Two Steps To Stop Stressing And Worrying | The Mindset Mentor Podcast

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast. This episode, please give us a rating and review however you listen to us. We have over a million people listen to us every single week and every single, every single month. But we have a very small amount of people who have actually given us a rating review. So if you listen to this all the time, just do me a quick favor, give us a rating and review the more positive reviews that we get on those platforms. And those platforms show this organically to people who have never listened to the Mindset Mentor. So it would greatly, greatly help us grow and help other people's lives to be able to actually find this podcast. And I would greatly, greatly appreciate it. Today I'm going to be talking to you about two steps to stop stressing and stop worrying. And I'm going to actually tell you, like, for me, earlier this week, I was stressed as shit because there was a lot of things that were happening specifically without going into detail. My sales team didn't communicate correctly with the operations team. And there was a big breakdown, wasn't huge, but it was just this thing where it took a lot of time and energy to fix. And from that, became stressed. And I was like, oh, man, what if this doesn't work? What is? What if this is? I started thinking in my head a little bit too much and I noticed that I was there. People think that because I'm, quote, unquote, the Mindset Mentor. Like, I never deal with stress and I wake up and I'm motivated. I'm like, let's just take on the day. Like, I deal with all of the same shit that everybody else does, but over years, I've just developed tools to get me out of those places, right? Like, I get stressed, but I just don't live there. And so if you get stressed or you worry, don't live there. I want to give you some tools to actually get out of it. And today I'm going to give you some of the tools that I used a few days ago to actually get myself out of it and to put out fires and to get myself out of the feeling of stress and overwhelm and worry and all that stuff. This is important. And the reason why this is important because we only have so much mental energy throughout the day. And I want you to imagine your mental energy, like, the mental energy of what you spend thinking about everything good, bad, worrying, happiness, Everything as, like the battery on your phone. And you wake up in the morning, your phone was plugged in and it's 100%. But imagine that you can't plug your phone back in and you have a limited amount of energy that you can use on your phone every single day. Well, then if you know you have a limited amount of energy, you're going to, you know, it runs out like 100% by the end of the day, maybe even earlier, based off of how you use it. You're going to start using your energy in your phone smart. Like you're going to be more smart with it. If it ran out of energy quicker than it, than it does right now, you cannot recharge it. And so that's the way that I like to think of our mental energy. You cannot recharge it. When you wake up, you're at a hundred percent. When you go to bed, you're at zero percent. Sometimes you hit zero percent by like 4pm, right, if you've had a crazy day. And so when it's out, it's out. And psychologists have found that the average human in first world, first and second world, spends about two hours per day, two hours per day worrying. That's a lot. If you're only up for 16 hours, that means one eighth of your day. What is that? 12.5%. I think, off the top of my head, 12.5% of your day is spent worrying. That's a lot of mental energy that could be used for something different. And 85% psychologists have found that 85% of what you worry about never actually happens. 12% of what you worry about does not happen as bad as you think it's going to happen. So it actually turns out better. Which means that 97% of what you worry about either does not happen, most of it doesn't happen, or it doesn't happen as bad as you think it's going to happen, which means only 3% of what you worry about ends up being as bad as you thought it was going to be. 3%. 1 out of 33 things that you worry about. Improper communication between my sales team and my operations team. That doesn't make any sense. Right? And you can put your life into perspective and be like, man, this thing I'm worrying about that seems so big to me is actually so small, it really doesn't matter. So for me, that's one of the things I love to do, is to put my life into perspective in that way of like, none of these things matter. Rob just Let go of it. You'll be fine. Right? So that's one thing, one way that I like to put my life into perspective. The other way I like to put my life into perspective is how great my life actually is. No matter where your life is, it could be amazing. It could be okay. It could be terrible. Your life is still amazing. Like, if you're, you know, out of all of the hundreds of thousand people that are gonna hear this podcast episode, if you were to be able to go back to, like, the 1100s, your life right now, if you happen to be out of the hundreds of thousands of people, have the worst life out of everybody who listens to this podcast, in this very moment, your life would be better than a king in the 1100s. There are billions of people on this planet that would trade spots with you right now if they had the option to be able to have your life. And so when you could put your life into perspective, you realize what we worry about really isn't that big of a deal, and we can move past it. So think about the thing that's been stressing you out lately, the thing that you've been worrying about lately. Do you feel a little bit more like, oh, yeah, yeah, it's really not that big of a deal? So that's the first thing. That's the first thing I like to do is put my life into perspective and remind myself how small my worry actually is and how amazing my life actually is. And the second thing I like to do is this, is to put it all on paper. You know, there's a phrase when you're in your head, you're dead. I like to think of, like, Top Gun. If you saw the new Top Gun Maverick, he says, don't think. Just do, like, stop thinking. We're thinking too much. We're thinking. All of our stress, all of our worry, all of our overwhelm comes from us thinking too much about stuff versus executing on what we actually need to execute on. Imagine like if I gave you a math problem and I said, hey, I'm going to give you $10,000 if you can give me the right answer to this problem. But you cannot use a calculator. Can't use the Internet. Can't use a calculator. It's 1,713 25 times 7. I want you to figure out 1325. Some of you guys, like, a very small percentage of you can figure it out in your head. I could figure out in my head, but I would also want something to confirm it. What Would you if I said, Hey, $10,000 and I'm going to. If you can just figure out 13, 25 times 7, what would you ask me for? Oh, yeah. You would, don't you? Hey, can I have a piece of paper? Is it. I know I can't use a calculator. Can I use a piece of paper? Why would you ask me for that piece of paper? Because most people can't do it in a complex problem like that. And that's. That's kind of simple. It's not very complex. There's much more complex math problems, but most people can't figure it out in their head. And that's fine. But it's easier to do on paper, right? 13, 25 times 7. We could eventually go through and do, okay, I haven't done, you know, this, this on a piece of paper and actually done this in a really long time. But we could probably figure out, okay, three times five is 35. You gotta put the five down. You got to take the three, you got to put it above, and you've got to take, you know, 2 times 7, that's 14, plus the 3 that's above, that's a 7. So it's a 75 down below total. And we could figure it out. We could actually write it down and start to figure it out, couldn't we? We could, we could. It's easier to do on paper. Math is very straightforward. It's not complex. But think about how complex some of the things in your life are that you're trying to figure out in your head. How complex? Taking a situation that's happening in your business or it's happening in your life or happening with your children or your relationship. How complex it is when we have different people and we have different emotions, we have different circumstances. Think about how complex that is. It's a lot. And we try to figure it out in our head. That doesn't make any sense. If we're going to try to write down a math problem that's really not that hard of a math problem, we're going to try to figure that out in our heads. Why would we try to figure it out on paper? Excuse me. And we're trying to figure that out on paper, and we're going to try to figure out the really complex parts of our life in our head. No wonder why we're stressed out, because that shit is not easy to do. But when we write it down, okay, this is happening right now in the business, this is happening right now in my relation. This is Happening right now, and we can start to journal through and write it. Even if so many people are afraid of journaling because they're afraid someone that they love is going to find it or they're gonna be caught and they're gonna see their deepest, darkest secrets inside of their head. If it's really that big of a deal and you're so worried about it, I always tell people, if you're so worried about people finding your journal, just burn it when you're done. Like, not the entire thing. Just rip out the piece of paper. Burn it, rip out the piece of paper, shred it, throw it away, whatever it is you have to do. So that's never found. But at least you can take that complex problem, figure it out on paper, and go, oh, yeah, I think I've got the solution. And so it's really not that hard to get ourself out of worry and stress because you want to get yourself out of your head and actually start to figure it out. So the two things that I recommend that you do is, number one, put your life into perspective. You can think about how bad some people's lives are on this earth and how blessed you are to be able to have the life that you have. And number two, you can think about how small your problems are compared to the vastness of this crazy universe that we have. And then the second thing that you can do after that is you can take the complex problem that you're stressing about, that you're worrying about, because a lot of times you're stressing and worrying it because you can't find the solution. You can't find the answer. We can't find the answer because it's really hard and complex to figure out in your head. You put it down on piece of paper. I'll tell you, like, 99% of your stress and worry is going to be like, okay, I think I know what I should do now. It might not be easy steps you need to take next, but at least you know what you need to do. And you can start moving forward versus feeling paralyzed, because that's where paralysis by analysis comes from. And so that's what I got for you for today's episode. Your worry and stress. Let's let it go. Let's work through it. It's something that's solvable. Everything is solvable with time and with perspective and with energy. So that's what I want you guys to do. Put your life into perspective and then put it all on paper. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at robdial Junior R O B D I A L J R Also, you may have heard me talk about the new Instagram that we started specifically for. This podcast is blowing up like crazy. We went from like 20 to over 50 something thousand followers in like less than 30 days. And so we're putting up a bunch of really great content. A lot of it's starting to go viral. And so if you want to follow us on there, it is the Mindset Mentor Podcast. Once again, the Mindset Mentor Podcast. Follow us on there and I'll leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.