How To Have A Breakthrough | The Mindset Mentor Podcast

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast. And if you love this podcast, please do me a favor right this second. Pull out your phone, go to however you're listening to it right now, and give us a rating and review. Reason why is because the more positive rating reviews that we get, the more that those platforms actually show this and present this podcast to people who have never listened to it before, which enables us to grow, literally break apart all of the pieces that you thought you were and how you act. And oh, I'm this way because of this and this is just part of my personality. This is how I am. Sometimes you have to have a full on breakdown. Doesn't have to be a mental breakdown, but I mean like a breakdown of who you are in order to have a breakthrough. When you're in a breakdown, when you're at the point where you feel like it's rock bottom, that is the best chance for you to now change your life. And sometimes it's easier to make a change in your life when you are at rock bottom than when things are just going pretty well. You know, like when I think back to when I was at my rock bottom and I was living off of pasta for two months and I was five months behind on my car payment, that was easy to change from because that situation sucked so much. I was like, I got to get the hell out of here. That was very easy to change from. But I can also think about when I had the opportunity. I was making a couple hundred grand a year and I had the opportunity to leave that, to be able to start this business that I have now. It was a lot harder to make that change than it was to go from rock bottom to a little bit better and a little better and a little bit better. It's kind of wild. And so a lot of you listening, your life is pretty good. It's all right. You might get a couple days of vacation each year. You might make pretty decent money, might have a pretty cool little house and pretty cool little car and a nice relationship. But you want so much more. You want to not just more materialistic things, I mean so much more as far as experiences, as far as love, joy, happiness, peace, all of those things. You're going to have to start to break some things and destroy some things in order to create that. But there's one really big issue, and that's that thing that's in between your ears. It's your mind. The human mind resists change. Your subconscious will always resist change. You will always resist change in some sort of way. Because it means that you have to destruct who you currently are in order to make something different and to change who you are. That is a threat to the human mind. No way. No, no, no. Do anything else except for change anything. Have a cigarette, watch some Netflix. Smoke a bowl, have a shot of tequila, drink a glass of wine, scroll on your phone, talk to someone else, go for a walk, do anything, but actually change what needs to change. Your brain will try to figure out all the different things to keep you busy so that you don't have to actually do the thing that really, truly matters, which is change. To deconstruct, to reconstruct. Because change is a threat to the human mind. So your mind will give you all of these reasons why you got to do something different. You won't die, but pieces of your old self have to die. Think about that for a second. Like, you won't physically die, but pieces of your old self have to die. I'm in the process of reading this book right now, and he's talking about death and how so many people are afraid of death. And the reason why they're afraid of death is because death and life are on the same coin. Like, if you flip a coin, you got heads and you got tails. You can't have heads without tails. You can't have tails without heads. You can't have death without life, and you can't have life without death. And why so many people are afraid of death is because they actually aren't even truly living. Think about that for a second. Waking up and feeling anxious and feeling stressed and feeling like you're not where you want to be, and judging yourself and talking down to yourself, all of those things. That's not living. That isn't living. It's not even close to living. So why are we afraid of death? Well, because we're actually afraid of life. We're afraid of. If we're. If we're afraid of truly being the person that we want to be and creating everything that we want, then we're also gonna be afraid of death. It's the same coin. And then the other thing he goes on and says is, in order to fully live, you're gonna have to die every day. Not physically die, but psychologically and spiritually die every single day. So if you're afraid to. If the reason why you're afraid of death is because you're afraid of life and you're not fully living right now. So in order to live fully every single day, you must also die every day. There's a piece of you that has to die off. There's parts of you that have to die. Once again, it's not physical death. It's not me. Like die and then there's no more you. What I mean by it is there's psychological death that has to come. What I mean by that is that you won't die, but pieces of your old self have to die. That anxiety has to die, that judgment has to die, has to die. That self pity has to die. That blaming other people has to die. You have to fucking kill parts of yourself in order to build the parts of yourself that you want. You can't say yes to one thing without saying no to something else. If you're going to say yes to being a more loving person, you're also going to have to say no to the person who is judgmental, who is judgmental to other people, but also to yourself that also talk shit to yourself. You have to realize that there's parts of us that need to die off all of the time. And we have to be okay with the purge and okay with the purge and okay with the purge. You know, if I think back, like myself, I'm not the same person I was five years ago. I'm not the same person I was 10 years ago. I'm not the Same person I was 15 years ago. I have actually, when I think back to the point where I was at my lowest point in my life, the Rob that was back October 2010 in Fort Lauderdale in the one bedroom apartment, no furniture in the house except for a bed, living off of pasta for two months and literally sitting there and being five months behind on my car repayment and begging them not to repossess my Audi, I'm not the same. I have literally and figuratively killed that person. That person is dead. There's no bit of that rod that still exists. I have destroyed that person. But from the ashes, like a phoenix, I've rebuilt myself into the person I wanted to be. So if you're going to build yourself into the person that you. And mind you, let me say this. I'm not perfect. So I'm still not the person that I can be. There's still more that needs to die off that I'm slowly finding every single day. And I don't expect to just finally be at that destination at some point in time in my life. I See this as like a birth and death process forever, probably until the day where I actually really, truly do die. Right? So I don't see this as like. I see this whole thing as a journey, not just like a moment where it's gonna finally be like, oh, look at me, I made it. That'd be awesome, right? I don't see it as a made it ever. But I had to find the parts of myself that I identify with and completely get rid of some of them and figure out what needed to change. And when I needed to change something, I built a new version of myself. You hopefully are not the same person that you were 10 years ago. Hopefully you're a better version of yourself now. Not everybody's going to be a better version of themselves, but hopefully you are a better version of yourself. But when you look at who you used to be, if you're a better version of yourself, there were parts of yourself that you had to kill off. You had to take it behind the, you know, into the backyard and, you know, shoot. It had to be gone. You had to get rid of that self pity and blaming other people and not stepping up and not following through and being a lazy pos. You had to get rid of all of those things. Life is about destroying the old version of yourself in order to make way for the new version of yourself. Knocking down an old building that's decaying, that's not up to code. Where the electricity is coming out of the wall, there's rats everywhere. You got to knock that building sometimes. It's just that building's too far gone. You got to knock it down in order to make space to build a new building. But what's really hard is it's our identity. Like when we think that we have to kill out a part of ourself, our identity gets really afraid. Because if we don't have ourselves, we don't have our identity. Who are we? Because we've built ourself into thinking that we are this person every single day. And so we think we're this person. So it's really scary to think that I can wake up tomorrow and be a completely different person. I can literally be a completely different person today. I don't know how many times I said this on the podcast. Probably a couple hundred. But one of my favorite quotes is Alan Watts. It says, you're under no obligation to be who you were five minutes ago. You can decide to be a different person right now. You can. And when you look at personal growth, you have to lose yourself in order to find yourself. So you have to find the parts of yourself that you don't want anymore, that you don't enjoy, in order to find the parts of yourself that you do want and you do want to create. You can't strengthen a part of yourself without finding the part of yourself that's the complete opposite of that part of yourself that you want to strengthen and kill it off and get rid of it. You have to let go of who you think you are in order to build yourself into who you truly want to become. And let me just say something I think people don't really think about as much is you might have to mourn the old version of yourself. The same way that when somebody dies, you mourn them, right? There might be a grieving process of who you used to be. Cause change is not easy, but it is necessary. When you are happiest, when you are at your happiness happiest, it's usually because you feel like you're progressing in life. Tony Robbins always says this. Progress equals happiness. When you feel like you're progressing, you're at your happiest. And so when you feel like you're progressing, what that actually means is that there's parts of yourself that you're letting go of. You are stepping into new parts of yourself, but you're also letting go of other parts of yourself. I've never seen someone who has real, true progression in their life who was unhappy. Usually when someone is unhappy, they. They feel stagnant. When someone feels like they're not enough and they're not going the way they want to, that's usually where unhappiness comes from. But when someone's progressing and they're reading and they're improving and they're having more fun and they're having more happiness and better relationships, and they're going to conferences to help themselves with their personal development or with getting good at real estate, investing, whatever it is, and they're progressing. Very rarely do you find someone that's unhappy. So you have to realize there's a version of you in the future that is the flower. There is. It's there and it's waiting for you. And it is your true, absolute potential. But in order for you to become that flower, you're gonna have to completely destroy parts of yourself. And I'll go back to the very first thing I said at the beginning of this podcast episode. A seed has to completely destroy itself. And in order for it to become a flower, you just have to make the decision of what needs to go, what needs to stay, what you need to create, and what you need to strengthen. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me Obdial Junior R O B D I A L J R and I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission. Make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have let me stop before you go any further. I always say it at the end of the episode and people always ask, like, why do you say that? Because we have hundreds of thousands of people listening to this podcast. Imagine if every single one of you went out today and decided to do something for somebody else. How much better would the world be if you did that every single time you listen to this podcast. It would be massively better. So when I say it, I'm not just saying it for the hell of it. I'm not saying it for just shits and giggles. Go out and make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.