When your partner asks you to open up but then calls you dramatic for doing it, you're being judged on your reactions instead of who you actually are. That confusion about your own identity keeps you trapped in draining relationships.
Or say you're in a relationship and she says, I want you to open up more. I want you to tell me what you're really feeling. You never do that. So one night you do and talk about stress, fear, anger. You say, you know, sometimes I feel completely lost. Now to her, that's scary. So a week later, when you're in an argument with her, you hear, you're so dramatic. I can't carry all your emotions. Why don't you just be a man? So which is it? Open up or stop being so emotional? This is the trap. You're being judged by reactions, not by a solid identity. And reactions change every 5 minutes. If you're already seeing this in yourself, then you're seeing exactly why you keep ending up in relationships that drain you and keep you constantly confused about who the hell you are.
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