The 5 EASY STEPS To Be More Self Disciplined (DO THIS TODAY!) | Rob Dial

A lot of people think that the word discipline for a lot of people has a bad connotation when I'm talking about self discipline. Self discipline is actually an act of self love. Today I'm going to be teaching you the five steps to be more self disciplined and to get shit done today. So we're going to talk about how to build the discipline muscle, the discipline habit. The way that I see discipline is I don't think anybody is born with discipline. I think that it's something that is, that is programmed into us, whether it's our parents that program it into us or whether we program it into ourselves. And I think that I see it as a muscle, I see it as a habit, and I see it as something that anybody can bring into themselves, no matter how lazy or unproductive they are at this moment. And I really got into this because I was talking with my fiance about it last night when I was driving my truck and we were talking about someone that, that she knows that's really disciplined. And she goes, it's really, it makes sense though, because both of his parents are really disciplined. His mom's real success, real successful. His dad is real successful, and they're both very driven people. And it makes sense why he's so driven. And I said, well, what about his brothers and sisters? And she said, yeah, that's interesting because all of them, the entire family is driven. And so it's something that you can learn, whether it's learning it from your parents or something that you can instill in yourself as well. And so I see it like a muscle. The more that you work your discipline muscle, the more it's going to grow. The more you work a discipline plus the more it's going to grow. At this point in time, if you don't have a whole lot of discipline, it might just be because you got weak discipline muscles. It's like you haven't been to the gym maybe your entire life. But if you just decide to start going to the gym and decide to start lifting weights and show up and show up and show up and show up consistently, eventually your muscles will grow. Your muscles are just going to grow. That's the way that your body works. It's the exact same way for discipline. For me, I was a very undisciplined person for a long time in my life. For the first 19, 20 years, I was completely undisciplined. I didn't like doing any work, any of that stuff. And now it's hard to not be disciplined. It's hard to not be driven to get something done. And so I know from myself and from other people that I've worked with. Discipline is something that can be built into you. It's not something that you're born with, but it's something that can be developed. You don't need discipline for easy things. That's the funny thing about it. You need discipline for the hard things. You don't need discipline for, you know, sleeping in. You don't need discipline for not going to the gym. You don't need discipline to eat a pizza. You need discipline to actually do the things that you need to do to move the needle in your life. And before we dive into the five tips, I want to tell you something about discipline I think is super important. A lot of people think that the word discipline is for a lot of people has a bad connotation. If your child does something or your does something wrong, you discipline them. If they don't get good grades or they don't act the way they're supposed to, if your dog poops on the floor, you're going to discipline your dog. But when I'm talking about self discipline, self discipline is actually an act of self love. It's not an act of doing something bad. It's an act of self love because you always need self discipline to do the things that are good for you. You don't need self discipline like I said, to sleep in. You don't need self discipline to not work out. You don't need self discipline to eat a pizza. You need self discipline to, to wake up early to work on yourself. You need self discipline to eat the healthy foods. You need the self discipline to get yourself to the gym. And so self discipline is an act of self love. It's not an act of, you know, something negative, which is the way we usually think of the word of discipline. So I want to tell you that before we, we dive into it. But it's also not about being perfect. You will never be perfect, and so you don't need to worry about that. It's not about being just like this badass productivity machine all day, every single day. It's about making sure that you're the majority of the actions that you take are the actions that need to be taken to get you to where you want to be and to move the needle. So it's not about being perfect all the time. Because one of the things I see with people as they start to work on themselves and they start to try to get better is they will Be really good for a couple days and then they'll fall off and then they start to judge themselves and they start to feel guilty. And then the judgment and the guilt and the shame and the negative self talk knocks them off path and they don't do anything to be done. And so I want you to realize you don't have to be perfect. It's about winning more than you're losing. And that's the way that you really get. Get to move the needle in your house and you're in your life. Okay? So number one is to challenge yourself to finish every single thing that you start. Challenge yourself to finish every single thing that you start. No matter what it is, challenge yourself to make sure that you get done. If you make yourself a salad, you have to finish the salad. And then if you made the salad, you have to put everything away before you can go on to the next thing. One of the things that's really interesting that I have a new coach, I guess you could say I'm learning how to fly a plane. And so I have a certified flight instructor. It's funny because he's not teaching me life skills, but I see life skills coming through as he's teaching me. So he's kind of, I like to call him my coach more than anything else. One of the things that you have to do is when you're about to pre flight your plane and you're going through the plane you're looking at everything, is you have to check the fuel on the plane and you have to go through. And in the plane that we have, there's five different places where you have to literally take the fuel out. So two different places where you have to take the fuel out of the further out on the ends of the wing, further and closer to the cockpit and the fuselage. And then actually one actually coming directly out of the engine where you actually have to literally get the gas out of there and actually check to make sure that it's good gas. And one of the times I left the cup that you put the gas in on one of the wings and he goes, this is an important part that you need to learn about aviation is you don't do something else until the thing that you're doing is done. And so even if you're on, you know, where I've put my gas away, the little cup is on the left back side of the plane. The where I always am at though, is the right wing of the plane. So the complete opposite side of the plane. And so what he says is Even if it's on the other side of the plane, you don't do anything else until it's completed. So you have to walk all the way to the other side of the plane and you have to put it away. And the reason why I love this is because he says, in aviation, you have to make sure that the thing that you're working on gets done before you move to something else. Because if you happen to forget something, because you go on to something else, because you're distracted, that can be catastrophic. And so you've got to start to think about yourself in your life in the exact same way. And this is what I love about coaches in all different aspects of life, is that no matter how big the thing is, no matter how small the thing is, challenge yourself not to do anything else until that thing is done. You hear me say it all the time. When you wake up in the morning, make your bed. When you have your coffee, just clean the coffee mug, whatever it is that you're doing. If you brush your teeth and you happen to brush your teeth and get a little bit that's on the mirror, wipe it off when you go and you're deciding what you want to wear for the night and you're changing through all of these different outfits, don't leave all of those outfits on your bed and then go out. What you do is you literally figure out what outfit you're going to wear, put it on, and then hang up again and put away every single article of clothes. You've heard me say it over and over and over again, and I just said it in other podcasts. The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. And so if you can force yourself to be self disciplined for the little teeny tiny things like making your bed, putting your clothes away, making sure that you wash the dish, every single thing that you do, you're going to translate that into all of the big things in your life as well. And so make sure that you're disciplined in getting every single teeny tiny thing done and finishing what you start doing. Allow yourself to stop early, because stopping early is also a habit. And so if you're trying to develop a habit, what is the habit that you're trying to develop? Finishing what it is that you started. So that's the first one. Step number two is to plan ahead. If you want to just be more self disciplined and get more stuff done, start being better at planning ahead. It really boggles my mind how few people plan out their week and then they don't plan out their day in the morning. If, if you take five minutes with yourself every single morning and ask yourself, okay, look at my schedule, what I have going on today. And you take five minutes and you close your eyes and you say, hey, what do I want my day to look like today? How do I want to feel? I'm going to go through driving to work, being at work, the presentation I have to give, lunch, the conversation I want to have, and you just visualize what the perfect day would look like to you. And you plan ahead. You'll be so much more productive and it'll be so much easier to be disciplined. Whenever you've gone through that, another idea of planning ahead, if you're trying to lose weight, you're trying to get into better shape, why don't you just start meal planning? Like plan ahead every Sunday, create all of your meals, and then you don't even have to think about what it is that you got to eat every single day. You've already got it made. That's what planning ahead looks like. To be more self disciplined. If you've got to work out four times a week and that's part of your self discipline, why don't you plan out your on Sunday, what workouts you're going to be doing day one, day two, day three, day four. And plan out the workouts so that when you show up to the gym, you don't even have to think, think, you just have to take action. And so sometimes one of the biggest resist pieces of resistance that we have towards doing things is the mental energy that it takes to get ready and prepared for those things. But if you can make it easier by preparing ahead of time and already having those things done, it'll make it much more easier, much easier on yourself to execute what it is that needs to be done. And so make sure that what you're doing is you're planning ahead for all of the important things that are coming up in your life as well that will help you be so much more self disciplined. That's number two. Number three is to design your environment. What do you want your environment to look like? How can you create an environment that makes it easier for you to take action or makes it easier for you to accomplish your goals? So let's say that you want to lose weight. Okay, well, in your environment of your house, in your car, where you work, all of those things, how can you design your environment to help you in accomplishing that goal of being more disciplined? For me, I love sugar. I think it's amazing. And if I have sugar inside of the house, it's being eaten by me and I'll probably eat all of it in one sitting. And so what I do is I don't allow any candy, any of that stuff to be inside the house because I know I'm weak when sugar's around, it's like the animalistic part of my brain takes over and it's like, go find the sugar and just do it. So to make it easier on myself and to have more discipline, I just don't have sugar inside the house. Makes it easier on me. So if sugar is a thing for you, how can you remove the sugar? If alcohol is a thing for you, how can you move the alcohol? I had a friend that I just spoke to and we were on a zoom call a couple hours ago and I haven't talked to him about three years and I hopped on a zoom call with him and I barely recognized him. And I was like, man, what, what happened to you? Like, how much weight did you lose? He's like, I've lost about 40 pounds. I haven't seen him in three years. It's like, I've lost like 40 pounds. Like, you look amazing. What did you do? He goes, do you want to the crazy thing, man, I just stopped drinking alcohol. He goes, I love drinking alcohol. Not in an alcoholic sense, but I just love drinking it. It's just the way it feels going out, being with friends and stuff. He goes, I just stopped drinking alcohol. And he looked like a completely different person. You know, he just decided to take his environment and not have any alcohol in the house. Because if the temptation isn't there, it makes it easier to be more self disciplined, which then makes it easier to hit his goals. So another thing, as far as your environment goes, is think about the people that you're hanging out with. You know, don't be around people who will challenge your discipline. Don't be around. You know, if you want to stop drinking, like my friend I was just telling you about, then don't go around your friends at a bar because that's going to make it really hard to be less disciplined. And so you've got to design your environment to be the environment that you. You would want to help you in facilitating your help you facilitate the accomplishment of the goals or the action that needs to be taken to get you to where you need to be. So number three is to design your environment. Number four is to work in and to focus on progress, not perfection. This is huge for a lot of people. Progress, not perfection. Done is better than perfect. So focus on progress, not perfection. So you know, when you mess up, which you will, don't beat yourself up. Make adjustments. That's all you have to do. One of the things that really holds people back the most is that when they screw something up, they literally drag themselves on glass and just like, literally, it's like dragging themselves on glass of guilt and shame and negative self talk and being terrible to themselves. And so many people, if they would just stop guilting themselves, it would make it so much more. So much easier for them to be more disciplined, but also get things done that they need to get done right? So when you mess up, which you will. Let me say it again, you will mess up over and over and over and over again. That is part of being human. Realize that it is about progress and not perfection. When you mess up, make adjustments, take a step back and ask yourself, what happened? And what could I have done better? So if you look at that and you go, okay, well, my goal was to not have any sugar. Okay, well, what could I have? I just ate some sugar. What could I have done to have gotten away from that? Well, I probably could have shared my goals with my wife so that she would have known that I don't want to have any sugar and that she probably wouldn't have bought that ice cream and I wouldn't have, you know, pounded that quart of ice cream. Well, okay, now we know. We take a step back and we look at it and say, okay, now what I need to do is I need to share my goals with her and say, hey, if you want ice cream, you can get it. But do me a favor, you know, either finish it before you get to the house or, you know, hide it from me so I can't see it. Whatever it is that you need, like, literally this. I'm not kidding you when I tell you this. My fiance, if she has candy, she hides it from me because she knows that if I find it, it's gone. Like, it's done. It's just. It's cashed. Not happening. It's gone. And so she literally will hide stuff from me because she knows that she wants to enjoy it later. Like, she's the type of person that can sit down and she can enjoy one piece of chocolate and then, like, tomorrow come back and enjoy one more piece of chocolate. I'm the person where, if I have one piece of chocolate and it registers my brain, I'm pounding the whole freaking bag. And so with her, she hides it from Me, that's just our relationship, and I'm completely cool with it. Why? Because it helps me when I don't know that's there. So my environment is designed in that way. But also, if I do have a piece of chocolate or do have something, then I don't beat myself up over it because I would say the majority of the days I don't have any. And so I'm not going to try to live a life that I don't enjoy. And so it's about progress and not perfection or anything else. So that's number four. And number five is reward yourself. Like, it's okay to reward yourself if you have a really good week. And let's just. Let's just stay on this fitness thing that we're talking about. And you have a really good week of working out, and you have a really good week of eating healthy. Have a cheat meal. I remember when I used to be really, really big into. I was about 20 pounds heavier than I am now, and I was. Had way more muscle. I'd still have it if I didn't have all these injuries that I've had over the past few years, I'm sure. But I would have one cheat meal a week, and it was like the most glorious cheat meal ever. I would look forward to that Saturday. It was Saturday evening, I would have that cheat meal and it was like, I would go get a pizza and I would eat the entire pizza and then I would have a massive bit of ice cream. And then literally almost every single week I would pass out right after because my body was like, shut down. There's two much going on. My body needed to digest all of it. But it was so glorious to literally have, like, this one meal that I could look forward to. And then I ate so much all of those things that I didn't. I didn't feel the need to cheat the entire rest of the week because I was like, holy crap, that was a lot. I need to kind of chill out. And so reward yourself. If you are trying to stay away from sugar, reward yourself a little bit of sugar once a week. Whatever it is you need to do. Design your environment to help you be more successful, to help you get done whatever is you need to get done. If you need to make 100 phone calls every single day in your business, okay, well, on the end of Friday, when you get those 500 phone calls done for the entire week, how are you going to reward yourself? So enjoy your life and what you're doing. Don't be so disciplined. That it just becomes monotonous and not fun. You've got to have some sort of way to when you do succeed, have a cheat meal. If you make 100 calls, you get a bag of Skittles. Whatever it is that's going to help you to reward yourself so that therefore you want to go and be self disciplined again. Because you can't be self disciplined all of the time. But when you have a reward for being more self disciplined, it makes it easier to go ahead and be more self disciplined the next round. Hey, thanks so much for watching this video. If you want to learn even more about mastering your mind, click right here and watch this video as well. It's so ridiculously simple how simple life is, but we make it so hard.