Why You Should Stop Worrying and Just Listen!

Welcome to today's video. Today I'm going to teach you how to stop worrying and what you need to take that energy and replace it with so that you can create the life that you want to. Let's dive in. We're going to talk about that thing that, that everybody loves, which is worry. We're going to talk about how to replace it with something that's, that's much, much more productive. I want to ask you this question. Let's take a step back before we dive in. When was the last time that worrying did anything positive for you? Don't worry. I'll wait. Find a time where worrying did something positive for you. Because when was the last time that worrying got you anywhere? I've said this stat on this podcast many times before, but 85% psychologists have found, not some just random stat that I'm pulling out of my ass. Psychologists have found that 85% of what you worry about never happens. Never happens. And out of the remaining 15%, only 12% of that, which is the majority of it, 12% of it doesn't happen near as bad as you actually think it will. Which means that 97% of what you worry about either doesn't happen 85% of it or happens, but not anywhere near as bad as you thought it was. Which means that 3% of what you worry about happens. Just think about how much frickin mental energy it takes up. Just think about that. Like, I was talking to a friend of mine probably about five years ago at this point, and we were having this conversation because he was in two industries at one time. He was running an office for a company that I used to work for. And he was also helping his parents with a construction company. And he was helping his parents run their construction company. They'd had it for like 20 or 30 years. And he was taking over it. And I said, how much time do you put into your office? And he's like, oh man, I put like 5% of my time into my office. And I said, how much mental energy does it take, though, throughout the day? And he's like, oh God, probably like 90% of my mental energy. I was like, so you're putting 5% of your physical energy into your office, but that takes up 90% of your mental energy. Like, just imagine how much energy that takes to worry, to process, to have that going in the back of your head. And so what I want you to do, let me give you studies on this, is to start replacing your worry with taking action. I will say at first, any action doesn't matter. Just do something. Because usually when you're worrying, you're doing nothing. Like very rarely is somebody in the middle of a really great workout and they're worrying about something. Usually worry comes when you're sitting on the couch and staring at the screen watching Netflix or you're in your car scrolling on Instagram in a parking lot, right? So just take any action, get your physical body moving. Because what tends to happen is people always think, oh, well, I need to wait to be motivated and then I'll take action. But psychologists actually found the exact opposite of true. Exact opposite of that is true. I wrote about this in my book. But motivation actually usually follows action. So you want to take action first in order to give yourself a chance to be motivated. So if you find yourself worrying, just get your ass up and do something. Something that's a movement. Go for a run, go for a walk, do a hundred jumping jacks, put on your favorite song and dance around your house like an idiot. I don't care. Get your heart rate up, get your breath rate up and then take some sort of action towards even if it's just a small little thing that checks off a to do list. Makes you feel like you're moving in the right direction, makes you feel a little bit productive because it will start to make you feel like you're moving in the right direction and it'll make you feel like you're progressing. And when you are progressing, the thing that you naturally want to keep doing is progressing. Like Tony Robbins always says, happiness equals progress, Progress equals happiness. You know, so it's like just a little bit, just take the littlest step forward that you can. There's a study that was done in 2005 in Psychological Bulletin and found that the benefits of frequent positive effect does. It was called the benefits of frequent positive effect does happiness lead to Success? And they found that taking positive actions and engaging in proactive behavior led to greater overall well being of the people who took the action and greater success long term in their lives. So whenever you start worrying, become self aware, figure out a way to take some sort of action. Replace your worry with action. Worry tends to die down when you're making progress towards your destination. Worry dies when progress is made. Get a tattoo of it. Worry dies when progress is made. So like, let's give you an example, right? I have worked with and trained thousands of salespeople. And the thing is that I love about sales is that it's all psychology and salespeople as much as they seem like they've got it together. They are the most finicky people ever. And they can have a really great sales day. And then they can have a fight with, you know, their girlfriend and come in and have a terrible sales day. If you're in sales, let's just give you an example. If you're in sales and you need to make $1,000 this week to pay your mortgage, it can make you start to worry. That's typically what people do. They start to worry about how you're going to pay your bills. What if people say no? What if they don't answer the phone? And I worry all of the things that might happen. But when you tend to worry, you tend to take no action or very little action. But what good does that do to sit around and worry when you've got to make $1,000 today to pay your mortgage? What good does worry ever do for you? Worrying does nothing. Worrying takes energy. Takes. So why don't you just use that energy to take action? Hey, real quick. I want to introduce you to something called Mindset Mentor Plus. If you love this podcast, you will absolutely love what I'm about to talk about. I designed Mindset Mentor plus to help you actively integrate every one of these episodes into your life. And here's how it works. With every episode of this podcast that comes out, Mindset Mentor plus subscribers get more. You're going to get multiple page, detailed, printable worksheets, effectively a mini masterclass that's way more in depth than just this podcast. They all also come with journaling, questions, challenges, assignments, and so much more so that you're not just listening to these podcasts passively, but you're actively integrating them into your life. That way you improve much faster. I also do monthly Q and A sessions in there and much, much more. If you want to learn more about it, go to mindsetmentor.com or click the link that's down in the description. If you're worried about how to pay your bills, your mortgage, whatever it is, well, worrying about it feels crippling and usually keeps you in the inaction. So ask yourself, what can I do right now about this? I notice myself worrying, oh my God, I've got to pay my mortgage. What am I supposed to do? What can I do right now about this? Well, I can replace worry with action. I can get up and make phone calls. I can stop feeling sorry for myself for this reason or that reason or this reason or that reason. And I can take positive movement by taking action. And here's the best part about taking action. Okay. Have to believe in yourself in order to take action. Belief. I don't know where this crazy idea came from for people. Well, I gotta believe in myself and then I'll go do it. No, belief is not a prerequisite to taking action. So do something, anything. If you can tell your boss, hey, like, I'm not in it right now. I need 20 minutes. I need to go for a walk. I need to get back into it. I don't know any sales, like, good sales coach or sales mentor or whatever it might be. Sales manager. If you walk up to him and you're like, hey, my mind's really out of it. I've got to go for a walk for like 10 minutes. Is that cool? I don't know many of them that will say no. Right? Small movement towards your goal is better than standing still. One of my very first mentors used to always say, you're either green and growing or you're brown and dying. In Dale Carnegie, he wrote in his book, Stop Worrying and Start Living, he says, the secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you're happy or not. So don't bother to think about it. Spit on your hands and start to get busy. Your blood will start to circulate, your mind will start ticking, and pretty soon this whole positive upsurge of life will come up in your body and you don't have to worry. I'm sorry, hold on. Go back in. Pretty soon, this whole positive upsurge of life in your body will drive worry from your mind. So get busy. Keep busy. It's the cheapest kind of medicine that there is on earth and one of the best. That was written about 80 years ago. You need to know this, and I say this over and over again in the podcast. Inaction creates more inaction. Action creates more action. So if you find yourself in your worry and in your feelings and, oh, boop, boopy doo, feeling all sad for yourself, and I'm a victim, you're probably not doing anything. You're probably leisurely sitting around doing nothing for. For yourself, for the world, for anybody. Get up and do some sort of action, whatever it might be. The successful person, whatever success means to you, right? The successful person goes about life and they do what they need to do, regardless of how they're feeling. It doesn't mean that they don't worry. It doesn't mean that they don't have fear. It doesn't mean that they don't have limiting beliefs. It means that they take action in spite of the worry, in spite of the fear, in spite of the limiting beliefs. A big, really, really big misconception that I've seen is that with people is that people that are successful don't worry. They look at them and they're like, oh, they don't worry. They don't have any self doubt. They just, they wake up and they feel good and they kick ass. I want you to understand, nothing can be further from the truth. They're worried or they're sad or they're sick, all of that, but they take action. No matter how they feel, they take action regardless. They know that confidence comes from working towards their goals. You know another thing that people always think is like, oh, I'm not a confident person, so therefore I can't do this. Confidence is not something that people are born with. Confidence is not something that you just have or you don't. Confidence is a skill set. Confidence is earned. And here's the cool thing about it. What I have found, and I had a misconception of this when I was younger, I have found that I have gotten some of the most confidence in myself. Not from succeeding, not always from successes, but by doing things that I didn't want to do. And even if I didn't succeed, like if I said, okay, I'm going to do this thing that I don't want to do, and even if I don't succeed, I still am watching myself. The awareness in the background is watching myself do something that I didn't want to do. Showing up for myself to try to make my life better. That alone gave me confidence, not the succeeding in getting whatever it is that I wanted. A lot of times, success, or excuse me, confidence comes from doing what people didn't want to do. So whether or not they succeeded, they showed up for themself. And that builds a whole lot of confidence. And they know that motion creates emotion. So instead of sitting around and worrying about what might happen, when we know that 85% of what we worry about never happens, and the other 15%, 12% of that doesn't happen the way we think that it will. So 97% doesn't happen the way that we think it's going to. So instead of sitting around and worrying about what might happen, they get off their butts, they get their blood moving and they make things happen. You know, if, like, for instance, let me make it a real stupid example for you, right? Let's say I'm sitting here and I have my laptop in front of me. And I look at it and I go, oh, my God, my laptop's running out of battery. Okay, the laptop's running out of battery. Oh, my gosh. Well, what happens if it runs out of battery? Oh, my gosh. Well, I have this zoom call that's going to be happening. And what happens, what is my boss going to say if I don't show up to the zoom call? And what is it? What am I going to. How am I going to send this message and this email to them? Right. Instead of worrying about the battery running out, just get up and plug in the freaking laptop. That's kind of how it is. It's worrying about something you don't need to worry about. Just fix the problem. See, most of what we do, most of the blocks, the. The barriers that are in front of us are not placed on in front of us by anyone else. You are your worst enemy. When I work with a lot of business owners and I always work with them, and what I say is, like, when you look at a business and the health of the business, the health of the business always reflects the health of the mindset of the business owner. So the barriers and the blocks that the business owner puts themselves shows up in their business. So what is it that you've been worrying about too much? What mental barriers have you been putting in front of yourself? What action can you take to overcome those barriers so that you will stop worrying less? You know, instead of worrying, like an example would be, like, instead of worrying about money or that you don't have money, just ask yourself, what can I do right now to make more money? You can sell some stuff on ebay. You could start an Etsy shop. There's a million ways to make a million dollars. So instead of just sitting there in worrying about money or saying you don't have money, just ask yourself, what can I do right now to make money? What are my top five revenue generating activities that I can do right now? And then just do one of them. Instead of worrying about your health, oh, my God, am I gonna be sick? Am I not gonna be sick? Just ask yourself, what can I do right now to improve my health? What you focus on expands. If you worry about the bad that could happen. More bad will happen. If you replace that worry with taking action to combat that outcome that you're sitting there worry, then you're pushing that outcome further away from you. I don't claim to know how the universe works. Not smart enough. And I don't think anybody on this earth is smart. Enough to tell you. But I am going to tell you something that is completely true about money, right? And I used to worry a lot about money. And I've told this conversation. I've told this story before on the podcast, and if it didn't happen in my life, I would not believe it. I had a conversation with my mom back in 2012. It was actually 2013. I moved to Austin in 2012. I went in back. I quit my job. I backpacked Europe for three months. I moved out to Austin. And in 2013, I had a conversation with my mom, and I was starting to run out of money, and I didn't have a job yet. I'd been here for, like, three or four months trying to find jobs, couldn't find the money, right? And my mom is like, well, you've only got, like, $5,000 left. You've got, like a month, maybe two months left of money to stay in Austin. Are you worried? And I said, no. And she's like, how are you not worried? I said, because if I'm worried about making money, I will never get the money, so I'm gonna use my mental energy to know that it's coming to me in some sort of way. And she's like, all right, I guess that makes sense. But I was like, I will not allow myself to worry because I trust and I know that it's going to happen. So I didn't put my mental energy into it. And I swear to you on everything that I have, this is a true story about, I don't know, a week later, five days later, something like that, I get a call, and I'm driving my car in Austin, and it was the HR manager of the company that I had quit almost a year prior. And she's like, hey, Rob, how's it going? We're catching up. She's like, hey, I got to talk to you real quick. Are you driving? And I was like, yeah. She goes, can you pull over? I was like, sure. And she goes, hey, I just want to let you know that last year we had a computing mistake, and all of your commissions and everyone else's commissions in the company were incorrect. We owe you money. And I was like, okay, that's cool. How much do you owe me? And I don't remember the exact amount, but it was like, 24,000, $28,000 they owed me. And this is days after having a conversation with my mom about how I wasn't worried about money, because if I worry it, I'm energetically blocking it from coming into my life. Now you could be like, oh, my God, that's some hippie shit. You can. I don't care. That's fine. But that is my belief is that if I worry about it, I'm not gonna get it, because worrying is lack. And the energy of lack is never gonna bring something into your life. And so she literally is like, I need to wire it into your account. Can I get your bank account and burn? And I was like, it's the same as it's always been. The next day, a fucking wire went into it. And I was like, this is crazy. I called my mom up and she's like, I don't know how you do this. My mom said. She's like, you always get what you want. I don't know how I was like, Cause I just don't believe that what I don't want doesn't exist. I don't. Let me say that again. I don't believe that what I don't want exists. I only focus on the thing that I want. The universe will be on your side when you're taking action. So ask yourself, what am I worrying about that's taking away from my happiness? What am I worrying about? Like, what am I worrying about that's holding me back? And what action can I take to overcome that outcome that I'm worried about? So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories. Tag me in at robdial Junior. R O B D I A L J R. If you love this podcast, you'll absolutely love Mindset Mentor Plus. I designed it to help you actively integrate every single one of these episodes into your life. And here's how it works. Every single episode that comes out of the Mindset Mentor, Mindset Mentor plus subscribers get a whole lot more. You will get detailed, multiple page printable worksheets, basically mini masterclass that is way more in depth than just the podcast itself. And inside of there, there's journaling questions, there's challenges, there's assignments so that you're not just listening to these podcast episodes, but you're integrating every single one of them and improving your life faster. 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