In this introductory video of a mini‑series, Sally Koering Zimney argues that confidence is an unreliable, mood‑based feeling that often fails people when they need to take bold, impactful actions. She asks viewers to download her "Self‑Trust Scale" worksheet and explains that many entrepreneurs, speakers, and leaders chase confidence, only to find it wavering due to sleep, hormones, external comments, or random factors. She shares a client anecdote where initial over‑confidence turned into self‑doubt once the client began building a business, illustrating how confidence can be a shaky foundation. Zimney proposes replacing the pursuit of confidence with the cultivation of self‑trust, promising that the next video will detail how self‑trust works, how to build it, and why it is a more reliable internal resource. The video ends with a call to subscribe and a promise to help viewers develop self‑trust for bigger, braver moves.
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Hey there, everybody. My name is Sally Koering Zimney, and welcome to this little mini-series on confidence versus self-trust and why I think confidence is really kind of BS. Let's get into it. Now that you're here, I want to make sure that you have done one thing in particular, and that is to download this worksheet that I call the Self-Trust Scale. Stockpile. I have an alliteration obsession. Get used to it. If you have done that and if you're here, it tells me that you're at least curious about this difference between confidence and self-trust and why I think confidence is pretty much BS. And it means you may also be struggling with that whole confidence thing. And honestly, welcome to being a human. There's a lot of data out there. There's a lot of research, and a lot of it is telling us that if you are human, you struggle with self-doubt from time to time, which means that in a lot of people's views, you struggle with confidence. Show up feeling ready, feeling brave, feeling like you have what it takes to do what you need to do. We're human. Some days we do, and some days we don't. And here's the important thing and why I'm so glad that you're here. If we only think about gaining confidence, we're actually missing something really important. And I wanna tell you why confidence is probably failing you. I have been working with entrepreneurs, speakers, leaders, all kinds of changemakers who really need confidence to do what it is that they are setting out to do. I myself am a speaker and I understand completely what it is to struggle with that feeling of, can I? Should I? Do I have what it takes? My heart rate pounding in those big moments. Welcome to the human condition and welcome especially to what happens when we are about to do something that challenges us, that's big, that could have a big impact. Like, our body responds that way for a reason. Problem is that confidence is an unreliable foundation for you to build your brave moves on. It just is. I mean, think about it. Confidence is really a feeling, and feelings change. Some days you wake up feeling like you can conquer the world. Other days you can barely get dressed. Your confidence, unfortunately, can shift based on how much sleep you got, uh, your hormone levels, what someone said to you yesterday that's like in the back of your mind and seeping into your feelings today, the weather. Changes how you feel. Sometimes, for no reason at all, you wake up feeling more or less confident. Well, I had a client who felt super confident about launching her business, so much so that she hired me. As we started working together and as we started pushing her to do big things, she was like, oh, I suddenly don't feel confident, spiraling in the self-doubt. She kept saying like, what is wrong with me and what does this mean? And I was like, Nothing is wrong with you. It doesn't mean anything except that you're human. She was just trying to build something important on a foundation of feelings. Now listen, I love feelings. I think feelings are super important, but they are also fleeting. They come and go, which is great, especially when they're bad, but not great when we need to lean on that feeling in order to do the things that we want to do. So here's the truth. When you are doing bigger, braver, bolder things, things that matter, things that can have a positive effect on this world, on your team, on your organization, on your life, you can't afford sometimes for confidence to just show up and just cross your fingers and hope that you're feeling confident that day because it might not. You might not. This is why I stopped chasing confidence altogether, and I want you to stop chasing confidence to. Instead, what I want you to do is focus on building what I call self-trust. And in the next video that's going to pop up here, I'm going to show you exactly how self-trust works, how you build it, how it operates in your body, and why it is so much more reliable than confidence could ever be. Amazing! High fives! Subscribe here if If you want to learn more, showing up to do bigger, braver, bolder things faster, you want to make bigger moves, I got you. It's not because I'm going to help you build your confidence, it's because I'm going to help you build your self-trust. You got this.
