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Mentor Minute - "Golden Nugget of Feedback" with Adeo Ressi

Name: Mentor Minute - "Golden Nugget of Feedback" with Adeo Ressi
Uploaded: 2014-02-12T02:10:54+00:00
Duration: 1 min 17 s
Channel: Royston G King
Description: In this brief Mentor Minute, the speaker (Adeo Ressi) stresses that the most valuable feedback comes when you listen without arguing. Interrupting or…

12 Feb 2014 · 1 min

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In this brief Mentor Minute, the speaker (Adeo Ressi) stresses that the most valuable feedback comes when you listen without arguing. Interrupting or debating a mentor’s advice cuts off their train of thought and prevents you from receiving the "gold nugget" of insight they may be about to share. Even if the feedback seems uncomfortable or negative, you should let it play out, trusting that mentors like Jim and Mike will ultimately provide useful guidance. The core lesson is to override the instinct to fight back, stay open, and let feedback fully unfold.

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So I leave you with something that I described yesterday, and it's a very important lesson for you all, and I've tried to instill it in my brief time here on the hot seats. You must listen and not argue. So, When you argue and when you talk, you stop someone else from providing you feedback. What happens when you do that? You shut off the other person. You shut off the other person. So they may have a train of thought, they may be like, "I'm gonna give you like the gold nugget of feedback," and you're like, "But, but, but." Boom! Train of thought lost. Even if you think it's the worst feedback ever, just let it play out and go against your love instinct and hear the end result. Because I guarantee you, with mentors like Jim and Mike and everyone else, you will eventually hear nuggets of gold even though your instincts are to fight back. So with that, thank you very much.