Marriage therapist Jean McKenzie argues that lasting relationships depend on learned skills, not just love. Most couples fail because they lack basic knowledge about how to navigate differences and solve problems together.
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Hi, Jean McKenzie here, and I would just like to share with you a little bit about my approach to marriage and couples counseling. After years of working as a marriage counselor, I've come to see that my first task is to instill hope. Many people have adopted the notion that relationships should thrive on the love a couple has for each other, and if things don't work out, then the couple must have made a mistake. They must have married the wrong person. However, researchers have studied what makes a relationship last and what makes it fall apart, and they've discovered that the success of a couple has more to do with skills the partners developed rather than innate qualities. It has been my experience that people leave a marriage because they don't have basic knowledge about the nature of marriage and the skills necessary to help their relationship thrive. If people knew how to make their marriages work, they would stay together. As a marriage therapist and relationship counselor, I can teach you the skills that will empower you to have a joy-filled, lasting marriage. All couples have their differences. The key to success is not in finding the perfect partner, but in dealing with your differences effectively. Through relationship counseling, I will help you develop techniques for solving current problems and achieving unending growth in your relationship. I will strive to assist you in learning to solve your own challenges because a couple who knows how to problem-solve can keep their love and their marriage alive forever. If your marriage is a source of stress rather than support, I hope this site will help you find the resources you need to achieve a relationship that is fulfilling to both you and your partner.