Instead of searching for the perfect partner, write down the traits you want in them and become that person yourself. The speaker argues that internal transformation, not external searching, is how you attract the relationship you actually want.
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So how do you attract the perfect partner? Is what everybody wants to know, right? People ask this all the time. I think the problem is the question itself. How do I attract the perfect partner? I'll tell you how to attract the perfect partner. Ready? You get a piece of paper and you write down everything that makes the perfect partner for you. Their habits, their traits, their qualities, how they act, what time they wake up, how they talk to themselves, all of that stuff. And you know what you do? You become that person. You actually start to become the person. Because here's the reason. When you are that person, the person who would be attracted to you would be the person that is your perfect partner. You will attract the best possible partner that aligns with the person that you become. See? Cause looking out into the world for the perfect partner is not the right way to do it. Looking inside and deciding that you're going to become the best partner will make you more likely to attract the person who is best for you. So the secret for everyone out there is if you want to attract the perfect person.