13 Solcast - Episode Thirteen with The Golden One

Welcome to episode 13 of the Soulcast. Today's guest, I know a lot of you have been excited for this and we had a great discussion, so let's get into it. Please welcome the Golden One. Welcome the Golden One to To the Soulcast, thanks for being here.

Thank you for having me. Always good to talk to like-minded people of wisdom and power.

Thank you very much. Well, we're happy to have you here at the Soulcast. What did you get up to this morning? How's your day gone?

Yes, so I actually thought to tell everyone exactly what I did. It's something you have promoted quite a bit, and it sounds a bit like a meme, but I actually did sunbathe, and I also sunbathed my balls for optimal testosterone.

There we go.

Yeah, it is.

Was this the first time?

It does feel nice. So, uh, coffee in the sun, did some reading, and, um, you know, I can do it in a secluded way, so I could actually also sunbathe as, as much of the body as possible. Highly recommended for anyone who hasn't tried it.

Yes, uh, I think you really have to kind of experience it to believe it. The feeling that it gives you and the sense of primalness in a way. It's just like we're meant to be in that kind of unrestricted form in nature, I think is a part of it as well.

Yeah, definitely. And yeah, again, as you say, it's— people have to try it to not just view it as some sort of meme. So it's, yeah, legit good stuff.

Yeah. It's crazy to me to think about that, you know, usually most guys have gone years and years and years without an area of their body exposed to sunlight. And sunlight, of course, being so powerful and energizing, is like, you want to get that on all of your body regardless of the test side of it, whatever else, but vitamin D production, all the rest of it, it's just a huge thing.

Yeah, definitely, definitely.

Well, I guess we should, uh, start with a little bit of background and kind of how we got into contact, I guess, is like The Golden One, you've been in the game a lot longer than I have. I remember reading and watching your videos a long time ago, so this is a bit of a fan moment for me as well. But I just want to say that, you know, you were kind of one of the only guys promoting this message of training, you know, honor, all those kind of manly virtues that we respect, that kind of have been lost in a way with Western society. I think, and I think your kind of promotion of that through your videos and all the rest of it online is, you know, it's very inspiring to a lot of younger guys who maybe they don't have an example of that in their life. And I think it's anything— it's something that young men feel internally, like in their soul or whatever else, is like that, you know, representing your homeland, defending your homeland, just being kind of rising to an upper level of spirit and all those kinds of things which we don't see often in today's world.

Oh yeah, thank you. Yeah, that's, that's very heartwarming and motivating to hear. Definitely, I think there's a great lack of heroic ideals, especially when the mainstream culture is so feminized and so ironic all the time. I saw a certain opening When I started, I didn't really see anyone else talking about these heroic ideals, which were the standard back in ancient Greece, for example, or even back in Europe not so long ago. So, and especially seeing the situation the West is in at the moment, I truly believe that, you know, a shift in mentality is needed. Otherwise, we'll be, you know, lost as a civilization, just as so many other civilizations have been lost over, over mankind's history. So, um, yeah, definitely needed.

Yeah, there are certain societies that if they have certain values, they tend to perform better or, you know, exist. And one of those is kind of the devotion to something other than the self. And I think one of the reasons we're experiencing such a collapse in the other, you know, the, the functionality of the Western world at the moment is because of the rise of the individual and there being a more atomized community where you're not particularly, uh, you don't have strong ties to your community, and so there's less of something to defend, uh, or represent in that way. Does that make sense?

Yeah, definitely. I mean, that's, uh, that's the key, I'd say, in, uh, in why we are in this situation. Everyone is sort of doing their own thing, only thinking about themselves. And of course, it's natural if you have grown up in maybe different places. You have gone to one school for a few years, then another school. You've moved from town to town. Back in the day, you were more rooted in your community. Like if you grew up in a village, you had your good mates, you had your family there. And then when you got older, you also settled down in the area. Maybe with a girl from that area, and her family was also there, her friends, and you had a completely different sense of community and accountability to that community. Whereas today, if everyone or many people are living in big cities, they don't know their neighbors, and they don't really know, they don't really have any sense of, they don't care what happens in their vicinity. And of course, yeah, if everyone goes with that mindset, which is natural in a big city because humans can't really have so many relationships, you can only have so many meaningful relationships. And that's easier in a smaller village, of course. So yeah, it's a bit of a predicament, but I'd say that a lot of guys, they are maybe unhappy because you get unhappy if you only think about yourself. And the same thing if you if you live for a larger idea, and if you help others, you, you will also get happier. So yeah, it goes hand in hand, the ultra-individualist society and unhappiness.

Yes, that's, that's a really good point. I think a lot of guys who maybe they're blackpilled or whatever else, and they see no hope or happiness and how they're living or the way their life is going at the moment is like to look outside of the self for that. And the helping others is a huge one. Like, it starts obviously with the religious teachings, is like, help your neighbor. It seems to be a source of happiness within the self. But also when you help others, they can then help others, and it has a magnifying effect, which is kind of raising the general level of the society that you're in, which is infinitely more rewarding than striving to kind of promote yourself all the time. So I guess that leads me to a question of saying, if, if guys don't have that community around them, what would you recommend to them to do or what communities to look into if they're kind of lacking that social community in a way, or kind of a lack of these ideals. Is there a way to do it online, maybe in the communities that are kind of appearing online, like you said, with like-minded people? Or is there something that they can do within their local communities to kind of be the figureheads or the spearheads to kind of promote that kind of thing? Because I guarantee, even if you don't realize it, there are people feeling the same way as you in your community that maybe there isn't an outlet for that, and to galvanize change in your community and be that kind of, to push the boundary, I think would be a good thing.

Yeah, so basically we have the good parts and the bad parts about the modern world. So one bad part is that many guys are taken out of a social context, but we do have the good part, of course, which is communities over the internet, and I'm sure there are a lot of guys who are listening to this now who feel part of our community, or whatever we should call it. And, you know, I'm also quite happy when I see guys connecting over social media that I have, you know, they strike up a conversation, then they maybe go to visit each other, etc. But they have that sense of— they have a sense of community, they have a sense of not being completely alone, and this is something I get from guys who are in university and college, because obviously they feel a bit out of place where there's a lot of feminized new males and etc. So they feel a bit out of place.

Factories for those guys.

Yes, exactly. So they have first and foremost the internet community, so they can feel like, yeah, there are others like me. Because no one likes to feel completely different from— Alone. Yeah, alone, exactly. So they have the internet community, and then the internet of course also brings the opportunity to find others that might be in their vicinity. Of course, harder in some parts, but it's possible in other parts. And also in regards, if we take just an example of a guy in university, My advice to him would be to, you know, keep up the networking online, you know, feel that you're part of a community, listen to your podcast, watch my videos, etc. Continue to, you know, be in that positive mindset that you are sort of like a spiritual community that we're going upwards together, helping each other out, posting physique, admiring each other, you know, overall positive vibes, but also trying to, in his, um, at his college or university, trying to find other guys. And you can see, if we're talking about physiognomy, you can sort of see just on the how another guy looks what sort of person he is. So if he looks a bit jacked, you know, a good posture, straight back, firm gaze, uh, he looks well put together, he's probably a guy you can have some sort of common interest with, be it lifting or going out hiking or whatever. So I would say to work on both ends, both keeping the internet as a spiritual guide and then also finding guys in your vicinity.

Yeah, no, that's a great point. The last point about the physiogen— physiognomy. How do I say it? Physiognomy. Yes, I'm probably stuffing that up, but oh well. You know, it is curious. I always noticed that whenever I was in a new situation and maybe you're put into a group of 40 people that you don't know, you kind of naturally gravitate to the people you get along with. And just viewing that and seeing who the people I got along with versus the people that made their other groups, if it's like group work for uni or whatever else, the people that kind of got along usually looked very similar. Yeah. And I've noticed that, you know, throughout my whole life and always thought it was curious. So it's almost as if, well, I believe that it is, that the physical outward representation of someone is a definite marker of their inner state or their inner mindset as well.

Yeah, it is, it is true. I first came into contact with physiognomy. Maybe 7 years ago I read a book, a historical fiction book by Harry Sidebottom, great author by the way, and he talked— one of his characters in the book, a Greek individual, talked about physiognomy because he was analyzing the others. They had an expedition, this was set during the 200s in the Roman Empire. But then I thought, yeah, this sounds interesting, but it sounds like a bit of bro science, maybe, but ever since then, and if I looked upon, you know, I've been in this game for 5, 6 years, something like that, and I've learned to see, you know, if a guy approaches me, I know from the look on him that he is someone who can relate to my message, 'cause I see in their face and in their body language what kind of guys there are, and I can also see if someone is not so receptive to my teachings, so to speak. You have these new males who are a bit more ironic, they don't really live by, you know, the upward striving. So there is something to be said about physiognomy. You can say, you know, I a lot about how a person is, the sort of aura he's portraying outward.

Yeah, so it's almost a subconscious thing, a vibration that you get from certain people.

Yeah, definitely.

And the other side is that, you know, ugly people on the inside are usually ugly on the outside, whether that's their demeanor, you know, their personality, how they interact with people or otherwise. And for the most part, if a nice, radiant, beautiful person on the inside is is going to be pretty attractive on the outside as well. So it's all of that kind of together.

Yeah, definitely. And this might sound a bit harsh to say, but it is true because I've also seen the kind of individuals who are not so nice. They are usually not the best looking either. And you know, you sense their aura as well. They carry around a lot of resentment, a lot of envy, some hatred as well. And that negative mindset instead of looking upon guys like us and saying, oh damn, these guys look good, they have probably some knowledge they can impart on me so I can improve. Yeah, instead that they're saying like, oh, you know what, they, uh, they're self-obsessed narcissists, you're only caring about this or that. So you can see that quite clearly in the, the soul of a person, how they approach, uh, well, yeah, guys like us. Uh, and as you say, yeah, ugly on the outside, ugly on the inside, usually the case.

Yeah, I found the most hate that I've seen, at least online, and sometimes from people as well. It's never the jacked, good-looking guy that's attacking other people, and that goes for everyone. Like, it's never the beautiful model who's commenting on the pictures like, "You suck," "You look like shit," you know, all those kinds of things that you see on unfortunately on social media is usually the result of people that are kind of trying to deal with their own bad rap in life, or, you know, they're not successful, so they hate on other successful people. And that's, that's part of a broader negative mindset and low vibrational attitude where you're, you're not grateful for what you do have. You want to tear everyone else's success down because you haven't had success in your own life. Rather than saying, okay, well, what are they doing right? And then I can emulate them and hopefully see the same level of success or development that they have. And I think that's a very important mindset shift to have, is that I, I haven't— like, when I was younger, I used to be jealous of other people and sometimes voice that jealousy in terms of like, oh, I bet he's not even happy with the money that he has, or things like that. Just when I was younger, when I didn't really understand the concept that they've probably worked very hard for what they have, or if it was someone very good at a sport, I'd always try and— not always, like, I was relatively good at it, but, you know, just being young and foolish, you, you make these comments and judge other people when you don't necessarily know what's going on behind the scenes. And I think part of maturing emotionally is recognizing when you're saying stuff like that out of insecurity, uh, becoming conscious of it and acknowledging it in yourself and going, hang on, maybe that's not the best thing to just spray out someone that I don't know, uh, really, uh, and kind of trying to cut that out of your life. And once you do that, uh, on the whole, then you tend to see better beneficial change in your own life as well.

Yeah, definitely. Very well said. Uh, and this is absolutely 100% true that the jacked, athletic, good-looking guy, he is also the nice guy. You know, you've probably seen this as well in certain Hollywood movies. There's always the jacked athlete who is also quite mean, and the downtrodden guy is the nice guy. But this is not the truth at all. And I would say that— and of course, I've also had that sort of resentful mindset when I was younger. But I think the best cure is to, when you start out with your own endeavor, so your bodybuilding endeavor, for example, you start appreciating others on that journey because you understand there's so much to take care of. You need to have an extremely disciplined mindset to go to bed, to take care of your diet, to go to the gym. And when you have been in it for—

3 years.

Yeah. For a while you start appreciating the things others have accomplished, and this translates also into business and other career paths. So if I see a great painter or an actor or a musician, I can also appreciate because I know the hard work they put in, and I know that no one who's good at anything— of course, talent is real and talent shouldn't be underestimated, but I also know that if they're good at something, it's because they've also put in a lot of work, and that is usually a good sign of a person, that they have that sort of determination and discipline. Whereas the people who haven't started anything in their lives, maybe they're just drifting along, they will not have the same sort of respect for the guys and girls who are really pushing the pace. So that is my analysis, at least, why you see the The more successful people, the better looking people, they are kinder and more understanding in your own struggle. And this is also something for anyone who deals with online hate to keep in mind, that, you know, there is the guys you want to emulate, that you want to have the respect, they're not the ones who comment anonymous bad things to you.

Yeah. How do you deal with online hate? Because I know, seeing like a small amount of it myself, my strategy is usually just to block and move on with my day. It seems to be working very well.

Yeah, that's the best part. I mean, now I am so— you know, if you take 5 years ago, it was different, but I learned quite quickly exactly what you said, that, you know, the guys who are posting vicious comments, they are utter trash in their own lives. And once you come to that realization, when you— if you see pictures of them, or if— when you truly understand what sort of individuals they are, it loses the sting of their comments.

Yes.

So that's my best advice to anyone who deals with it, that just meditate upon what sort of individuals they are. You know, if I got criticism from someone I respect, I take it to heart immediately. So this was also like 3 or 4 years ago, a friend of mine, he said, "You know what, you make great videos, but maybe you shouldn't curse so much, you know, use the F-bomb, etc." And I said like, "Yeah, okay, you know, you might have a 'You might have a point.' So then I started reducing it a bit. So I mean, you should be open to criticism, but you should also be mindful to listen to the guys you respect and never listen to the anonymous commenter online who doesn't have any skin in the game. And that's also why I'm so adamant in that everyone should post physique, because I also know that the guys who don't want to post physique they probably have a looser mentality, whereas the guys who have, you know, they want to post physique, they have the better mentality.

Yeah, I think it, especially the physique thing, it just lends credibility to what you're saying if you're talking about it. And, and even if you're not particularly jacked or whatever else, it's like saying, hey, this is me, I'm here and I'm ready to improve. So across the board, it's kind of a good thing. I guess that leads into the idea of self-image aesthetics overall and the importance of presenting oneself well. I know this is a kind of idea that you popularized through your videos a little bit, and is that, you know, if you're just going about your day, you never know who you might run into. And it's just kind of a thing for your subconscious mind as well to always present a nice, well, you know, groom yourself, comb your hair, dress nicely, always be hygienic, all those kinds of things which seem obvious, but it is like you can get lazy. And I know I've gotten lazy myself with those things. If I feel like I'm not, you know, doing anything important that day, maybe I'll just chill in, in sloppy clothing or whatever else. And I think it's important to mention because it's— the first impression is a real thing. And you're always going to be taken more seriously if you're dressed nicely. People respect you more just at a subconscious level and in conversation and things like that. So not, not to consider aesthetics and, you know, grooming of oneself and all that as like a vain thing, but an investment in your life. And, you know, looking good for an interview, it's that kind of mentality where you want to put your best image of yourself, your best foot forward, kind of into the world. And I definitely think there's internal self-worth effects that kind of carry through to your demeanor and your personality. So in general, just to have that at the forefront of— not at the forefront of your mind, but always be a consideration not to let that kind of thing slip.

Yeah, definitely. And this is also something that can either go in an upward positive spiral or a downward negative one. Because how you— if you wake up first thing in the morning and you look yourself in the mirror and you think, oh, I look so good today, then you start feeling better. Then your confidence go up, you become happier, you become more pleasant. And if you have that sort of radiance, when you— especially when you interact with other humans, you feel confident, you feel good, you think that they like you. And this is also some, some advice I've been meaning to make a video on guys who are— want to be more confident in social situations. It's always the best thing is to think that everyone likes you and everyone is receptive to your conversation, to your company, because then you will be a bit more open, a bit more pleasant to be around, and then you will gain extra confidence. So it can start with just looking in the mirror and feeling good, and that creates a good upward spiral for the rest of the day, which if you do it every day, you will start being more well-liked and you will start liking yourself more. On the other hand, if you feel absolutely horrible because you have failed in something, for example, you have failed if you're trying to quit you quit porn and you relapse, then you feel bad with yourself and you get a lower self-image, and that in turn spirals down. You become a bit more shy perhaps, or a bit more less impressive. You feel bad. Then also, of course, if we're talking about the classic cleaning, cleaning your room, also good way to start your morning. Just make your bed, have everything in order. A small little accomplishment in the beginning of the day, setting the tone for the rest of the day. Yes, exactly. So, um, yeah, definitely.

Yeah, the, uh, making a bed is a big one. I used to be lazy with that, and then one day it just kind of clicked in my head. I was like, you know, you're spending a lot of your time in your room just kind of casually with your bed in the background, why not just make it? It takes, what, 8 seconds? I have just a big sheet that I throw over and then, wow, the whole room just looks cleaner and nicer. And people may not realize, but that everything in your environment, your subconscious mind is constantly processing. Um, that's why there's a reaction to kind of scan the room as you go into a new area, those kinds of things. But even if you're not consciously scanning for it your mind has to consciously be aware in case there are threats like saber-toothed tigers hiding in the bushes, that kind of thing. So while, you know, your room isn't, um, isn't likely that a tiger's gonna jump out, uh, your brain is processing all these different things. And if there's stuff that's not put away or just kind of cluttering your desk, all of those things are taking up, uh, brain power, uh, that could be better used on other things, uh, that just kind of like If you think of your brain as a hard drive with a certain amount of processing power, it's like you want to maximize what processing power is available to you to do the things you want to do. And if there's lots of unconscious RAM background activity, it just doesn't make sense to have that as like your mental state going forward. So cleaning your room and making sure everything has a place, like a drawer or a, a storage box or something, that can be a great first step to kind of cleaning up your environment. And again, uh, that snowball effect of if everything's clean and put away, you're more likely to get out some books and study if your desk isn't cluttered with shit, or, um, you know, those kinds of things. So I think that's very important for, for people to realize. And it sounds so simple, like, oh yeah, clean your room, but it's, it's a meme for a reason. It's because the first kind of step in this whole thing is just to take care of what you can take care of, and that's your own body, that's your own, uh, aesthetic grooming, that's your own room. And, you know, making it look nice— when you have a nice environment to kind of relax in, that's another benefit of it. Making sure things are aesthetically pleasing, like hanging up nice posters that kind of communicate what you're interested in, those kinds of things. Like personalizing a room, I think, are very important for young guys to do, so you have a bit of a sanctuary in the modern world to kind of come to. And that also will, will benefit sleep when your brain can recognize that this area is, you know, this is the area where we're safe from the saber-toothed tigers and we can kind of relax and unwind. Uh, if you have a TV blaring and, and everything's messy, you don't feel as relaxed and, uh, kind of your brain isn't as optimal, optimized for sleep in that way as well.

Yeah, definitely. There's also something to be said about beauty, uh, in it all, that humans thrive better. We are happier when we are surrounded by beauty. So as you mentioned just now, and you mentioned it in our previous podcast as well, that you have some, some posters up, uh, displaying, you know, beauty basically. I also have some paintings here that I find beautiful. I try to keep my vicinity beautiful. I have a bust of David standing here by, by my desk and some flowers as well, some aesthetic books, it will create a better environment for your brain as opposed to if you are living in a mess. It will create not only, as you say, the hard drive example, very good example by the way, but it also creates a sense of, if something is ugly, it causes us distress. And this is if we talk about society on, Yeah, on a societal level, if humans are living in a city that is ugly, it's run down, or it's full of modern architecture or graffiti, etc., they won't be as happy as the people who are living in, you know, the well-taken care of, beautiful city. So what you post on Instagram in your stories— great content, by the way, everyone should follow you on Instagram.

Thank you, thank you.

You know, this nice pictures from the '80s and '90s of just beautiful places. You know, there was one picture you posted, you can see the Mediterranean and there is just a table with a cup of coffee on it or something, and everything looks so clean and nice. So surrounding yourself with beauty is good for everything, basically.

Good for the soul.

Yeah, exactly. And if you want to be a good a good citizen who uplifts the spirit of others. If you look good yourself, if you're well taken care of, you have nice ironed clothes, you're groomed, etc., um, yeah, you will not only be more, um, you will be treated better by the world, but you will also spread some more joy. So it's not, uh, it's not an egoistic thing to, to think about your appearance. It's it's a good deed for the greater good of the world.

Exactly. It's a responsibility to your community in a way. Let's pivot a bit. So I have a lot of guys ask me about MMA training or combat sports training, and I don't really have any experience in that domain, so I can never really answer their questions properly. Properly. But the main thing is, how do I consolidate the gym versus grappling and MMA? Is there a kind of balance that you have with weightlifting and how much you do it? Because I know that if you want to get really good at combat sports, you know, maybe you're training 4 times a week. If you're also trying to lift weights, uh, you know, 3 or 4 times a week on top of that, can be quite taxing. And I was just wondering if you— what are your overall thoughts on that? Uh, I know I personally would recommend— you can— you don't need to be lifting 6 days a week on top of your MMA training. And even 3 times a week or 2 times a week doing really strong, intense full body lifting for about an hour, uh, it's going to be enough for you to make progress and increase strength without busting up your body too much. But that being said, I've never trained MMA, so I can't really say. So I will leave the floor to you.

Yeah, sure. So I get this question all the time, and I wish I could have a more white-pilling answer, but in my experience, at least, it is quite hard to, to combine the two, especially if you are on— if you have come a long way in your lifting and it takes a lot to progress. I mean, in the beginning when you're starting to lift, um, everything kind of goes smoothly, but once you've been at it for a few years each step of the progression, it takes so much, you know, perfect sleep and perfect nutrition, etc. But what I did last autumn, I combined the two. So I tried to focus on, you know, shorter sessions in the gym, focusing on bench, deadlift, and squats. Did some accessory movements, but nothing overly much. And then I did grappling and MMA, uh, 4 days a week, um, and lifting too. Uh, so yeah, you know, if you— as opposed to now, now I haven't trained MMA in a few months actually because, uh, the, the corona pandemic canceled basically everything. Uh, and I do look better now, of course, because I can spend more time in the gym. I can focus more on you know, my shoulders, doing military presses, doing more accessory work. Um, now of course I had a good physique during the autumn as well, but there you will come to— there will be a difference in focusing fully. Yeah, it is, it is definitely. Uh, now of course if I were to give some general recommendations, it's also to have different periods. So of course I built up my physique during a long period of time, which also means that I can get away with not training so much in the gym, but I can still have, you know, that solid foundation. And the same thing if you are— if someone is looking to get into some sort of martial arts, you can have periods where you train more in the gym, and then you go into a period where you train more MMA. This is also something I, you know, on a mental level, that once you're into something, you want to train that more. So if I'm into, you know, a gym bodybuilding aesthetics mode, I want to only focus on that because that's my frame of mind. And if I am in the grappling zone or the MMA zone, I want to, you know, think about MMA. I want to train it more. I want to do it all the time. And if you split your attention, it can create sort of, um, almost like you have, uh, um, yeah, I don't know any good example, but as I view it, I see martial arts as my first love, but I see the gym as my true love. So you have that sort of, that sort of balance. But as I would say it, you can have periods where you go into more gym and aesthetics, And then you can have periods, so for me perhaps during the autumn where I don't need to look as good because I don't have the tan and I don't have any photo shoots, etc., then I can do a bit more MMA and grappling. And then of course maybe train in the gym 2 times a week to maintain strength and muscle mass. So I don't even know if that was a good answer to the question, but—

No, I'm sure that helps. It's kind of like, it's not, one of those ones with a simple answer. It's okay, well, what do you want to get better at? What's your main priority? Do you want to get bigger, or do you want to, uh, you know, get better at this grappling skill or, or Thai boxing or something like that, kickboxing? Um, depends what you value and where you're at in your life, and also depends how much spare time you have. Yeah, you could get a lot away with a lot more if you didn't have, you know, a real set work schedule. Perhaps your home on university break or something like that, you have the whole summer free, is you could probably get away with, with training both if you're able to nap for an hour and a bit during the day and then sleep 10 hours at night, and you're preparing all your own wholesome organic food and really nourishing your body and stretching and all the rest of it. But that obviously is not possible for a lot of people, so it comes down to a balancing act of Okay, what time do I have? What do I want to focus on? What do I want to commit my energy towards? You know, wherever your focus— wherever your, uh, what's the saying? Wherever your focus goes, uh, energy grows or something like that. Have you heard that?

Uh, no, I haven't, but it's a very good— it's a good saying, I'd say.

Uh, yeah, I'm misremembering it, but that's the idea, is that whatever you're focusing on, uh, is going to become a bigger thing in your life. And that goes to the negatives, negative as well. If you're always worried about what's bad happening in your life and focusing on other people instead of your own, that's going to manifest as, you know, you not progressing as well in life, and those negative things are going to get worse if you're always focusing on them. If you want to support the show, head head to gumroad.com/l/soulcast1. That's the number 1. You guys can subscribe there, support the show, make sure that we can continue doing great episodes like this.

Yeah, definitely. So I will say some, some practical advice, some practical advice as well. If you do train both lifting and MMA, Increase your intake of carbohydrates because if you train MMA, especially grappling, it's quite similar to, you know, these explosive takedowns, et cetera, and your body will just burn through carbohydrates like crazy, so increase the intake. Then also, a little anecdote from my youth when I trained Thai boxing. So I trained Thai boxing at a place near my high school, so I went from school to Thai boxing. And then there was half an extra hour until my train went back home. So then we had some weights at that place as well, so I spent the extra half an hour lifting. You know, it wasn't anything serious. It was some biceps curls and some sit-ups and some military press, so a bit of bro exercises, but it gave me so much less, and if you can find those, you know, put in some lifting wherever possible. So if you have an MMA club and they have a barbell or they have a rack to do chins or something, use that as well. Because sometimes you can get away with, you know, a lifting session doesn't have to be a long marathon. It can be, if you have 20 extra minutes, and you smash out a few reps of something, it will go a long way in the long run. So, and then also, of course, it depends on everyone's situation, where you live, how you work, what times you work, et cetera. But if you want to combine the two, and if there are some weights at your MMA place, I would say you should lift before you do MMA. So that you're not completely burnt out in your muscles.

Yeah.

So yeah, this is also something I did a few years back. I did a quick back session, deadlifts, then directly on to barbell rows, then directly on to shrugs. So 3 exercises in short succession, and then I went up to grapple. And now, of course, that requires required quite a bit of carbohydrates as well. But it is doable. Yeah, it's hard, but you can find those sort of combinations.

Yeah, I've, I've come to realize maybe, uh, that you really only need one big set and one big kind of strain of the muscles you're trying to work in order to elicit, uh, that reaction that you're looking for. You know, that hypertrophic response, or the response in your body that's going to promote strength gain or whatever else is people, you know, there's this mentality that you're not working hard enough unless you're in the gym for 2 hours. And I think especially in terms of, in terms of pure muscle gain, you really only need a short period of time of lifting with intensity focused on the muscles that you're trying to improve. Uh, and all of that can be condensed. Like, I usually work out my chest in 20 minutes these days, you know. I'll, I'll start out with dips, I'll do 3 sets of that, straight to incline press, 3 sets of 8 of that, um, and straight into dumbbell chest press. And this is all within a 20-minute time span, so you know, you're really getting a pump on. Uh, and then into flies, uh, and then a cable fly finisher at the end. But it's like, that completely fries the pectorals. But I'm not in the gym lifting and benching for an hour and a half. All those extra sets that you're doing might not necessarily be the best thing if you're looking for muscle gain, but it is going to negatively wear out your joints, uh, and use up a whole bunch of energy, uh, that you could be used for recovery and all the rest of it, especially if you're training with this, uh, you know, the other MMA commitments or whatever else. Um, would you say that lifting has benefited your MMA game? And if Is it something that, you know, if someone's exclusively only training the skill of MMA, that they should weightlift as well?

Yeah, first and foremost, I will just comment on the length of a training session. For me, it's about maybe 45 minutes a training session. So my mentality is just the day before, I'm trying to optimize sleep and nutrition and then go in and hit the weights like, you know, with a force of 1,000 suns. Like boom, go in and just have a hardcore session. And I try to do it in, yeah, you know, 40-45 minutes. It doesn't have to be longer. As to your other question, yeah, I mean, it's huge, especially in terms of grappling. You know, you can really— you know, grapplers, they often say like, yeah, technique is important, but you know, just pure strength, you can get you can go a long way with it and you can get away with a lot of things. And yeah, certain techniques, if I train Brazilian jiu-jitsu, I know full well they would never work on a really strong guy because of— yeah, anatomy basically. Uh, so in terms of grappling, it is huge. Of course you need some technique as well, but if you're strong, it will count a lot to, uh, to both withstanding, um, you know, attacks from the opponent, but also getting in. So a takedown, for example, the stronger your arms are, the more likely you are to be able to, you know, pull an opponent's legs together, uh, lifting up sort of like a deadlift. If you are used to deadlifting 200 kilos, you know, lifting a guy of 100 kilos is no problem. Uh, yeah, so there are so many aspects where you feel, you know, strength and mass coming into play. Then of course also if we're talking about withstanding punishment from striking, if you have a thick neck and thick traps and if you get a punch to your chin, you will be much better able to—

yeah, withstand, absorb the blow.

Yeah, and the same thing if you get the punch in wherever it is in your body, the more dense your bone mass. And of course, you can increase your bone density by doing heavy lifting such as squats, for example. It will eventually build stronger bones.

Yeah, um, yeah.

So for me, I've never broken a bone in my life, and that's not because of being particularly careful, but because I've, you know, taken care of drinking my milk and calcium and training.

Yeah.

So So yes, in terms of every grappling movement, takedowns, resisting takedowns in the Thai boxing clinch, for example, and then also in being explosive when you punch. Now of course, there is, you need to, when it comes to punching, you need to be able to relax your muscles to elicit that speed of the punch, but when you learn to activate your entire body, and if you have the mindset already that, you know, when I do a deadlift, for example, I use my entire body. When I do a squat, I activate my entire body. Same thing with a punch, really, that you, you activate it from the legs, you're getting that twist. So I'd say also on a more mental level, how you approach the techniques in MMA, if you have been training in the gym and you have that sort of mindset, it will be a lot easier.

Yeah, no, 100%. I mean, I wish I had more to say on that, but I've never really done the training properly. I guess another point with the MMA training is I've done some physical training because I used to be a bouncer in nightclubs, so there's some kind of mandatory training that you have to do— self-defense and manipulation of people, you know, physical removals all that kind of thing, which gave me at least some base knowledge of what to do if a fight broke out, kind of thing. But having that skill in the back of your head, knowing that you know how to at least move evasively if someone's attacking you physically, throw a kind of lethal, in quotes, strike that is actually going to do some damage to someone if they were looking to hurt you, whatever else. That kind of inner confidence is so valuable as a man to, you know, keeping your head in hectic situations, or, and just in general, believing in yourself and having that self-confidence that I think it's invaluable that, you know, I haven't trained it myself, but doing some sort of combat sport training, and it also teaches those classic things of discipline, humbling oneself when learning something new, All of those things that people rave about when they start, maybe they start doing jiu-jitsu for the first time. A big thing is that they get addicted to the improvement, and that's more so a general thing that I recommend. It's like whenever you're improving each day, everything else doesn't really matter. Like, you seem to derive some sort of inner satisfaction from growth, whatever that may be, whether it's, you know, reading more each day or studying more or whatever your chosen endeavor is. To just keep on chipping away at it every day and improving with lifting or MMA or whatever else is like— everything else can kind of go to shit, but as long as you're improving and have that headspace and getting better, I think that's kind of a beacon for people to hold on to in the hectic world that we live in today.

Yeah, definitely. The progression is everything. That's actually one of the reasons I So I started lifting when I was 20, and then at 25, or actually 26, I went back to martial arts. And one of the reasons—

How old are you now?

Sorry, I'm 30 now. Okay, going— Yeah, one of the reasons was that I wanted to get that progression because I had been stalling in the gym for quite some time. So, so I thought to go back to Brazilian Brazilian jiu-jitsu and MMA to, to get that, you know, learning process again. It's so, so rewarding. Um, yeah, it's, it is addicting to get that sense of, um, you know, each small step counts and it's a little victory, no matter if you're talking about the gym or, or Brazilian jiu-jitsu.

Yeah. All right, um, so we had a few questions asked from people, um So let's delve into those a bit. Uh, one of them was how to find adventure in the modern age. So that's obviously a very broad question, but I think inherently it speaks about the yearning for adventure and danger that, that young guys biologically have ingrained within them. Uh, it's what's motivated men to conquer foreign lands, uh, and all that kind of thing. And I think at least now in Western societies, it's a bit— feels a bit stifling in that sense that there maybe is less of an adventure to be had out there. Um, but I still think it's possible. So what are your thoughts on adventure in the modern age? And I'll say something after you, but what do you think?

Uh, yeah, sure. So I mean, if we're talking about classic classic adventuring, going out in a jungle or something. Of course, there are certain such possibilities. Yes. If you look around, maybe you can go to Thailand, rent a scooter, and just go straight out into the countryside and see where you end up, and then start going up in a jungle or something. But in a more in a way that you can live in an adventurous way even where you are. Of course, if you are some sort of entrepreneur, it is an adventure and you will have the sense of excitement all the time. It is unsafe in a lot of ways because maybe you don't know if you're gonna make it or if you're gonna get enough money from it, etc. But I mean, if you view entrepreneurship in the modern world, it's sort of similar to an explorer or a trader or something a few hundred years ago, you know, going out on a ship to sail to China to bring home some exotic goods and then to sell. Yeah. Then also, of course, if we're talking about a— on the political side, I wouldn't really recommend this, but For anyone, for all Swedish guys who are listening, if you want some sense of adventure, you can always become a political dissident. Now, of course, I wouldn't really recommend it for someone who is in perhaps a company and has a way up in that career, because you will destroy a lot of opportunities. But there is at least that sense of adventure. So if I look on my own life, and for as long as I've been my own man, my own man and a political dissident, I've never been bored. At least there's always been stuff going on. So not always the most comfortable, but you get that satisfaction of, of adventure, at least I'd say.

Yeah, for sure. So you touched on pretty much what I was going to say, is that It's still very possible to go to, you know, some less developed areas of the world. Just hop on a plane with your mates. And I've done this through South America, gone on backtracking— backtrack— backpacking trips where it's just been me and a few lads going to cities that we really don't know much about and just walking through them and seeing what kind of adventures you can get up to. It's the same feeling in a foreign land, you know, all that kind of thing, which can be done with travel in the modern age, you know, you're not going to be discovering a new country, but you know, that's fine also. I think there's a lot to be said for the modern world and the benefits of it, uh, the creature comforts that we, that we enjoy. While not necessarily good for us to exhibit all the time, um, they're there for a reason, and it's, it's good to have them and the kind of developed society that we have that might impact the the cause of adventure, but you know, there's stuff to appreciate there. Within that, of course, I think is a big one, is becoming an entrepreneur of some kind. I found that in my kind of realm in this Sol Brah thing is that, you know, you kind of live and die by the sword and you can do your work and sink or swim and it's really up to you what happens, which is completely different mindset, spiritually as well from just working a job where you're punching numbers in a spreadsheet. And I've worked that, uh, for a number of years just as a necessity. Um, and I can say once you step from out, uh, of that kind of safe umbrella, uh, the potential for risk obviously goes up, but the potential for the upside goes up as well. And that kind of facilitates a grander feel of adventure in that you have some kind of control of your own destiny. That's, that's good and bad, and I think that is the best kind of way forward to kind of develop in business or go and travel foreign lands with your manabund or whatever else. And yeah, that's a way to kind of develop a sense of adventure in the modern world.

Yeah, definitely. And I would say also that you have a great benefit as an entrepreneur entrepreneur if you're also a gym brah. So if you are used to that discipline and that sense of accountability towards yourself, because as we know, uh, both been in the gym a long time, your results, it's up to you basically. No one can come and give you 10 kilos of muscle mass. You have to work for it yourself. Same thing as an entrepreneur. No one will come to the rescue. You have to put in work yourself. You can't cheat, you can't cheat yourself, you can't argue your way around a problem, you just have to deal with it and you have to be disciplined in doing so. Then also I thought to mention something about adventuring, something that everyone who's listening to this can do, is go out in nature, find some cool, I don't know, nature reserve or something. Find the most epic place you can, and you have to do it with a mate so he can take a picture of you, and then you take pictures of each other. And just go to an epic place and then post to Instagram. You can tag both of us in the picture. So yes, go out in nature, find an epic place, strike a pose, you know, a heroic pose, So you post for sick and you show that sense of adventure. So that is, yeah, something you can do, everyone.

Yes, I look forward to those tags. So keep them coming, guys. Yeah, I guess a good life skill to kind of have, this kind of relates to entrepreneurship thing, is if a problem arises, like there's no one skill you have to really master. In developing a business or whatever. And I'm no business expert, I don't want to say that I am or anything else, but what I've noticed is that to progress in whatever you kind of choose to make entrepreneurship-wise is that if a problem comes up, you have to learn a way to fix it or get around it. And there's no, there's no one else to go to, especially if you're working by yourself for the first time. And I think that kind of mentality of, yeah, whatever happens I'll deal with it is, is kind of a greater life, uh, skill to have, uh, in terms of your mentality. Is that if something comes up that sucks, okay, be upset about it for 5 minutes, that's all you get, and then you have to move on, figure out what your next step is. And that goes for any negative events in your life. It does not help to say, oh, 'Woe is me,' you know, 'How could this happen to me? This is such a bad thing, bad luck,' or whatever else. It's like, okay, the thing has happened, the consequences are there, whether it was your own doing or just a random— truly was bad luck. It doesn't matter, and it doesn't help anyone to ruminate on it and to, you know, be upset about it. Is— it's kind of the essence of being an independent man is to, okay, I have this problem, uh, what can I do about it? If I can't do anything about it, cool, let's just move on. Uh, and that kind of echoes the, the sentiments of Stoicism as a whole, uh, which I recommend anyone kind of— if you're young guys first getting into reading, is the, the ancient, uh, philosophers talking about Stoicism. Obviously Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is a classic, uh, but they give this proponent of a mentality of saying what I can control, I'll do something about. But if I can't control it, if it's out of my hands, don't devote a single amount of emotional energy towards it because you're not going to be able to affect it and it's a waste of your time and energy.

Yeah, definitely. I was going to, to mention the Stoicism as well. A huge, huge thing to take on board, especially when you, when you end up in those situations where you think that, "Oh, why did this happen to me of all people?" But, you know, bad things happen to everyone, and if you can approach any problem in a stoic manner, say like, "Okay, let's try to deal with this. I will be patient. I will read as much as possible and try to fix it," without succumbing to negative emotions, which of course it's natural if you do, if you are in the beginning and you have some sort of problems, whatever it might be. It might be something with a webshop or some technical problems. You just have to be, you know, not succumb to frustration or despair, you know, view it in a stoic manner, approach every problem. And exactly as you say, can I fix it? Okay, if I can fix it, then I patiently try to do it, try to fix it. Can I not fix it? Well, then it's no use to waste any emotion or Yeah, exactly.

And the next step of that is to even say that everything that happens to you is a positive. And this is the kind of next level of the reframing, uh, of stuff that happens to you, is seeing quote-unquote negative events as positive life lessons for you. And no matter what happens, going, okay, Well, why did this happen? Was it a result of my own failings? Did I— was I not disciplined in some area of my life which led to this? Did I not take care of my relationships properly? You know, did I not put in the work or whatever else? So then when bad things do happen to you, you can see them and go, is there a lesson in this? What can I learn from this? Even if it was a bad luck or whatever else, it can be, okay, how can I prevent this kind of bad luck happening for me, uh, in the future. Uh, and that kind of builds this more resilient mindset where you look at everything that's happening to you as a lesson, uh, or an opportunity for you to develop, uh, mentally and spiritually. I think is a great way to, you know, kind of view it as like, okay, universe, you want to throw that at me? Let's go, I can handle it. You know, I can deal with that. Uh, what are you going to throw at me next? And, and maybe reframing on the whole as as a positive thing and when you tend to do that more often, it seems like you— it's a great bulwark against, you know, dealing with the throes of life.

Yeah, definitely, and as I see it, I view every time I make a mistake, I can view it as, you know, only a mistake or I can view it as a lesson I pay for.

Exactly, yeah.

So I can take an example with the supplements, you Nutrition. Um, now we have, you know, printed bags, so it's not an issue anymore. But, uh, one year ago, uh, we put on stickers on the amino acid bags. So it was amino acid strawberries, and I had forgotten to put on the weight of the bag because you need to have like 400 grams or a kilo or whatever. So when I designed the sticker bag that we then put put on manually, my wife and I. So I forgot to put on 400 grams on the design, so there was nowhere to be seen how much the bag actually weighed. So I had to order more stickers, you know, small round red stickers that said 400 grams. And I thought, you know what, that is, you know, extra work, extra time we have to wait for the factory to produce those little stickers, then we have to put it on manually again. But, you know, the way I approached it there was just, "Okay, I will make damn sure next time I will not miss anything, not the slightest detail on whatever design I'm doing." And, you know, since then I haven't made any such silly mistakes. So it wasn't a big deal, but I viewed it as a lesson and a reminder to be, you know, yeah, look through everything an extra time.

Yeah, um, exactly. There are no mistakes, there are just lessons to be learned. That's, uh, the takeaway from that. And I think as long as you're learning from your life and moving forward, it's not really— apart from the, the very catastrophic events, whatever else— a lot of the time you're negatively viewing something which isn't that big of a deal, you know. Maybe, maybe it does stuff up something in your business or, or you're lifting or whatever else, but you know, at the end of the day, it's not that big of a deal. Are you dead? Cool. All right, well, you'll get over it, uh, and just move forward from it. I think a lot of people, um, dramatize, uh, some of the stuff that happens to them for whatever reason. It's just a trick of the ego. But, uh, to kind of just view it as also as, yeah, it's not that serious, you know, ah well, uh, and kind of move on from that.

Yeah. And I mean, something to keep in mind also, and this for everyone. I mean, everyone makes mistakes. There's no one alive who doesn't every once in a while stumble. And that's also what we talked about in the beginning, about the mindset. You know, the guys who are also on a journey, be it a bodybuilding journey, an entrepreneurial journey, or maybe they're a musician or an artist, they also understand that they have made mistakes, so it's only natural that others make mistake, but the guys who never attempted anything, they will judge more harshly if someone makes a mistake because they have no clue how hard it is to just have a smooth sailing upwards and onwards. So yeah, something to keep in mind, everyone makes mistakes and yeah, just learn from them.

Yeah, for sure. So another topic that was kind of hotly requested, Kind of marriage and relationships in today's society. I get asked a lot of the time, how do I, or what are the best ways to find a girl that I guess is, quote, more traditional than the average girl today? And maybe more so what you've done in your relationship for it to progress so well and all those other things. In terms of girls in general, because a lot of guys are kind of not— I guess they're disillusioned. And my point would be is that there are good girls out there, uh, it's just that the negatives are brought to the forefront of our society through social media and all the rest of it, just like the negatives of guys are as well. And I, I think it's a result of, um, you know, consuming a bit too much negative media and things like that is like like they have this false notion that all girls are bad, or girls have a notion that all boys are bad and all the rest of it. So what are your thoughts on marriage and relationships in today's society, and maybe what are the best ways to kind of go about them?

Yeah, so this is also one of those questions I get all the time, and it's hard to give a straight answer here. And You know, I will be honest, you know, since the mainstream culture is quite decadent, most women will be quite decadent because women follow the mainstream in a much, um, you know, higher extent than men do. So there might be, you know, there are of course good girls, but, uh, I, I won't give any false hope in saying that, you know, yeah, there's full of, full of women, because many of them are quite, quite bad. I don't want to blackpill anyone, but I also want to be honest saying that. Um, so, but anyway, in regards to attracting a good traditional wife, I am— if you think of it as a mirror, you, you want to look in a mirror, but you want to see a female version. So the values you present yourself has to be mirrored by the woman. So if you want a woman who is, you know, have traditional values, then you have to present traditional values yourself. So if you have— so if a guy is listening to this and he has an Instagram account, the things you post there, the values you post there, you can either post you're out getting drunk in a nightclub then a traditional woman will probably not view you as the optimal match. Whereas if you portray some wholesome activity or you post physique, you post about discipline, you post about traditional values, then she can mirror it and it can be a good match for her because ultimately marriage and relationships, etc., it's to a certain extent, uh, almost like a business negotiation. You know, you want to, you want to find a good fit for your life.

Yeah.

So if a woman is, you know, she's fed up with the decadent world, she's never really been into it, she just wants a, a good husband to share her life with, build a family, so she will look at What kind of qualities do I want in a husband? Yes, I want someone who's reliable, who, who looks good, who takes care of himself, who seems to have a good social capacity. You know, he, he has friends, he's with his family, he has a good relationship with his mother, he has, you know, some studies, he has good work, he seems overall like a stable guy. If you present that to the world, then eventually, or hopefully, a woman will find you, that you're a good fit. But on the opposite side, if you are, you know, maybe on social media you're posting a lot of things that a woman who is out for a stable husband can't really relate to, yeah, of course, then you, you might scare away some potential potential women. So, um, yeah, for example, if you— if some— if some guy on Instagram posts a picture of, you know, he's posing with a— with a porn star or something at some event, or posting with, uh, you know, uh, just at parties or whatever else. Yeah, exactly.

Nightclubs.

Um, then, uh, then it's not a good match for that woman. So my main point: be the kind of man you think are the kind of woman you want, would want, if that makes sense.

Yeah, exactly. It's that whole idea of like attracting like. Yeah, exactly. Whatever mindset you're putting out to the world is the mindset and attitude and energy that you're going to get back. So it is kind of hypocritical in a way, and I've been guilty of this myself as well, is like in the past saying that you want, you know, a traditional or more traditional girlfriend, but then personally still going out to the clubs on the weekends and drinking and whatever else, it's like that lifestyle isn't going to attract people that are not in that lifestyle. So you really have to do some internal searching and say, okay, if that's truly what I want, then I need to adjust and show personally and That's, that's almost like it leads to another point of people can say what their values are, but at the end of the day, what you're doing day to day, that's what actually really shows your values. And I think a lot of guys might get trapped in the online LARPing a little bit.

Yes, exactly.

Uh, going on Twitter and saying, you know, return to honor and all these things, but they're just posting from their, you know, posting from their room, they don't have a job, and they're not, you know, not being social, they're not contributing to their community, all those kinds of things which like, it's just, yeah, it's laughing at the end of the day, and it's not gonna solve anything, it's not gonna improve your life, and if you genuinely wanna say to people that these are the values that I think are relevant, and these are the values that I wanna embody, that you actually truly have to do that. Even when no one's watching, you know, character is what you do when no one's looking. And kind of developing that internal sense of living the values and living the, and putting out the energy that you want to put out and receive as well is the only way to really kind of find that in your life.

Yeah, definitely. And again, this is why I promote the post physique meme because there's so many guys who you know, have no concept about doing the right thing in their own life, but they post so much expectations on women or on other men, saying how degenerate everyone is. But at the same time, they might just sit in a cellar without a job, without any good physique, without any social network, and judge others. And that's also something to keep in mind for anyone who's looking for a good traditional woman. There is a lot of guys who are looking for that sort of women, so they will probably be able to pick and choose quite a bit. So then you can't just be a loser, basically. You have to have things going for you. You have to be on an upward path. And then also something— now I'm not an expert in the female psyche or anything, but something that is commonly known and something to keep in mind is that, you know, a woman is attracted to a guy with a purpose, a guy who is going upward and onward. Then she comes to be your companion. She is not primarily out for a guy who is desperately looking for a woman.

Yeah.

So it's almost like you— the more you want a girl, the less she wants you because she wants you to be focused on your goal. And if you lose that goal, she might lose attraction for you. And this is also something some guys, they might lift for women, but once they get a woman, their motivation to lift disappears. And then of course, if he becomes a slouch, he's dishonest to his girlfriend because she wanted to get with a guy who, you know, is disciplined and have that sense of a higher destiny. Yeah, so that is something to keep in mind as well, to be, to be, to have a plan to go upward and onward, and that a woman will, may at least, find you.

Yeah, 100%. That kind of leads into what I wanted to touch on with you, and is, is being talked about a little bit now, I think partially in thanks to guys like you kind of spreading the message. There's some about how porn is a negative impact on society as a whole and the kind of dangers of it, especially as a young guy. And I'm speaking from experience here, growing up in the Western world as a teenager and with access to the internet and all things like that, is you get trapped in looking at porn and maybe addicted to it if you're looking at it for too long and in general just the harmful effects of it and how it can impact your relationships. It can impact your sexual function. It can impact your level of dopamine release in other activities. And I know some guys kind of, they'll brush it off and say, oh no, you're just being, being weak. Or you just, you know, I watch porn and still get with my girlfriend. But as a whole, how much of a, almost like a a demon in a way. It's like it's stealing away your sexual energy, your vitality. Uh, if you look at the, the, the activity of watching porn on the whole, I always say to guys that are trying to— they message me about trying to kick porn addiction or whatever else— is whenever you're— you get the urge, have a, a third-person view of yourself sitting at your computer with your pants down and see if you want to— see if you want to continue that and go down that path then once you have that reframing of yourself, you know, hunched over, lit over by the light of the monitor and how truly pathetic that looks. Unfortunately. But yeah, I guess you've been railing against it on the whole on your posts and everything. But yeah, I just wanted to highlight to guys to really make that an issue of discipline is to completely cut that out of their lives. And I know they're gonna see improvements in their relationships and life in general, their energy, the vitality. I know I did once I finally got out of that.

So yeah, yeah, definitely. And I would say that I listened to your episode on porn the other day, and I thought you brought up all the valid points. It's a very good episode if you haven't listened to it, I would definitely recommend you to do so. And one of the best things you said there was, you know, you're tricking your brain. If you have— if you're watching porn and you see, you know, 3, 4, 5 different attractive women, and you're tricking your brain into believing that you have impregnated— you have sex with 5 girls. And I mean, that's for the brain, it's the ultimate, ultimate victory, uh, genetically. And you have, yeah, you know, 5, maybe 5 children on the way with, with different women. And if you compare your other victories, um, say if you say that making your bed is a small victory, but it's getting completely overshadowed by the brain thinking that you have successfully impregnated 5 attractive women. So when you cut it out, when you stop tricking your brain into believing that you've achieved a great victory, the other smaller victories will be more— it will bring you more happiness and contentment. Same thing with the gym. If you have progressed, if you have added a kilo on the bench press session, that's a victory and it will be more of a victory if you don't have the porn demon who is tricking you into believing that the greatest victory is found a few times a day in the light of the screen of your computer with your pants down. So there is something to be said that your brain is getting like literally rewired, and there's also studies showing that, you know, your willpower is being reduced when you watch porn. So there is a lot of negative things. And again, as you say, imagine a third person is watching you. Is this the guy you want to be? Are you, are you really this person? Do you want to be an epic hero, Achilles or Theseus? Or do you want to be the guy who sits, yeah, with his pants down?

And no one wants to be that guy.

Yeah, exactly. No one wants to be that guy.

Um, that reminds me actually of a saying. I don't know if you coined it or whatever else, but you promote it on your website, is that your ancestors are watching you.

Yes.

And I think that is such a great thing to have in the mind as a young guy, is that you are alive here on this earth because generation after generation of your forefathers have struggled and fought for their right to exist and live in this world. And you know, it's, it's very lucky as well that you're here. So in all things, do you want to be the kind of guy that's, you know, watching porn, not chasing his dreams, scared of talking to people, scared of taking that risk? It's like, your, your problems are not that great in terms of the grand scheme of the struggle in wars that might have been fought with generations ago. And if you have that in your, in your head, that your ancestors are there, uh, watching you do it, do what you do throughout your life and how you conduct yourself, that's such a great positive influence. And they are genetically within you. You are obviously created from the people, your parents and your grandparents, so on and so forth. But to have that knowledge kind of at the front of your mind as you go through life is a really great motivator. And can really go the extra mile when you're feeling lazy or whatever else to be that extra bit disciplined. And at the end of the day, it's all about promoting those little tools and those little tricks of the mind to kind of work against the voice in your head that wants you to just lay on the couch instead of hit the gym, or, you know, watch some Netflix instead of writing that bit of content for your business or whatever else.

Yeah, definitely.

Um, yeah, so I guess, uh, just to finish off, um, why do you not have a Golden One podcast?

Uh, oh, that's a good question. I, uh, I think it's just because I've been too— I've had so many other social media outlets, and I think YouTube has filled the role of me talking about topics. Then of course I have Instagram and Telegram where I post as well. But I have thought about maybe a podcast if something, something should happen to the YouTube channel, then I might start a podcast to replace it. But as for now, as long as I can keep my YouTube, I think it's a, it's a format I like and it's something I'm used to.

Yeah.

Uh, and then of course it's fun to, to be a guest on podcasts such as this one, um, to have a bit longer conversations. But, um, I'll see, maybe, maybe in the future there will be a golden podcast.

Very cool. I know a lot of guys, uh, would be up for listening for that. Um, but otherwise, man, thank you so much, uh, for joining me on the Soulcast.

Yeah, thanks for having me. Good, good talk.

Where can people reach you? Uh, obviously you have your YouTube. Uh, is that all under The Golden One?

Uh, yeah, exactly. So, uh, I have a homepage as well, thegoldenone.se, and there you have all the links to various social media and, uh, and other pages, etc.

Cool, easy. All right, thanks, mate.

Um, all right, awesome.

Hopefully we will See you again soon on the Soulcast, but, uh, enjoy the rest of your day and thanks for listening, guys. Uh, see you next time.