Ruthie Searcy reflects on how working with Stacy Lauren changed her approach to community-building: she moved from trying to perfect content and systems before inviting people to prioritizing presence, curiosity, and conversational connection. By treating her group like a casual living room—showing up to connect rather than to perform—she created a safe, real space that produced greater engagement (comments, shares, deeper questions). The talk closes by urging those tired of chasing visibility to adopt this mindset.
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Hello. Hello, Hello. So I just wanted to get on here and do a little bit of reflection on what has happened over the past year and a half or so.
When I started working with Stacy Lauren, it has totally changed the way I think about community.
I used to believe that I had to have everything like perfectly mapped out before inviting people in, right? Content, calendar, a lead magnet, ideal engagement plan, all of this. And.
That involved a lot of work without a lot of reward.
But what I've learned since working with Stacy is that community isn't built at all through that kind of perfection, right? It's built through presence.
And so instead of waiting until I had more people, more clarity, more confidence, I started leading with curiosity.
I began treating my group like my living room where we just sat and chit chatted together.
Not a place where I had to be on all the time, like I was on stage or trying to educate, but just a personal, personal conversations with people, right? Because I showed up not to teach, which is.
Has been my go to comfortable place, but rather to connect. And so guess what happened? People started showing up. How about that, right? They commented, they shared, they asked deeper questions. And.
It'S not because I had anything fancy going on, right? Other than I created a space that felt safe and real.
Because engagement is about.
Making sure that people helping people feel seen and heard and supported.
And so that shift has made all the difference in how I lead, how my group grows, and all of that. So if you're somebody who's been tired of chasing visibility and are ready to build something that really matters, this kind of work is a game changer.