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When your kid screams or refuses homework, that's just 5% of the problem. The real 90% is underneath: insecurity, unmet needs, fear, self-doubt. Punishing the behavior makes them shut down. Find what's driving it, and they can actually thrive.
When your kid screams or refuses homework, that's just 5% of the problem. The real 90% is underneath: insecurity, unmet needs, fear, self-doubt. Punishing the behavior makes them shut down. Find what's driving it, and they can actually thrive.
A child's bad behavior, it could be anything— screaming, shouting, not doing homework, watching too much screen. And let me tell you, this is actually only 5% of the iceberg. It is the tip of the iceberg. When you see an iceberg, you can only see 10% above the water, right? Their attitude. But under the surface lies a lot of insecurities, unhelpful patterns, unserved thoughts, feelings, their needs that are not met, fear, pressure, and self-doubt which your child is struggling with every day. If you attack the behavior on top, your child will just kind of close down. What we need to do as parents is see the 90% of the iceberg. Where is this behavior coming from? Why are they behaving like And when we can reverse the fears, the pressure, the self-doubt, your child will flourish, your child will thrive. Read the caption to know how to solve the 90% that's inside the iceberg so that your child thrives in today's world.
