How To Gain Eloquence & Flow In Your Communication

Are you looking for ways to improve your eloquence and flow in your communication? In this particular podcast, I'm going to be talking to you about the different types of communication. I'm going to be walking through a five step cyclical process that I've been following over the last few years, which is what helps me come out with videos or podcasts like this with so much of ease and flow without really trying too hard. So if you're brand new or you are a pro at this and you are looking for different ways to really bring out that flow with so much more ease, this is the podcast for you. Hi, my name is Darth Rajshekhar. I'm the founder of the Internet Lifestyle Hub and the creator of the Freedom Business podcast where I'm on a mission to help a million people build a super successful business from the comfort of their own homes without any office or employees by selling their knowledge in the form of courses, coaching and consulting. So this is going to be a topic on how to gain eloquence in your flow and communication.

I have to thank my grandpa because if I'm having the gift of the gap to be able to speak fluently is because he used to speak with me right from my younger days in English. He was a voracious reader. He used to read like PG Wodehouse. He'll be reading a lot of these novels and English books. And I got introduced to a lot of words right when I was in, you know, was very, very young and thankfully I was in, I studied in a convent school. So the accent and all of those things came in. But actually all of this does not really matter if you want to really be a good communicator. It is not just about, you know, accent to everything else. It's about being able to communicate heart to heart. You know, I've seen many people on YouTube and podcasts, they have a great accent and they have a good flow but the content does not really connect with the audience. So you need to have a balance of both. Know the ability to communicate effectively with the right flow and also connect on a deep level so that your audience is able to get what you're seeing. So I'm going to be walking you first through the different types of communities, communication and then, you know, where all which are the different areas that you can communicate. And we'll get into the five step cyclical process that I've been following unconsciously over the years and now I've just decoded this before I recorded this podcast and One of the reasons I record podcasts and I publish every day is so that, you know, I'm able to improve my communication skills. Like even right now.

I'm not like always super flowing in this, you know, I'm breaking, I'm using words. Like, I'm not really editing all of that. I'm just going with the flow and getting it, you know, in one take in this podcast. But the whole idea is I want to deliver the maximum value per minute. It's just 2 minutes, 34 seconds. And I'm sure you've got some value just in these 2 minutes, 34 seconds. Okay, so first let's talk about the types of communication. And don't worry too much about your style. Your style will evolve as you keep doing more of it. Let's break it into offline and online. Offline communication is you need to first be good at one to one communication and listening to people. If you're a good listener, you'll be, you'll be a good speaker. Okay, so it starts with listening. One of my favorite quotes is this. You know, you have two ears and one mouth. Use them in that proportion. Okay? So listen twice the time, then you speak. That will actually help you become a better communicator. So one to one, you need to be good at conversations and even one to many offline. If you're doing a small group training or a workshop and stuff like that, that's the other area where you can apply your, your communication skills. Then in the online space now, there's video, there's audio, there's text. Again, when it comes to video, there's pre recorded video, there's live streaming video. And then when it comes to audio, there's podcasts, and then when it comes to text, there is a short form text and long form text. So there are different forms of communication. But the building blocks of any effective communication or eloquence lies in the words that you use. Just like how water is the fundamental block of our human body. It's a fundamental element of the human body. 80% of our body is water. 80% of this entire planet is water. Similarly, you know, for to be a good communicator, you need to use words. So words are the fundamental blocks or the elements of great communication. And it does not have to be that you need to use all, you know, high flying words and jargon that people don't understand. It's not about.

Showcasing your prowess in how great you are in the kind of words that you use or the repertoire of the words that you use. And see, I'm just purposely using these words because it may intimidate a few people who do not know what that is. That's not the case here. That's not the point. The point is to keep it simple, to keep it straight, and to make it effective. So the five areas where you communicate are in one to one and one to many. Offline, video, audio, and text online. And the fundamental blocks are the words that you use. So you got to improve your vocabulary and use the words that are actually going to be helping you with your topic and whatever you're actually communicating with your market. So let's talk about the five steps on how to make this a cyclical thing to improve your eloquence the more and more you do it. Okay, so the first step, what I've implemented is learning. It's what you feed your mind. And like I mentioned before, you got to use your ears and mouth in that same proportion, so twice a time learning. So I like, I love to listen to audiobooks, I love to listen to podcasts, I love to listen to videos. And by my mentor, like in the initial days of my business, I would be watching his videos for maybe five, six, seven hours a day and just letting the information get in. So you gotta like consume, consume, consume, consume a lot of stuff, take notes and document the learnings. So I still, I still have all my notes. I. If you open up my Apple notes, I've got notes going back like two years, three years, four years on the different videos that I was watching. And the best part is once I take down the notes that come. Now we come to step number two is you've got to assimilate that those notes, you got to digest information. A lot of people just take notes and it just lies in the corner and then just sits in their head. You got to like reflect back going into the notes. And that's why I love using mind maps. I've got like hundreds of mind maps on my system on every single topic you can think of. Okay, so. And I always like to think on a mind map. So once I learn I have my notes in a notepad, then I start to put them into mind maps if I have to record a video or a podcast. And that allows me to like, process the information. It allows me to assimilate the knowledge. And then what I do after that is in the same. Step two is based on whatever I'm assimilating. I start to create models or mental models or formulas around it. For example, this formula is a five step cyclical formula that I just sat and put together in the last 30 minutes, okay. On how to gain eloquence and flow in your communication. So the eloquence formula is what I created in the last 30 minutes by just reflecting and looking at all the notes that I've taken from over the, over the years. And I just crystallize it into my own model. Okay. Now another way to get better is when you're processing information. Also see if you can model experts and influencers. See when you are learning from mentors and influencers who you aspire to become or you're able to observe what they're doing, see if you can model what they are doing. Like when I look at my mentor, Vic or Blair, I'm always watching not just what they say, but how they do it, how they see it, and how they're able to communicate effectively. And then I start to bring in those same examples and ideas. So I also used to take a lot of notes in terms of the hooks and the punchlines that they use and also the way that they would deliver it and the tonality, the speed of the voice, how intense it should be, how soft it can be, you know, also modulation of the voice. All of these things can be observed. And this is a part of the assimilation process. You got to digest not just information, but also the, the way things are done. Then the third step is most people don't talk about this, but if you want to gain eloquence in your speech, in your flow, you got to write more written words. Copywriting, okay? Some of the best marketers in the world are fabulous copywriters. Some of the best influencers in the world are great at writing and expressing their words in the form of written copy. Okay? The ability to influence people using written word. So when you get more into copywriting, in fact, I have a course called Copywriting Mastery where I've given my own take and my own version of how to improve copy. And many of our members have gotten fabulous at writing long form emails and long form, you know, sales letters and stuff. Going through that course where you need to learn a few power words. What are the words that really stir an emotion in the minds of your audience? Once you have that into your vocabulary, then you can start using that. In fact, I would also be. Even now I do it. I maintain a scrapbook of catchy headlines. I think I had a scrapbook, just a text pad with some 2, 300 headlines that when I was watching an ad or when I Go to some landing page. Really catchy. I just grabbed that headline and put it into this text pad and a lot of headlines in that, in that particular sheet. And then when I go and reflect and read through those headlines, it will give me new ideas to create headlines for my ads and for my landing page and stuff. So there's headlines, there's power words that are saving attractive ads, and also you getting into the habit of writing every day. You can start off just by writing one textual post on social media, on LinkedIn or Facebook, every single day, or even on Twitter. Shorter format. Writing emails every day is writing stories, expressing yourself and writing stories. And that's why even in our hackathon, the first thing that I do is I help people with templates on how they can better effectively write stories as well as information based posts. And then they get into this challenge of recording videos and podcasts and improving that skill. So the third step is to write. The fourth step, if you want to gain your eloquence and flow in communication, is to start sharing not just in written word, but express in your own words in the form of short videos and long videos and of course audio content as well. So audio, video, getting into that media is going to expand it even better. So the on one side you're writing words, on the other side you are expressing that by looking into a camera and also expressing that by just speaking into a microphone. And the way that I would deliver a video is very different from a podcast. In a podcast, I'm just closing my eyes and speaking. But when I'm doing a video, I like to show mind maps and make it more visually appealing. Also for my audience, ultimately it comes down to value per minute and retention. If you can keep people to the end of a particular piece of content, then you've got their attention and you have the high retention. And that's what is the main factor for your success when it comes to content. And finally, the last piece, the fifth part is practice. You know, you got to do one piece of content every single day for the next 90 days. Like if I have to look back in time the last four years, I've done more than 600 webinars, hundreds of emails, personally written, hundreds of social media posts, personally written and done. I don't really outsource that to anyone because it has to come from within me. Because every time I share something, I have something new to give and it has to come from my own experience, not from some copywriter who's just that I've hired. Okay, and that's where most people, most experts, they, they fall is because they prematurely just outsource the communication part to somebody else unless you know that person is really good and they know exactly how you would communicate. So these are the five steps. And once you finish these five steps, you've got to get back to step number one. So you got to learn step one, assimilate step two, write step three, share in the form of video and audio. Step four, and practice every day, like put go through a challenge of at least 90 days to 180 days where you putting one piece of content. And as you practice, you'll start to learn more. Coming back to step one, you'll start to assimilate more. So it'll become like a compounding effort, you know, effort, a compounding thing that, where you learn, do and teach simultaneously. And this whole process transforms you, transforms you as a person. And you know, you'll start to get more eloquent. You'll start to get in the flow. And anytime you're put into a room and you, you're asked to say something or speak something, if you have done enough of work, of practice, you'll be able to pull out from your mind maps and from your own mental models things that you might have shared before. You'll be able to pull it up really fast and connect the dots. And that's what happens. And I go into podcasts and people interview me. I've done so much of content so far in the last few years that I can basically handle any question, any situation. I have an answer to any question because of having so many hundreds of mind maps and hundreds of notes that I've actually documented over the years. So eloquence does not come overnight. It requires effort. And I hope this podcast inspired you to get on that journey yourself. So wish you all the best. If you're a part of my community, I would like you to share your notes below on what you learned from this by using the hashtag Ilitch Deep Learner. If you'd like to win a signed copy of my book, you can go check out. And if you're not a part of my community, in my show notes, there are some resources you can go and get your hands on that. And I would love to invite you to my next webinar. You can go to S I D Z Sid Sids Co Live and you can attend my next webinar. Cheers. God bless and I'll catch you in the next episode.