This Is Why You FEEL LOST In Life!.. (Find Your PURPOSE In 16 Minutes) | Rob Dial

Stop doing things that you don't like. I don't know about you, but that today we're gonna be talking about how to find yourself and how to become who you truly want to become. And we're actually going to follow a format by a philosopher who's now dead, as most philosophers are. And his name is Friedrich Nietzsche. And Friedrich Nietzsche is a philosopher who thought way different than everybody else did in the time that he was alive. And so I'm gonna go through the four different steps and talk through them and give you my opinion on all of them as we go through them as well. So let's dive into it. The first tip that he says to find yourself is to don't follow the herd mentality. And one thing that he says that we've all. What we call universal values, what we call truths, are always only personal expressions from the people who promoted them. So the things that we think are values and things that we're supposed to follow and things that we're supposed to do are only personal expressions of those who promoted them. And one of the things that I love thinking about it and what's really made me kind of forget about the system that we've been raised in. Everything that I've been told and allowed me to think outside of the box is I realized that everything that I have been told to follow, everything that I've been told is important. Everything I've been told to do and everything that we follow with society of what we are or not supposed to do, what's taboo, what's not taboo, is all made up by people that are no smarter than you and I, and they're usually dead. That's the crazy part about it. So we're following a set of values and things that we're supposed to. Societal constructs. We're following all these from a bunch of dead people that decided to say something and do something and make something up one day that were no smarter than you and I, and I don't know about you. I don't want to listen to any dead people. I want to live my life the way that I want to live it. So what he's saying is, don't follow the herd. And it's tribal. We're all tribal people. So we want to fit in. We don't want to not fit in. But in order to create the life that we truly want to, in the life that we see and know that we have the potential of creating, we're going to have to not fit in. Right. If you think of all of the people that you look up to, Steve Job, to go into your past, in order to be the full expression and to create the self that you're trying to create, you're gonna have to get rid of the old things. The traumas, the fears, the worries, all of those things that are holding you back and are gonna be slowing you down as you're creating that. Right? And it goes back to one of my favorite quotes, and it's the cave that you are afraid to enter holds the treasure that you seek. Let me say that again. The cave that you are afraid to enter holds the treasure that you seek. So let me ask you a question. What cave are you afraid to enter? The life you want will only come by overcoming the skeletons in your closet. Not by acting like there are no skeletons in your closet, not by acting that there are no traumas that you need to overcome. Not by acting like there weren't people who bullied you, or emotional neglect, or physical neglect, or mental or physical or sexual abuse. Acting like those things never existed are not going to help you going forward and creating the life that you want. You've got to go back and relive those things and work through them. And so I had this, this call with my mastermind and we talked about this the other day where it's kind of like if you've ever gone in, the way I see trauma and unresolved trauma is, it's kind of like if someone breaks a bone, right, the bone cracks in half and it goes back together, but it's not put together correctly, right? It's not put together correctly, there's gonna be issues with that bone. And so what do you have to do in order for that bone to heal correctly after it's already healed, you have to break it again and heal it correctly. And so if something happened to me when I was 8 years old and I won't go back and look at that thing and try to reprocess it and try to work through it. I'm still living, I'm still stuck energetically in my mind, in my life, processing that event as an 8 year old. And I can tell you that as a 35 year old right now, I was not as emotionally and intellectually intelligent as I am now. So I can either forever live that trauma and that event as an eight year old in my lack of intellectual and emotional intelligence, or go back now as a 35 year old and it's not going to feel very good. Just like breaking another bone won't feel very Good. But I've got to go back and do it in order to heal properly. And once I heal properly, I don't have to worry about it again, right? Once the bone heals properly, the bone heals properly. Once you heal properly, you heal properly. So that's why, you know, he says you have to embrace the difficulty of self discovery. It becomes hard sometimes. But I promise you this. It is the path that you need to follow in order to create the life that you want. The cave that you're afraid to enter holds the treasure that you seek. So what cave are you afraid to enter? You've got to figure out a way to get into it. Okay, so that's the second one. Number three is to say yes to what gives you meaning. Okay, Say yes to what gives you meaning. So one of the things that he says, one of the famous quotes that he has, Friedrich Nietzsche has, is he who has a why can bear almost any how. He who has a why can bear almost any how. My very first mentor used to say something very similar to this. He used to always say, if your why is strong enough, your how will reveal itself. Right? So say yes to what gives you meaning. What is it that gives your life meaning? What is it that you love? What is it that you loved as a kid? Right. What is it that makes you happy? One of the things that I find is that as people get older, they tend to act like they're not a little kid anymore. I'm 35 years old. I still feel like I'm a little kid. I guarantee with all of you guys, you don't feel as old as you are. You always feel like a little kid deep down inside. And the reason why is because that little kid still lives inside of you. And all of the things that you loved as a little kid, you still love now. It would still bring you joy. So what did you love as a kid? How many things have you muted in yourself simply because you feel like you're too old now you're older? You're not supposed, supposed to do that. Once again, another societal construct based off of the herd mentality, right? What makes you happy? Make a list of every single thing that makes you happy. Big, small. It could be, you know, seeing your bank account grow. It could be a cup of coffee in the morning. It could be the sunshine. Right? The sunshine makes me happy. Right? What is it that makes you happy? And you make a massive list of everything, every single thing that makes you happy. And I got this from a friend of mine who was the number 13 employee at Facebook and got fired from Facebook. Right. Right before they went public and lost out on $180 million. Because he got fired from Facebook before they went public. And he went into a mini depression after all of this happened, because Facebook was like his life. And one of the things that he said, that's a quote. I don't think I'll forget the rest of my life, is that I will not let my depression or my happiness be left up to chance. Let me say that again. I will not let my happiness or my depression be left up to chance. What he means is that if I'm going to be depressed, I'm going to be the one that's in control of that depression. But if I'm going to be happy, I'm going to be the one that's in control of that happiness. And so he did this. He made a list, a happy list of every single thing that he loves that makes him happy. And how did he get himself out of his depression? He made a massive list of this happy list, every single thing that he loved. And then every single day, he would wake up and he would look at that list and plan how he can get as many of those things into his day as possible. Guess what? If you have a bunch of things in your day that make you happy, it's pretty hard to be depressed. And so the way he got himself out of that depression was by bringing as much happiness into his life as he possibly could. So do you have a happy list? What did you love as a kid? What do you love now? What do you want to try? What creativity makes you come alive? What music makes you come alive? What actions make you come alive? Right. Bring as many of those things into your day. Stop doing things that you don't like. Right. And some of you are going, oh, well, that sounds nice, but you don't know my life. Right. Okay, cool. Well, make a transition plan. Make a goal by 2023, I will not do anything that doesn't light me up inside. Why can you not do that? Give yourself a couple years to work on creating the life that you want to, and you go, okay, do I have to do some things in my business now that I want to? Yes. Do I have to do this things that I want to? Yes. But how can I transition those things out over the next couple years so that I don't have to worry about them by 2023? Is that possible for everybody? Yes. The only thing that's holding you back from doing it, though, is you. So make A happy list. And bring as many of those things into your life as possible. Say yes to what gives you meaning. And number four. The fourth part of finding yourself is to know your true values. Not the values that have been taught to you, but what are your true values? What are your values? Do you know what your values are? Who do you want to be? Not what do you want to accomplish? Who do you want to be? Think about that. What makes you feel alive? What makes you feel free? What are your true values? Write down everything and everyone that limits your freedom as a person, your partner, your friends, your work, your actions, whatever it is that limits your freedom. And figure out a way to work through every single one of those. And a way to think of your true values is this. Quite simply, we're all going to die one day. How do you want to be described at your funeral? When people walk up to the stage, whenever that day comes, what do you want them to say about you? What do you want them to say about you? Think about that. That's your values. Not what your parents told you to do. Not what your parents told you is right or wrong. Not what society has told you is right or wrong. Not with your friends. And every construct has told you is right or wrong. What are your true values? How do you want to be described every single day when somebody. When you walk away from a group, how do you want people to talk about you? What do you want them to say about you? What do you want them to feel? How do you want to be described at your funeral? Those are your true values, right? So when you go in and you try to find yourself, one of those things is what is your true values? And you wake up every single morning, you look at that list of true values, and you say, how can I make myself more of this? Okay? Giving. Giving is one of the values that I want to work on. If that's the case, how can I give more today? What can I do today to give more? And you work at bringing those things into your life every single moment. Hey, thanks so much for watching this video. If you want to learn even more about mastering your mind, click right here and watch this video as well. There has never been a study that's been done like this. Some of them became drug addicts, some of them became successful, some of them became CEOs. And one person in the study even became the President of the United States. You seek. So what cave are you afraid to enter? You've got to figure out a way to get into it, okay? So that's the second one. Number three is to say yes to what gives you meaning. Okay. Say yes to what gives you meaning. So one of the things that he says, one of the famous quotes that he has, Friedrich Nietzsche has, is he who has a why can bear almost any how. He who has a why can bear almost any how. My very first mentor used to say something very similar to this. He said it. He used to always say, if your why is strong enough, your how will reveal itself. Right? So say yes to what gives you meaning. What is it that gives your life meaning? What is it that you love? What is it that you loved as a kid? Right. What is it that makes you happy? One of the things that I find is that as people get older, they tend to act like they're not a little kid anymore. I'm 35 years old. I still feel like I'm a little kid. I guarantee with all of you guys, you don't feel as old as you are. You always feel like a little kid deep down inside. And the reason why is because that little kid still lives inside of you. And all of the things that you loved as a little kid, you still love now. It would still bring you joy. So what did you love as a kid? How many things have you muted in yourself simply because you feel like you're too old now you're older? You're not supposed to do that. Once again, another societal construct based off of the herd mentality. Right? What makes you happy? Make a list of every single thing that makes you happy. Big, small. It could be, you know, seeing your bank account grow. It could be a cup of coffee in the morning. It could be the sunshine. Right? The sunshine makes me happy. Right? What is it that makes you happy? And you make a massive list of everything, every single thing that makes you happy. And I got this from a friend of mine who was the number 13 employee at Facebook and got fired from Facebook right before they went public and lost out on $180 million. Because he got fired from Facebook before they went public. And he went into a mini depression after all of this happened, because Facebook was like his life. And one of the things that he said, that's a quote I don't think I'll forget the rest of my life, is that I will not let my depression or my happiness be left up to church. Let me say that again. I will not let my happiness or my depression be left up to chance. What he means is that if I'm going to be depressed, I'm going to be the One that's in control of that depression. But if I'm going to be happy, I'm going to be the one that's in control of that happiness. And so he did this. He made a list, a happy list of every single thing that he loves that makes him happy. And how did he get himself out of his depression? He made a massive list of this happy list, every single thing that he loved. And then every single day, he would wake up and he would look at that list and feel, plan how he can get as many of those things into his day as possible. Guess what? If you have a bunch of things in your day that make you happy, it's pretty hard to be depressed. And so the way he got himself out of that depression was by bringing as much happiness into his life as he possibly could. So do you have a happy list? What did you love as a kid? What do you love now? What do you want to try? What creativity makes you come alive? What music makes you come alive? What actions make you come alive? Bring as many of those things into your day. Stop doing things that you don't like. Right? And some of you are going, oh, well, that sounds nice, but you don't know my life. Right. Okay, cool. Well, make a transition plan. Make a goal by 2023. I will not do anything that doesn't light me up inside. Why can you not do that? Give yourself a couple years to work on creating the life that you want to, and you go, okay, do I have to do some things in my business now that I want to? Yes. Do I have to do this things that I want to? Yes. But how can I transition those things out over the next couple years so that I don't have to worry about them by 2023? Is that possible for everybody? Yes. The only thing that's holding you back from doing it, though, is you. So make a happy list and bring as many of those things into your life as possible. Say yes to what gives you meaning. And number four, the fourth part of finding yourself is to know your true values. Not the values that have been taught to you, but what are your true values? What are your values? Do you know what your values are? Who do you want to be? Not what do you want to accomplish. Who do you want to be? Think about that. What makes you feel alive? What makes you feel free? What are your true values? Write down everything and everyone that limits your freedom as a person. Your partner, your friends, your work, your actions, whatever it is that limits your freedom. And figure out a way to work through every single one of those. And a way to think of your true values is this. Quite simply, we're all going to die one day. How do you want to be described at your funeral? When people walk up to the stage, whenever that day comes, what do you want them to say about you? What do you want to say about you? Think about that. That's your values. Not what your parents told you to do. Not what your parents told you was right or wrong. Not what society has told you is right or wrong. Not what your friends and family, every construct has told you is right or wrong. What are your true values? How do you want to be described every single day when somebody. When you walk away from a group, how do you want people to talk about you? What do you want them to say about you? What do you want them to feel? How do you want to be described at your funeral? Those are your true values, right? So when you go in and you try to find yourself, one of those things is what is your true values? And you wake up every single morning, you look at that list of true values, and you say, how can I make myself more of this? Okay, Giving. Giving is one of the values that I want to work on. If that's the case, how can I give more today? What can I do today to give more? And you work at bringing those things into your life every single moment. Hey, thanks so much for watching this video. If you want to learn even more about mastering your mind, click right here and watch this video as well. There has never been a study that's been done like this. Some of them became drug addicts, some of them became successful, some of them became CEOs. And one person in the study even became the President of the United States.