#tiktoklive #livehighlights there’s a cost to shrinking

7 Jun 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker explains that ‘shrinking’—the act of suppressing oneself in social situations—has both financial and mental costs. They detail the extensive mental gymnastics required: constantly deciding when to speak, what to say, tone, cadence, posture, and monitoring who is in the room and who is speaking. This perpetual self‑monitoring creates anxiety because the speaker must anticipate multiple possible scenarios before even forming a thought, leading to significant exhaustion from the continual effort throughout the day.

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And so, um, another thing of costing you when you shrink— it costs you financially, and then it costs you mentally, because the amount of mental gymnastics you have to do when you shrink— and it's not just about talking. Like, you have to figure out when you should talk, when you think you shouldn't talk, what you think you should say, the tone you should say it in, the cadence of your voice, if you're standing, if you're not standing, who's in the room, who's talking now, if If somebody talks over you, you go through so many mental gymnastics when it comes to shrinking yourself. It causes anxiety because you're trying to come up with all these different scenarios that could play out if you speak or if you don't speak before you've even been able to formulate what the hell it is you want to say. And that is so exhausting because you do it so much throughout the day.