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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast, please do me a favor. Give us a rating and review however you listen to us. Reason why is because the more positive ratings and reviews that we get, the more that Spotify and Apple Podcasts and all of the other platforms present this podcast on the front page to show to people who have never listened to it before, which allows us to impact more people's lives. So if you do that, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it. Today we're going to be talking about the power of quitting and giving up. And you know this might surprise you today is I'm going to talk about giving up and quitting because you know, you might think, oh I like create episodes about not giving up and always keep going. And giving up is a can be seen as like a sign of failure and it can if you're, if it's towards something, if you're like trying to if you give up on like the life that you want to create, if you give up on bringing out Your full potential in the world. Well, yes, I could see that being a failure. But sometimes giving up and quitting something is the most courageous decision that you can make. It really is. And this ties perfectly with the last episode that I just did on the commitment principle of how we have to act in accordance with who we think we are or our belief systems. But I'm all about following through. I'm all about working your ass off. I'm all about creating the life that you want. But sometimes the best thing that you can do for yourself and for your future is to give up on something that you've been holding onto for way too long. And sometimes we just continue to keep doing something because we've just been doing it for so long, or we just continue to stay with somebody because we've been with them for so long, or we continue to be friends with somebody because we've been friends with them for so long. And sometimes it's very valuable to know that maybe what you've been doing is you've been trying to breathe life into something that died a long time ago, and you're just trying so hard to make this thing work that died two years ago. And so sometimes it is good to turn the page on, you know, a friendship, on a relationship, on a job, on a career, on a business that's been failing for so long, on that mindset that's holding you back on, you know, a belief system about yourself, about the world. Everything has a lifespan, and few things are supposed to last forever.

Some are.

I'm not saying kill everything in your life, but maybe there are a couple things that should be taken out behind the barn and shot that you've been holding on to for way too long. So some things are meant to last forever, but many things are not meant to last forever. Many things do have a lifespan. And so you might actually be using energy, enforcing energy into something that no longer serves you. And you might be bringing all of the energy to a relationship and the person just isn't bringing any of it. Or you might be putting all of your energy into making sure that you stay at this career, even though it's so hard to get yourself to drive to work every single day. Just because it's familiar doesn't mean that it's fulfilling. And you have to realize that sometimes we see, and I've seen it for a long time in my life, we see giving up as a sign of weakness, but it can also really be a big sign of strength. One of the biggest skills that you can Learn is to understand when something is over and understand when something has run its course in your life. And it's not just about, like, quitting and being a failure and looking down on yourself and having guilt and shame around not having the same energy for your career or for your relationship or for your friendship. It's not all about quitting. It's about understanding that something is at the end of its life. And so you've really got to ask yourself and go through your life and be like, is this thing that's all consuming of me and using so much of my energy, is it adding value to my life? Or am I just holding onto it out of fear or out of habit? Like, is it really still adding value? Or I'm just holding onto it because of just habit or fear? A lot of times I see people stick with something or someone just because there's some form of history. And it goes into this, this psychological phenomenon that's called the sunken cost fallacy. And basically, the sunken cost fallacy is when people continue to invest their time or money or effort into something just because they already put a lot into it, even if it's no longer worth it. Like, I'll give you a simple example. We'll take emotion out of it. But if you look at investing, I have invested in many companies, and I've seen some companies that I'm like, yeah, that this one didn't work after a couple of years. And I see other people who invested into it with me, they're like, no, let's put more money into. Let's put more money into it. I'm like, this is literally the definition of the sunken cost fallacy is we invested into a business. This business has failed. It's on its way down. I'm not trying to attach myself to a sinking ship. And, you know, eight to nine investments should go south in one or two should succeed. And so the sunken cost fallacy can be in investments, but it can also be in relationships. It could be in careers. It could be in everything in your life, which is like, I've put so much time and so much energy into this thing that I can't let it die. And people feel stuck because they. They don't want to cut their losses and just figure out a way to move on. So, like, for instance, let's take an easy one. Let's take your a job, right? Let's say you went to school for accounting. And I hear something like this all of the time, where it's like, hey, Rob, I went to School for accounting. I've been doing this for 10 years and I'm not really a fan of my job. I don't hate it, I just don't really love it. And I'm just not feeling in love with this job. And I feel like I'm being called into going into another direction and you feel this nudge or this call towards something different. But the sunken cost fallacy or the fact that, you know, you went to school for four years and you got an education in it and you know, so you have like four years of education and then you have 10 years of work. I have 14 years into this, Rob. I'm 40 years old now. I can't change. And I look at people and I've had people literally come to me at events that I've spoken at and be like, you know, I'm 40 years old. I've been doing this, I want to change, but I've just been doing this for 14 years. I can't just give up on something. I've been putting 14 years into it. And if I give up right now, aren't I a failure? And it's like if you're 40 and you, have you, have you identified that there's something that you're not in love with anymore, or maybe you were never in love with it, you just did it because you thought you were supposed to. If you're lucky enough to retire at 65, most people, according to statistics, won't retire at 65 now because they don't have enough money saved. If you, if you're lucky enough to retire at 65, you're going to be doing this for another 25 years. So you're telling me that you want to keep on doing something that you're done with mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and you want to do something for another 25 years that you're done with just because you've been doing it for 14 like that, when you actually say it out loud, doesn't make any sense. And we will be right back. Teachers are deep into new units this time of year.

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dialogue and now back to the show. And that's what it's. It requires us to. All right, I want to make a change. And that feeling of I need to make a change inherently brings up fear, because most people fear change. Like, you know, okay, if I just stay in this job and I stay doing this thing, I'll be okay, and I'll make this amount of money and I'll have two vacations a year, and I'll be able to pay the bills, but I really am getting pulled towards this thing. But I don't know. That thing is so scary. I don't know what's on the other side of that. Sometimes it is time to turn the page and appreciate that those 14 years, you did a lot. You had so many accomplishments. You've learned a lot. There's a lot that you can take from those 14 years and put into the next 25. So instead of thinking about the past, which is what most people do in this situation, consider the future. Like, what could those 25 years look like if you pursued something that truly excites you? Like, maybe you become a successful accountant doing something that you don't fully love? Well, what could you accomplish if you did something that you actually really love?

Like, where could your life be?

Maybe the first, you know, 40 years of your life in, you know, 14 years of a career, was doing something that you thought you were supposed to do based off of your parents and society and a younger version of yourself

that built this idea.

And so that's what you did from, you know, 26 to 40. What could you do now? You have 40 years of experience in life, 40 years of knowledge, 14 years of business acumen, and all of what could the next 25 years look like if you stepped into the highest version of your potential? That could be amazing. So instead of looking at what you've lost, if you make a change, how much you could gain from making the change, and sometimes it is time to turn the page. Appreciate the skills, appreciate the lessons, appreciate the experience from your role, and give yourself permission to move on. It's not a failure. It's an evolution. And that's a really important thing to understand is it's not failure. In this case, it's evolution. You're evolving. It's a key reframe to think about. It's like, I'm evolving. That's the old version of me. I'm stepping into a new version of me where I'm going to do something that's fulfilling. Because what if you do become, quote, unquote, Successful as accountant. And you have, you know, you build a huge accountancy firm and you work your ass off, you make millions of dollars and you're just like 15 years from now, you're like, I'm not fulfilled. What is, is that success. Like Tony Robbins always says, success without

fulfillment is the ultimate failure.

So many people get to quote, unquote success, financial success, whatever it might be, achievements. People can see that you're cool and you've awesome, you've done these things, but inside you feel like you haven't done anything. That feels like a failure to me. So it's like, what do you define as success? You know? Another example is a relationship. Please understand this before I dive into it. I am not in the business of breaking up marriages or long term relationships. If you are happy and in a loving marriage or relationship that brings out the best in you and you bring out the best in them, then you have found one of the rarest things in this entire world. And this next part is not for you, but for those of you guys. Let me tell you something that I do hear a lot about. You know, they say something like, well, Rob, I've been married for 12 years and we've tried to make it work. We've seen marriage counselors and we've tried for years to make it work. And we've tried and we've tried and we've tried, but it's just not there anymore. There's no spark. And we're just kind of staying together for the kids. Like, I've heard this many times, sadly, we're staying together for the kids. And the way that I bring it up to people and just a question that I ask is like, okay, well, I get that and I completely understand. That's gotta be really, really tough. But if you're in a relationship and there's no love in the relationship, and your children are learning what a relationship should look like from you, are they learning the type of relationship that you want them to have later on in life? Like, do you want your marriage to be an example of perfect love for them? Do you want them to be your relationship to be? Like, what love could be and what a relationship could be? So is it better for them to see their mother and their father in a relationship where there's no connection and there's no love and you're just kind of coexisting? Or is it better for, yeah, maybe things get hard for a little while, but maybe somebody does get into a divorce and then the mother gets into a relationship. That's a loving relationship. And the father gets into a relationship that is a loving relationship. What is that better to see? And I don't know that's. I don't. I don't have the answer for it probably would be my answer. But this is for. Each relationship is unique. Will it be an easy road if you do decide to break up the relationship?

No.

Could it be beneficial for you in the long run and for your children to see a loving relationship? In the long run, it could. But in the long run, it could provide a better example of what a loving relationship could look like. And so it's like, that's something that you should think about where it's like, if you're staying together just for the kids, is that like a logistical thing at this point, or is it like, well, what do your children are going to act in accordance with what they see? They're learning from you on how to be a human. They're learning from you on how to be in a relationship, on how to. How to act with your spouse. And so what do you want them to learn? That's something to really think about. And moving on from something doesn't mean that it was a failure. I keep bringing this up. You know, I remember seeing Interview one time with a guy and he said, you know, he was. He had just gotten a divorce. And he said, but that. He said, you know, the guy who was interviewing him was like, what do you think of divorce? He's like, well, he's like, most people

would say that divorce is a failure,

but I never saw my relationship as a failure. He's like, I. I learned a ton in our relationship. She learned a ton. And we're still good friends, but the relationship just ran its course. And so I don't see that as a failure. I see something that evolved as much as it could, and then it was just time for both of us to turn the page. And so it worked out the way it was supposed to work out. And so with everything in life, you learn and you grow, and some things you're going to continue to stay with, and some things you just might want to move on from. Everything in life is a lesson, but did you get the lesson that you needed? You know, another example of something that you should probably try to start to think about and maybe turn the page on is your personality, your mindset, what you think about yourself. Going back to the last episode where it's just like, oh, yeah, well, this is who I've always been. That's what we tend to stick with. And that's BS. You are a infinitely complex being that is constantly evolving all the time. Don't try to stay the way that you've always been. Allow yourself to involve. If you're stagnant, you're not growing. Stagnation leads to decay. And, you know, my. When I think of stagnant, I always think of, like, a. The visual that always comes to my head because I'm such a visual person is like a pond that's, like, got mold on it and mosquitoes, and it's, like, gross. Like, I don't want to think of my life as, like, a stagnant pond. And one of my very first mentors used to always say, you're either green and growing or you're brown and dying. And so, like, when you think of your life, do you want it to feel like it's green and growing, or do you want to feel like it's brown and dying? And so you just have to start thinking about, like, what do you want to continue into your future? And what do you want to leave in the past? You have to stop settling for stuff that's not good enough. You've got to demand greatness from yourself in your life. Don't get stuck in who you were yesterday. You should be constantly evolving and learning and challenging yourself and challenging your beliefs. Growing is a continuous process. Nothing stays the same in this universe. So why are you trying to hold on to being the same as you were yesterday? And I want you to realize that when you start making decisions, you start looking at your life. I always live, and this is my own personal way that I live. So, you know, if you want to take it, you can. If not, no big deal. And mine is this. If it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no. If you look at something and you're like, okay, this job, is it a hell yes? And if it's not, well, then it's a hell no. And this mantra, like, cuts through the noise. If you're not fully excited and energized and aligned with something or someone, then maybe you should consider what the next steps should be in it settling for, like, good enough is a slow killer of your dreams and your joy. Like, I don't. I don't think there's anybody gets the end of their life and is like, well, I'm glad that it was just pretty good. Like, I'm sure they'd be like, damn, I wish I would have done more. You know, I wish I would have made a change I wish I would have changed when I had the chance. And so you have to stop settling for these things. You have to demand this greatness from yourself. You owe it to yourself to pursue the things that truly light you up inside. Life is too short to just be doing something because you've been doing in the past. You want to be doing something that excites you. And don't fear the unknown. Fear staying the same fear staying stuck. Fear not bringing your potential out into the world. Because that, I don't know, the unknown is way less scary to me than getting to the end of my life and wishing that I would have done more or seeing that I would have had. I had so much opportunity, so much potential. I didn't bring it out to the world. Look, I would rather work my ass off. I would rather make a change. I would rather get uncomfortable. I'd rather step into the unknown way more than I would like to get to end of my life and regret. That scares the shit out of me. That's what I don't want to do. And so, once again, not everything needs to be taken. Taken out behind the barn and shot. But there are probably a few things in your life and my life and all of our lives that we should start to look at and say, hey, maybe I should make a change on this thing. If you do that, that will allow you to constantly keep evolving and changing and becoming the best version of yourself. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. 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