought about this and thought like, okay, well, what's this finish line that I'm moving towards? Because it seems like everyone's racing towards a destination, but they have no idea what the destination is or what they will do once they get there. Have you ever noticed that as you get older, it feels like time actually starts to move faster? There's actually a neurological reason for this, and I was doing research on it because I got back from a trip to Italy with my wife about, you know, we were there for about three weeks. And while we were on the trip, we were so blown away at how long the trip felt like. It was. Like, we kept saying, oh, my God, can you believe we've only been here for a week? And then we'd say, like, it feels like it's so much longer. And then we'd be like, can you believe that we did that? It was only 10 days ago. Like, it feels like it was so much longer. And then when I'm at home and I'm in my routine, it's like, three

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dial that'S why when you look back on years and years of routine, they like collapse into a blink. And so in neuroscience, what they call this is, they call it temporal compression. It's when experiencers are so repetitive that your brain compresses them into less perceived time. And so when you look at your life, the translation is that, is that if you rush through life and you go from one thing to the next thing to the next thing, you literally experience less of your life. I don't know about you, but that terrifies the hell out of me. And so this isn't, this slowing down thing I'm going to be talking about isn't just about like meditating on a cushion. Slowing down is an entire rewiring of your life and your nervous system. It's about training your nervous system and your attention and your values to stop chasing these phantom goals that you're not even going for. And so let me give you a few ways that you can actually do this. Okay, the first thing is called sensory presence. So when you're doing something, you want to bring as many of your senses online as possible. So I've been doing a lot of research on this because I want to. I keep seeing videos of people talking about how much they miss their children when they leave the house or when they're teenagers, how much they miss holding onto them. And so for me, like when I'm with my son, I'm trying to like, see him as much as I possibly can. I'm trying to hear him as much as I possibly can. And so when you're with your children, for instance, you're trying to be in the moment and be present. You bring all of your senses and you notice the curve of their cheek, you notice the exact sound of their giggle. You try to bring all five of those senses into this moment and try to burn this thing into your brain. Another way of Doing it is to do something that's called micro pauses. And so, like, I don't know about you, but there's some days. Yesterday was one of them for me. I had a Tokyo drift from like one meeting to another meeting to another meeting. I was on from like 9 o' clock until 6 o'.

Clock.

I was straight on calls. So micropauses basically means before your next meeting, before whatever your next thing is you need to do. Close your laptop, take a deep breath. Like, notice the smell that you smell. Look out the window, Try to really notice the trees, notice all the curves of them, or notice the curves of the mountains that are out there. And then you notice them and you just try to bring in the presence. Like, notice how slow nature moves. Like the trees, when you look at them outside, they're not moving very fast. Well, you're a part of nature that moves very slow. You're not separate of it. And so let the world remind you that it's still here with these little micro pauses where you can kind of take a second to be here, to be in this moment before you go into your next meeting. The next thing of. Another way to really slow down is to try to disrupt your routines. Because I talked about how your, your hippocampus stores everything. I don't know about you, and I told you it terrifies me. I don't know about you, but I don't want to not experience my life. I don't want to not. I don't want to be stuck in so many routines that I don't do anything different. And so try to start adding some novelty to your days. If you drive to work the exact same way that you've driven for the past seven years, that you just do it on autopilot and your brain is off. Try taking a new route home. Try a new restaurant, Try a new recipe. Instead of the same old recipes you always do. Call someone that you haven't spoken to in years. And you have to remember this novelty expands time in your brain and makes you enjoy your life more. Another way to kind of help with this is to slow. Have these slow rituals that you bring into your life. So, like, if you're making coffee, try doing it without multitasking. You don't need to be on the phone at the same time or watching YouTube videos at the same time. Like, try to do one thing at a time and to have your rituals be slowed down. So make your coffee and then just notice the smell of the coffee. Make sure that when you take a sip of Coffee. You're not just pounding it before you get out the door, but you're tasting every single sip. If you decide to have dinner with your family, do something different. Bring in root. You know, different thing that will have a slow ritual, which is like you can put a candle on the table at dinner, and you can notice something being a little bit different. If you are going for a walk, this might scare some of you guys. Go for a walk without headphones. Some people are listening to me on your headphones right now on your walk, right? So go for a walk without headphones. These aren't just like small acts. What they are is they're interruptions in a culture that's addicted to speed and going to the next thing. So you can experience this human experience that you're in. You can actually be there. It's a corny, cliche phrase to stop and smell the roses, but really, that's what it's about. I remember a couple years ago, we were in Santa Barbara. I was walking our dog, and they had these big, huge, beautiful roses. And I walked by them, and I was like, whoa, I've never seen roses this big. I wonder what they smell like. And I smell them. And I was like, holy shit, I've never smelled a rose like this before. And we stay the same place. So I went by them five days in a row, and every day I stopped and I was like, oh, this is what they mean, to stop and smell the roses. Like, I'm literally, of course, stopping and smelling the roses. But how often should I start doing this in my life now? To actually notice what's all around me and try to take in and as much as I can? And the reason why is because we're here to experience life. We're all going to. We're all moving towards one thing. We might not know what we're moving

towards with our goals, but we're moving

towards one thing, everybody. And we're moving towards death. And that's the thing that people don't want to talk about. You're going to die. You are.

I am.

And when you do, none of your resumes, none of your promotions, none of your followers in your Instagram, none of the money in your bank account, any of those things will actually matter. The only thing that really matters is

did you live fully or did you

just race past your entire life? You know, hospice nurses have documented this again and again that the number one regret of the people who are dying is not, I wish I made more money or I wish I would have Worked harder. It's. I wish I lived a life that was true to myself and not the life that other. Other people expected of me. And when we're on this hamster wheel

of life, that is the life that

other people expect of you. So slowing down is how you live a life that is true to yourself, and you get yourself off of the hamster wheel and you actually experience this one life that you have. And so here's what I want to ask of you today. Think about this. Ask yourself the question, and really think about these. If I slowed down, what would I notice that maybe I've been missing? If I died next year, what moments would I regret not savoring? If my children already lived out of the house, what would I have missed? You know, if there is no destination, then you get, like.

You get to decide what the point

of your life is. The art of slowing down is not being about lazy. It's not about trying to be lazy and not doing anything and scrolling on Instagram. It's about being here and now. Here and now. Like the. I have a tattoo on my wrist that says, be here now. It's right here on my right wrist. Why? Because when my son was born, I was like, I want to be so fricking present that I'm experiencing every single moment that I possibly can. Because I keep hearing from people over and over and over and over and over again. I miss my kids being that small. I had so much fun when they were that little. So I was like, I want to remind myself by getting a tattoo on my wrist. So I see it all the time. Just be here, be in the moment. Don't be on your phone. Don't do anything else. Don't think about being anywhere else. And so it's like, it's about refusing to let your one precious life be reduced into just a giant blur. And it's about reclaiming your time as not something just to spend, but something to actually experience. Because life isn't about a race to the end. It's about creating a series of unrepeatable moments that are in your life that are just begging for you to notice them. And so my challenge to you. Slow down, pay attention. Burn the details of every single moment today into your memory. Smell the roses. Listen to your wife's laugh. Watch your kids run around.

Get off your phone and watch your children play.

Because there will be a day in 40 years where you wish that you could be back in that moment watching your children play in the front yard. You would trade every single dollar that you have everything that you own to be right back in that moment, watching your children play in your front yard again. That's where your meaning lives. But you have to experience it. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on Instagram. Stories Tag me in it Robdial Jr R O B D I A L J R and if you want to learn more about coaching with me outside of the podcast, you can go to coachwithrob.com once again, coach with rob.com and and with that, I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.

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