If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.

If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive. Dale Carnegie shared that gem in his best selling book, how to Win Friends and Influence People in his chapter one. In it he shared the story of a notorious gunman and killer from the 30s called Two Gun Crowley. He's a real bad egg, a degenerate criminal and a cop killer who, despite being the dredge of the earth, while holed up at his girlfriend's apartment during the final shootout, wrote a letter stained with blood that ended under my coat is a weary heart, but a kind one, one that would do nobody any harm except for the fact that he did. He hurt and killed lots of people. And when he was going to the electric chair and what were his final words? Was it, I see the light, I see the error in my ways? No, he said, this is what I get for defending myself. In other words, he justified and he explained he did what we all do from time to time. The point is, next time you don't agree with somebody, instead of criticizing, condemning or complaining, which will just entrench them further in their position, try to understand them, maybe try to figure out why they do what they do. It's a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism and even breeds sympathy and empathy and tolerance. And from there we can start communicating. If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beef.