Robert Siciliano explains how predators target trusting, inattentive people and gather personal information online. He recommends mental awareness, carrying pepper spray, covering your drink, using the buddy system, and sending a photo with your location to a trusted friend before the date.
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Jabbar, is it easy to get information from women?
I was actually surprised by the ease with which I was getting all this information about where she worked, where she lived, what her hours were, and just how easy it was.
I think that's a really good message that— because that's what the predator would do. The predator would probably kind of— he doesn't have days. He wants it now. He wants to get it now. And if you were a predator, you would have gotten everything that you needed.
That was an eye-opening experience for me.
For you guys, even as a guy. All right, now Robert, who do predators target? What do they look for?
They go for people that are very trusting. They go for people that aren't paying attention to their personal security. Keep in mind that they may very well be really nice, a nice sweet guy, until he killed and ate his victims.
Got it. Yeah.
And the chances of you meeting a guy like that in the course of your life, there's a chance. So know that you can't be so trusting.
We'll be right back. Before we go, I want Robert to tell us some survival tips to avoid dangers out there in the dating world. So what are the tips, Robert?
Well, first realize that your brain is your best defense weapon. Understanding personal security, the emotions related to attack. And then carry some type of personal security product like a pepper spray or even a ballpoint pen can do an awful lot of damage.
Really? To the eyes?
To the eyes, to the face, to the groin. A lot of damage.
Okay.
Also, like, like the other guest said, go to the bar and get that drink from the bartender. And cover up your drink and take it with you to the bathroom. Be very careful of Rufenol, which is a date rape drug that can do a lot of damage to a woman.
So put a napkin over your drink, like even when you're just sitting and laughing and talking?
Absolutely, no question about it. Also the buddy system, we heard the buddy system. There is definitely strength in numbers. And if you ever decide to actually, you know, go home with a guy, take a picture of him with your cell phone.
That's what I—
Send it to your girlfriend and tell her, you know, where you're going, the whole thing, and tell him Exactly what you, what you just did.
Oh really? Oh, I would think just a lie. No, because no, I would go, oh my gosh, my cell phone, I'm trying to use the camera, it doesn't work.
That's wrong. You want to tell him that you're taking care of your personal security, that somebody knows where you are going to be.
Not going to freak him out?
Not even if it does. Bye-bye.
Bye-bye. Okay, I like it. I like the strength behind that. Okay, well you guys, this subject is not a subject that needs to be taken lightly. So ladies, I beg you, please think about the choices that you make when you're out on the town and ask yourself if these choices are worth losing your life for. And if you want to see any of our other dating mistakes that women made, go to our website because we couldn't air them all today, but there actually is another date that a woman made a lot of mistakes, a lot of mistakes. She went to the car and she did the whole thing. You should see that. And while you're there, you'll also be able to get a list of tips for how to practice safe dating. More tips than what we've already said. Okay? We'll see you later.
