Telling kids to stop crying backfires. It teaches them to suppress emotions, which creates tension and leads to adults who either explode or shut down in relationships and work. Validate all feelings instead, and you raise emotionally intelligent kids who become better leaders and partners.
We're sending our kids to the best schools, spending so much money on them, but you know what, this one habit that we may be doing at home unintentionally could be destroying everything that we're actually doing for them. And this one habit is suppressing emotions. Children who suppress their emotions become adults who explode in relationships, in jobs, and in parenting. If your child hears, "Stop crying," "Don't be sensitive often," "Don't get angry," they become either too explosive or too implosive. They learn emotions are unsafe, and that creates a time-ticking bomb inside them emotionally and neurologically. This is what you need to do instead. All emotions are okay. Anger, guilt, frustration, jealousy. Let's figure out what this one's trying to tell you. And that's emotional intelligence. When you start doing that at home, your child will thrive. They will be amazing entrepreneurs. Everybody will want to work for their company. They will be people who are loved, who, you know, people want to spend time with them, right? We need to make our children emotionally intelligent, and by this one dialogue, your child will be the most loved person and one of the most successful human beings in today's world. Make sure you save this dialogue right now.
