Secret to Success: Do the thing with Stacey Lauren

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Welcome to another episode of Talking with Wit, Kevin and Son where we showcase people you should know. This episode is brought to you by RMK Productions and the ten United Podcast Network. Through the Power of Story. Our mission is to uplift the power of your voice. Inspire, share stories and experience and perspectives using the framework of teaching, learning and modeling. Our purpose is very simple. We create hope helping other people every single day. Now the truth of it is this is a woman's world. Whatever your objective is successful people create a framework around their day to day lives. This sometimes enhances their lives and sometimes they pour into other. This podcast will reveal the secrets of a highly effective life of a friend of mine. Today's guest will share through her entrepreneurial story. Simple and doable steps of how she turned bad habits into good habits. Master small behaviors that led to big outcomes. Our guests will also share with us how she discovered how to do that thing or do the thing. She also has created community that helps people overcome limitations and have people achieve their goals. And if you stay with us long enough, we, maybe our guest will share with you, you know, the book that she's working on, how she supports a thriving and mentoring coaching business, which she's going to correct me on that sometime later on, and how she creates the time and space to do that one thing podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, I want to welcome my good friend, serial entrepreneur, soon to be author, soon to be Ted as speaker and the do the Thing podcast host, Ms. Stacy Lauren. How you doing?

Hello Kevin. How are you?

I'm doing fine. My, my intro is not as fancy as yours. I used to use a pre recorded podcast thing and yours sounds so good. Got a little nervous. You know, most people will say why, why are you interviewing another podcaster? We're supposed to be like competition. I said not in my neighborhood. My friends, we help each other. We, we share audience and we grow together. So how's everything out there on the west coast?

Yeah, it's great. And I think that's why we're so aligned. Right? It's understanding that idea of collaboration and the more you're able to connect together, the more you're able to do, you know, for you and for the world.

Yeah, you, you have a, a wonderful following and I want to say publicly thank you for allowing me to be on your show. You know, I, I don't know if how good I, I was or whatever the case may be, but you know, you are stellar. But as you know, you know, on this show I have Sunday motivationals with Kevin and Friends, and I am dying to have your input and I'm big on quotes. So as we tell our story, I'm going to throw some of these quotes in there and see what your take is on those stories and how they connect. So with you being a thought leader, an inspiration for women that are overcoming their ambitious or their limitations and trying to achieve some things, I want you to share with you share with our viewers your life experience and I want to tie this quote in with the story that you're about to tell. So here's the quote. Sometimes you have to stand up and carry your own star because there will be others that won't carry it for you. Now, Stacy, do the thing.

Wow, that's a great quote. Yeah, it's true. Right? Because there's so many people that.

When they're doing that big scary goal, you know, they're or have the big star, they're thinking that all the people that are in their life, their support network, their friends and their family and the people that they know are going to want to support that star, you know, that vision. And what a lot of people don't realize is, you know, a lot of times you have big dreams, you have big goals, but if someone hasn't done that goal and they don't share that goal and it's never something that they've even thought of doing, they're going to think you're crazy and they're going to say, why do you want to do that? You know, and they're not going to understand. And so it's important for you to know that. And a lot of people will let that stay, stop them and think that it's not the right thing for them. But what really is important is that you are the one that's guiding that star. And then you find a group of people that is wanting to do it too, because then you get the connectedness and the belief in yourself that you can do it because you're seeing other people doing it too.

And that's part of the reason that you, you are here today because you are such an amazing person. You are a selfless person. And I know you, you are constantly pouring into others and bring and elevating people and bringing them up. And believe it or not, you're carrying a lot more stars than you'll ever, ever know. I mean, you even holding up one of mine and you're much appreciated.

Where did Stacy Lauren begin? What's the story before you became that do the thing person?

Yeah.

It'S interesting. It's like it's. Oh, you mentioned in the beginning that the future TEDx talk, right? And so writing a book and so through like podcasts and doing all these things, that's the other thing that's kind of cool about this for you guys listening is sometimes you could just decide that you want to do something and not in your mind, not know if you're going to actually finish it. Because just by you like saying you want to do it, you're able to reflect so much and get more of your story out. And so I think it keeps expanding like why certain things have happened. But I could just, I'll quickly. Because I don't want to go through craziness with childhood. But it started, I realized now I didn't know it until I started doing this TEDx thing, but the 13 year old me, I lived with my, my mom and dad had gotten divorced. I lived with my mom and she was with her boyfriend at the time. And there was this moment, I'm telling this, this is my like first do the thing story defining moment. But she had basically had said that, sorry, her boyfriend at the time was like hostile, you know, like, it just was not good. We were not a safe environment. And I basically said, if you're going to stick around with this guy, I'm not going to be able to stay with. I'm not going to be able to stay here anymore. And so she decided to stick around with him. Um, and then I moved out. I moved in with my dad. And so I don't know. That's the moment that I like have been revisiting just in this last year. I didn't really realize how important it was until, until I started kind of like doing all the stuff I'm doing now with the podcast and writing the TEDx thing and writing the book because I was shy and I was very like inward. Like people didn't even know I talked back then. So for me to make a decision like that was like a big deal. And then also it's the reason why I think I'm so prone to want to do what I do with my community and helping people build online communities is because. Because I never felt like I had a safe space to connect with people. And so it actually helps kind of like feed that hole, you know, that I have from even back then. And so that's why my mission is really creating a safe space for people through connection. And so that's kind of like, I don't know, that's like the through line. There's a Bunch of stuff we can go through in there. But I thought at least start with. With that's where it comes from.

Well, you know something, I, I'm glad you brought it up. I'm always when, when I do an interview, when I go back from the very beginning of their life and what triggered and what started people to be where they're at. I, I realized that some of the most successful people have overcome some stuff, some horrific stuff. You know, there are a large percent of the people that we buy their books and we, we attend their seminars, whatever, have end up homeless, abandoned, abuse, sacrifice for. For the needs of some someone else. And all of a sudden here they are today, this blossoming rose. I've always said if you take a handful of rose seats and throw them in an abandoned parking lot, 1C will germinate and find its way to growth. And that's becomes people like Stacy Lawrence. So when I, I, you know another quote Happiness starts.

Does not women. Happiness is not where you start. They said happiness is where you finish. All progress starts by telling the truth of your story. And I know you're writing a book and I know most of it. You have to peel back the, the layers of where you really are and where you really were at that time to get to where you are right now. And people don't know that. We go through when we're, we're asking people their why or what they want to do when they grow up or whatever the case may be. Different seasons and different parts of your life discovers your why. And it's not until you get to understanding and do the thing is that you just discover your true purpose. So you, you do a lot with coaching and mentoring and bringing people together. Why is it so important that we become a community instead of a solo act?

Yeah, I mean it's a great question. It's really goes comes down to so many people like have that mindset of hustle culture and having to like put your head down and get, get it done. But, but what it really does is it number one makes it harder for you to be able to like do the thing. And then it also could kind of like lose the motivation, you know, and the action to get it done because you're not with other people that are doing it too. And so it's really important to, to surround yourself not just with the community. I mean if we're talking about specifically about your goals and reaching your goals, it's also important to be around people with shared goals because that's how you're Able to, like, see yourself in them and they can see themselves in you, and you're able to have these different conversations just even with us. Right. I feel like immediately when we started talking, we're connecting because we have similar goals. We want to impact the world, we want to help people. And, you know, and we're wanting to activate our voice in a way that is fun and different. And so it's just an immediate understanding that we have. And so that's what I think is really important about a community, is you're able to be with people that are, they get it. You know, they're, they're, they're not thinking that you're out, out there because you're wanting to do some big thing. They're really part, you feel like you're part of something.

Yes. And it's nice to be part of something. I mean, one thing that we learned about COVID is that as human beings, we need to be connected to someone or to something. Being isolated and disconnected from things, we don't function well. So this leads to another question, because you do the dare challenge or whatever, and, and I, I know. Last night you asked me a series of questions. Now I want to turn the tape on you. What's more important, love or happiness?

It's so funny because, yeah, yesterday you said happiness. I don't know. I feel like love is more important than. So what's more important?

I mean, I think, like, with happiness, I feel like there is, like, a contrast. Right. If you're not sad, then you don't know you're happy. So I feel like it is good to have both sadness and happiness because that's how you even know you're happy. And you're learning something. So I think love is more important because you have to love yourself first. We talked about that last night. I love that we speak that language together. If you don't love yourself, then you're going to be constantly trying to, you know, do something that you don't even know if you want to do. So that would be a long answer to your question, but I would say love is more important.

I, I, I'm okay with long, long answers because I, I believe that love is important. Love has to be paramount, because if you don't love yourself, how is it you're going to convince someone to love you? If you're not kind to yourself, how are you going to be kind? Have someone be kind to you when you don't understand what kindness means? If you're not appreciative of the gifts that you have, how. How are you going to get someone to celebrate those gifts that you have? Now one of the gifts that you have, I'm going to segue to that and do that thing. Do the thing. Okay. Feel free to correct me. This is my ADH kicking in. I get this all the time because I'm a person of color, melanated and black. However someone wants to identify me, whatever I identify as Kevin, when I have conversations that speak to my community.

I am sometimes not celebrated in. In the fact of the conversation that we're having at hand. But women in business, I said this early on and I. I am honest. Women are thriving right now where men are struggling. I just attended a summit with Mary J. Blythe, Ajay P. Henson and a bunch of other celebrities that were on there, and they were trying to bring the importance of having these conversations with women, bringing women together, having women speak to the face and not behind the back of individuals.

What is the mindset when you're Community. Creating a community. And I'm going to use two words that I think you're very familiar with. We're talking about the human connection with either having a fixed mindset and explain what that is to our audience or a growth mindset and explain that with an audience. And how then does that.

Attach itself to the concept of your formula of do the thing and does that conversation. I'm going to add this on there is that concept or that mindset in absence of a man when you do the thing.

Okay, so. Thank you. So I. Let me just make sure I understand the question. So with a fixed mindset, growth mindset, you're specifically wondering in terms of how I approach it with the community and then explaining what each one is. Oh, I love this. This is so good.

Especially directed towards women. Why is it important?

Okay.

Okay. I'll do it first without the woman, just in general, and then I'll. Then I'll add the woman in there. But the. With the community, there's a lot of people that are like, doing business and they're building things in a vacuum, you know, and which I think is more of a fixed mindset because you're having this perceived kind of like vision of what people are going to want or what they're going to need. And you're like building it before people are. Are there. And so it's, it's really fixed because you have no idea what's going to happen when you put people, you know, like with something and what they're going to. What they're going to want. And so with a growth mindset, when you have a community and in my community or in any community that I help build, it's like.

You'Re able to actually like evolve and grow and move with what they want and what they're desiring just by asking them, you know, like even before we did our interview, I already had an idea what I wanted to talk about with you, you know, but I asked a question in there, asking them what they were struggling with, with dating and you know, what they wanted help with mentioning our interview. And I immediately got the feedback right. And so that helped me kind of like adjust the questions for it. So to me that's really a growth mindset because I could have a really closed mind, fixed mind into what I'm thinking. People want not ask for feedback. And so anyway, that's the way that I really help with my community and any community that I'm helping grow because I want it to be about the people. I'm bringing like business like community back into business basically with, by having relationships and then where women.

Come in. I think I need some help like clarity in terms of, well, you've done.

Over 200 and something odd interviews. Mainly women that are making a difference, that are forging ahead, that have started their own business, that they're sharing their secrets to success. I mean when you look at it, the fact that it wasn't until the late part of the 60s that women had an opportunity to vote. It wasn't until the 80s when women were able to secure a business loan without the signature of their husband. I so a lot, lot has changed, but then a lot has not changed with the fact that, you know, women do not have control, 100% control over their, their body and the decisions they make. And I'm not going to bring up politics and whatever, but we, we look at the fact that with opportunities that's presented to my daughters, my great grand granddaughters and sisters, your friends and so forth, this mindset of being an entrepreneur and a female is thriving right now, whereas the workforce with men are struggling. And so with do the thing and that growth mindset or that fixed mindset, why do you think that is changing and why women.

Are so empowered right now?

I think it's like.

I can only speak for my own experience where I'm 51 now, right? So I've lived this like life and have had experiences, got divorced, had to like go through that and have already like raised the kid. You know, I have 16 year old at home still but, like, raised the kids, had the husband, like, all that stuff, had the business. This was a brick and mortar business owned for 20 years. And I think when that all ended, you know, and family broke apart and, like, all the stuff that happened, I started to, like, come into. I didn't know who I was anymore. And this is so many women's story, you know, like, after their divorce, they don't know who they are anymore. They just, like, lost themselves in this, like, marriage, husband, job, business, whatever, insert whatever your thing is. And so I just went through that breakdown for a while, and then sort of coming out of it, realized I needed to really find my own voice. And that came through my podcast. It was by, like, my 10th, 12th episode. I realized even though I wanted to help people do the thing, I realized that was what I didn't do, was help. I never did the thing, like, for myself. I did it for, like, other people. And so it sort of got me to understand more about finding your voice. And that's one of my, like, flagstone challenges that I do, is a find your voice challenge, helping people understand themselves. And I'm seeing it from a lot of. I mean, I do serve both when men, I serve everyone, but I have no specific thing. But in the singles group specifically, that is primarily women. But I'm seeing a lot of that where the women are like, kind of like, we're done. We already did it for everyone else. We're ready to take on our own. And so imagining that's where it's coming from. It's just like knowing that we have this one life to live, and we want to be able to find our own voice and then put it out there.

I will say this, and not many men will admit this. And I have groups of men like you have groups of women that divorce is hard for men. We feel like we've failed our family. We failed in life. We felt whatever. Whatever it was expected of us. You know, we feel that the bar has been raised high. So it's not only women that go through this. The only difference between we have to go out and put on a good face. You guys surround yourself with people that actually listen. Us guys, we don't. We don't hear this, you know, what was me or whatever the case may be. And we. We carry that load with us. You have a formula for do the thing. Can you explain to us? I. Wait, let me back up. Why a podcast called do your thing. Do your thing. I mean, and the reason why I ask that is because people don't know that when you start a podcast, probably for the first X amount of episodes, you are just talking to a mic, trying to create a conversation. No one's listening, no one's heard of you. You go to a space and there's over 202 million registered podcasters now. So when you start out, for the first six months, when someone says, who's your audience? You have to be honest. Anyone that will be listening to me until you find your audience. Why a podcast? What. What was your motivation? Starting a podcast?

Yeah, so I was wanting to write a book. I was actually originally going to write a sales book. And I noticed with my own staffing company for 20 years, I noticed with that so many people wanted to make more money, but they weren't willing to do sales. And in my mind, sales is like the best job you could have. If you are wanting to make more money, you could dictate how much you're worth. And both then when I would say that, they would say, oh, no, I can't do sales. So I was like, wanting to show people why it was good to do sales and how to get overcome the fear. And all about money growing on trees when you understand law of averages and rejection and all of that stuff. And then I have a mastermind I've been in for the last four or five years, and I was talking to them about the book and getting ideas. And then I also, in the same time, I was talking to them about my dating experience. Because at that time I was dating and. Or I had. I think I had met my boyfriend right around then, but it was like, before then. I was like, it's kind of like when I was dating, this is what I said. I'm like, it's like, you just meet enough people, you get rejected, you have a positive attitude, you set goals. And then I just want to, like, help people do the thing. And that's what I said. And I listened to my recording from that mastermind, like, explaining kind of like the parallel of sales and dating and how it's similar, not in a way of the way you present or in what you say, but in the kind of like the internal things that you're learning, right? And then that's where do the Thing was born. And so then I had talked to a book strategist who wanted my do the thing struggle story and said in order for me to write a book, good book, I needed to show when I didn't do the thing. And then when I did the thing, and I was like, well, I've always done the thing. I, like, didn't. Couldn't think of a time when I hadn't done it. And so, like, from the time I was in college, I went door to door and, like, went from Florida. I was going to school in Florida and then sold books in Michigan and Iowa and didn't even have a place to live. Like, so I've, like, always done the thing in that way. And so she was like, well, it's not going to be a good book since you don't have a struggle story. You're going to need to interview people on their struggle story.

And.

And then when you get their struggle story, you could put that in the book. So that was what I was doing. I wasn't even starting a podcast, really. I was just, like, going to start interviewing people. But then I said, okay, well, if I'm going to interview people, I might as well record it. And then, who knows, maybe someday I would use it for a podcast. And so that's when I met Adam, who's the founder of my podcast platform. And I signed up on his bottom, you know, like, on the website, and was like, oh, I want to record a. I want to record it from my phone. Because at the time, I didn't even want to do zoom, because, remember, in my mind, it still wasn't a podcast. I just wanted to record it. And anyway, and that's when he, like, literally, like, set up a time. We talked, and then that's where do the thing was born. And I literally, my first few episodes was, like, just on my phone. It wasn't anything. It was just a voice recording. And then what I didn't know because now I help people start podcasts. What I didn't know is that. That, like, first recording, that's maybe, like, three minutes long. And that's me saying, like, I don't even know why, like, why this has been hard for me. That. And it's like, the sound is bad, and it's in my car, and I'm talking all about it. That. That would be the episode that's helped hundreds of people start their own podcast now. Because, like, you said, like, you are. You just don't even know what you're doing in the beginning. And so that episode helped people realize it's kind of like my me sucking helps people, like, open up to doing, you know, doing stuff, because it helped them see, oh, it doesn't have to be long. It could just be three minutes. You just got to put it out there. And then it's the thing that's helped them all do that.

And so I. I will say this as especially for our. Our listeners that are contemplating of doing a podcast. Every last one of us, every last one of us starts out our podcast not knowing what the hell we're doing, all right? So when you say do the thing, write it down on a piece of paper and just do it, all right? Do that thing until that thing becomes the thing that you. You love doing. So I am so glad that you did the thing. And from what I hear, you're in a thriving relationship right now.

But if you go back and look at some of your podcasts, you have a lot of challenges based on relationships. Tell us how do the thing has transferred into.

A lot of fun for a lot of people. A lot of great experiences bringing people together in relationship. Tell us about your challenges for do that thing. Challenges.

Yeah. And so.

I was. So was. Was it during COVID It was. Yeah, I was. I got. Okay. I had just interviewed my holistic coach on my podcast, and it was like a coaching session that I ended up putting on the podcast, basically, like. And the epiphany there was that I really miss the fulfillment that I had gotten from my staffing company and helping people get jobs and then helping companies remove bottlenecks by, you know, enhancing their team. And so I was missing fulfillment. Right. So there was one piece. Then the next episode, I'm interviewing Alicia Reynoso, where she was telling me how she does these challenges, and that is how she has more impact and fulfillment because she's now, even though she had an E Commerce brand, she used the community as a way to connect people together through a challenge. And so I ended up reaching out to her, asking her information on, like, her challenge after. And I didn't end up going with her. Like, she had a service that she was providing. She gave me everything for free. She was like, oh, here, I'll tell you how I did it. She was amazing. And at the time, I didn't go with her because I still wouldn't do live videos. I was, like, nervous. You know, even though I would do my podcast, I still wasn't doing video. Everything was audio. I didn't want to do live video. And she was like, oh, in order for it to be worth the money, you should do live video. So anyway, did that. And then. And then I. I think I even. Oh, right. Then I mentioned I wanted to do a dating challenge. So I watched this show called Working Moms, and they were doing dares on there, and one of the dares was like mooning someone. Another dare was like kissing a stranger. And I said, oh, that would be a really fun challenge. So anyway, that's what I did. That was my first challenge. I posted it in one of my groups that I'm in the peloton group that I'm in like a singles over 40 group and said, hey, I'm thinking about running this challenge. Who wants to do it with me? It has to do with dares. And like a hundred people immediately joined. My first challenge, it was kind of messy. I just sort of like did the thing right and like my daughter was the one that like created all these dares, you know, as I had covet. That's what the story is. I like had Covid while I was watching the show and that's where the idea comes. So I'm like texting her, like the images to create. She creates all the images. And then I did my first challenge and so that's how the challenges start. Started since then. So I like to do dating dare challenge. It's kind of like my OG challenge. That's the only one I've repeated so far. Everything else, I've been doing new challenges other than find your voice, which is a paid challenge. But like, I've done a startup podcast. I've done a go live two hour cocktail party.

Feel like there was more. Oh, get fit. Uh, lots of things. Oh, bucket list challenge. Oh my gosh, that was a really good challenge. I partnered with Laura Carney. She wrote the book My father's list. We did a bucket list challenge. And so, and then with all of those challenges, I integrate the do the thing formula through that. Which is. The formula is what kind of. Is the common kind of theme throughout everything that I do. It helps people actually like, get past their own limitations and take action. That's why when we talk about coaching, I'm like, I don't consider myself a coach. It's just a. I'm like kind of like more of a CEO, right? It's a system that I'm integrating in each of these things. And then because I put the system in the group, kind of like takes on itself. So I'm not really a coach. I'm more of a implementation. Maybe CEO is the right word, but like, you know, like, it's more of a system that goes in there and then that's how it's able to be done.

Well, let. Let's find out if you are a coach or CEO or implementation person of a system. Explain to us the formula for do that thing.

Yeah. So I'm game is an acronym, and it came out of 80 episodes of my podcast. I was looking for common patterns for how people achieved success after going through a struggle. And you'll hear, if you want, if you listen to the first 80 episodes, you'll actually hear me, like, dissecting it real time. And I say, like, this is when you use this piece. So I had all these pieces of the formula that I was dissected, things like goals, mindset, you know, all these different things that I was noticing were common with the people that I interviewed. And so at one point, I put these patterns on index cards on my kitchen table. And then all of a sudden, that's where the acronym I'm game came out. And each piece stands for a different. Each letter stands for a different piece of the formula. So the I is identify your why, which you've talked about, right? And so identifying the why, but not just like your own why for why you're here. It's why for anything you want to do. So any goal you have, you want to identify why you're doing it. The M in I'm is mindset and mindset the way I've tested it in my challenges. The. The two big pieces for mindset that are most important are what are your excuses and how will you overcome them? I love having people work through that process because when you're, like, brand new doing something, you're most excited about it. So you're going to have solutions for when excuses come up versus when you're in the moment of, like, exhaustion because you're doing something new, you're going to forget, you know, like, what. What to do if something. If.

If.

If something isn't working the way you want. And so the. The fact that they do it before they start it, like, helps them when the challenge is happening. And so. And then the second piece of mindset is fun because I always like to make things fun. As you notice, that's our common thing with our game stuff. And then with goal, with game, G is goal, and I do, the goal is a dare. And then where I give people dares to get them to take action. And it's not crazy dares, typically, they're just like a micro dare that I have them do. And then, like, one of the dares will be to read your book. That'll be a good example. And then another dare, probably a bonus dare, would be for them to go on a date and use the cards. And so that's like an example of what I would do in there. And then the A is accountability, and then the M is my people. My people is where you're with people that have a common goal, like a shared interest. And so for my groups, I'm doing that when I have a dating challenge. Their shared goal is dating. And then the E is educate. And educate has two parts to it. One is being edited, like learning from other people. Like you. Right. Or reading a book or podcast. And then the second part, which a lot of people miss and don't get, is the education by contribution. And so you're just, by you knowing something for two weeks, you already have like a lot more information than someone that hasn't done it yet. And there's also that feeling of fulfillment, back to fulfillment that you get from being able to teach someone something, you know? And so that's the formula that's kind of like worked through everything I do, the framework that gets people to actually, like, take action and make it happen.

Well, you know something? I am, I'm just thinking, listening to the conversation we're having. I hope that people are listening versus the question I had and versus the statements you made that you said that you're not a mentor or coach. So I'm looking at, and matter of fact, I actually about to release a book, believe it or not, is called sales. Is the best job I've ever had that I probably should hold off and maybe we should do it together. But I want to. I want to see if I'm right. Because when I normally speak and when I talk to corporations, whatever I talk about understanding the power of your words. Words either build or they're destroyed. So I'm looking at the notes that I just made. I am your formula. This is your words. I am game. Identifying your why and finding out at each level of why you exist, why you do things, and why things are happening to you, and why that leads into at some point, your purpose. The mindset is having a mindset that's either fixed or growth. Mindset. What are you going to do? What is going to what? What do I desire the most and what decisions I can make that brings me closer to where the G is in it. Goals and then goals. When you set goals and whatever, you have to be accountable for the things that you say you want to do and so forth. And then you surround yourself with people that pour into you. Not people that, that drain you. Those are the people that you leave behind. And then the fact that in order for you not to repeat mistakes that other people have made, you surround yourself with people that pour into you, and that's called education. Or like you said, read a book. You know, for some reason when I, I hear that you say that you're not a mentor or coach, when you say do that thing, guess what? You're a mentor and a coach and you don't even know it.

That's all right. Do that thing. Do your. Do the thing. That is all right. What's more important? Purpose of motivation. And what is motivation?

Yeah, a purpose is 100% more important because you could be motivated to be doing something that maybe isn't even your thing. It could be someone else's thing. And so it's really important to tap into why you're wanting to do something. And.

And then as you move through it, it's continually checking in with yourself to see how you feel. And then at some point, if you're feeling like stopping, I usually tell people to like, at least finish the track of what you committed to, but then you don't have to stay with it forever. But as far as motivation goes, that's really. Yeah, like you're.

You don't really need it if you're, you know, if you're really deep into purpose. Right. If you really feel like it's your calling and it's the, that you were meant to do in the world. So motivation is sort of not as necessary when you're, when you're tapped into yourself, but in terms of people that haven't like, been able to flip that yet for you listening, the way that I would say for motivation to really be something that gets you to go after all the things that you want is to just take a little micro step because action is the thing that can help you stay motivated. It's momentum. Right. It's being able to be in momentum for everything that you want.

Yep. And life does reward action. Now, before we, we come to the, the closing part of it, I have a couple more questions. How do people get in touch with you?

Yeah. Thank you. So I have a couple communities I'll mention. It's do the Thing community dot com. That's my, like, main challenge group. That's how you'll kind of see everything that I've got going. If you're a podcaster, entrepreneur, or somebody that wants to be in the space with other people and collaborate with people, then go to do the Thing collaboration dot com.

All right, all right. So.

I am adding you, which I haven't told you. I have a list of 100 people that are, are highly Effective in sharing their secrets to what makes life successful. I'm not talking about money and whatever, but there's a common thread. When I started my speaking career, I started to evaluate and break down the same way. You created the formula of conversations or emotions that every motivational speaker spoke on. And there were 23 different emotions that people talked about and each speaker had at least four of those emotions in there. And I wanted to create something a little bit different for myself. So what I looked at is what I deem to be successful. It's not my bank account that represents my success, is my impact on the people that I surround myself with and the conversation that happens when I leave the room. So I'm going to ask you to one, share.

Share what dreams means to an entrepreneur and how you apply your dreams and your ambitious ambitions to your dreams.

Yeah, I would say, like, it's interesting, I have this weird way of going after dreams is I don't, I can't, and I don't know what this is, but I don't really like, know what I want until I'm moving, you know, and once I'm taking action, that's when I get to see it a little bit clearer. And then I'm like, oh, that's kind of funny. That worked out like that. So, yeah, in my mind, just explaining dreams is like not being afraid to move. When you're feeling a whisper, you know, of something, saying you should do something. Because like, here's the thing, for change to happen and for you to really go after your dream, typically something's happened. It's either the feather, it's the brick, or the semi truck, right? It's either some kind of whisper, it's something bigger than a whisper, or it's like your whole world has shooken, you know. And so I would just say, why wait for the semi truck to happen and wait for the whisper. And so that's what I would say with dreams is like.

Not waiting. I mean, that's my whole thing. Don't wait for opportunity, create it is is don't just wait for something bigger to happen for you to make the change. Just take the action now. And even if it's the smallest action, making a call, asking for help, you know, taking one little step to the thing you want to do and then your dreams are going to come out for you. I say this a lot where with, even with goals, a lot of people think you have to have these smart goals, like specific, measurable. And it's great for people that know exactly what they want. But if you don't, you could have a rough draft goal, you know, you can have an idea of what you want. I say the same thing with the dream is you don't have to exactly have a clear picture of what it is. You could just have a, like a feeling of what that is. And as long as you move in the direction that you want, you're gonna, you're gonna see what's gonna open up.

For you in the direction you want. I'm, I'm going to be that fly on the wall. I want to know the secrets to your success. I know you have it. You're planning on doing a TEDx talk sometime soon.

When Stacy Lawrence speaks.

What do you want people who are listening to your conversation to take away from your.

Conversation you're having with your audience? What are the takeaways?

Yeah, it's funny. I.

This comes up a lot where I have, I do stand up comedy, just amateur, like so, so fun, but let it fly.

We do everything.

No, no, I'm not gonna do a funny thing, but I do have a sucking routine on YouTube if you want to check it out. But basically that was my first stand up comedy thing and I, but it's something I've repeated since then. I just don't post it anymore. But it's about how terrible I am at things naturally and how hard it is for me to do anything. And so that's why I think I'm okay doing the thing. Because I like a lot of people, they're perfectionists, which to me that would be exhausting because then you have to be good. You know, you have this pressure right, where I have no pressure. I've like conditioned to flex the muscle on not being good. And I think that's what people in my community love about me is that I'm not this like polished, you know, whatever person that you think someone needs to be to do stuff right. I'm like just like everyday person. And what helps people then take action is then they see that they can do it. And so it's that relatability, I think that helps people move in the direction that they want. And so that's what I want, I want them to take away, is that they can do anything they want, you know, and don't think you have to be something that you, that you have this perceived notion of what people are like no matter who you meet. We're all the same. We all want the same things. You know, we all want love, we all want connection and we want to Be happy. Right? And so it's just like taking away those superficial beliefs that we have to be something to do something, you know, something.

You know, if I were going up on the. On a mountain 2,000 years from now, and I was to bring back.

Two templates of messages, the. One of the messages will. That will be on one of the tablets will be do the thing. Do the thing. All right. And I'm so glad you came on to do that thing, do the thing with us today. I'm glad you shared your experience. I was going to try to pull out a preview of your TEDx speech, but I. I won't do that. I'll wait till after it happens and we'll talk about that itself. But I do want you to write your book because I would like to read it, compare notes, have you come on and talk about that. And the other thing is, you know, part of the reason that I brought you up, one is because there are a lot of young women out there. And like I said, this is a woman's world, especially young women that are confused with Instagram and so forth, you know, and I want young women to see that they don't have to be dependent on anyone or anything. They could be independent and have a strong relationship and a strong life. That you are an example of a woman taking control over their own life, overcoming some stuff. Because, you know, we have to tell everyone to get to the point that where you're at and where I'm at, that you have to go through some stuff. And it does get easier. It becomes harder before it becomes easier. That's just life itself. But when it becomes easier, you do the thing. And that's what I love. I can't wait to get my shirt. I have one. One more question to ask you. And I asked this at a.90% of the guests is on here. Now. Let me preface it so you understand why I'm asking this. I did not know when I started my podcast having this question, you know, when people were trying to get me to, you know, get a lot of views and a lot of likes, and everyone was trying to sell me something, cost me $10,000 to learn what I knew going into it, that you had to grow your. Your family, your business organically, one client at a time, one customer at a time, one like one share. It all happens at one time. There's 8 billion people on the planet, and all I wanted to do is make an impression on 1% of those people. So it's a slow growth, like bamboo. So when I, I say this circle of friends like you.

My friends are not the type of people that drive by an accident, they stop and help. When I asked this question, I did not know that it was going to be received at the rate it was going to be received. I'm going into my third year, August 7, 2024. I've had five people that have been guests on my show that have answered this question and that strangers have come up and have answered the call to this question. So if I were to ask you if you have one ask.

And it could be granted if some stranger won't ask you your one one answer your the call to your one ask. Now some people go throughout their whole life and never have one dream come true. I've had five guests have their dream answered. So if I were to ask you, Stacy Martin, do that, do the thing. Podcast host, entrepreneur, soon to be TEDx speaker, good friend.

Champion of causes not just for women.

Spiritual leader and don't know it and just downright good person. If I was to ask you, you want to ask what would that ask be A S K. And just in case people don't understand my Ohio.

Tuned to that, I'm saying ask, what would that be?

Okay, so I would say it would be.

To connect with someone that you don't know.

And tell them to do the thing.

That's amazing. You know, it's, I've only had ever had one person on this show answer that question and ask for something for themselves. This is the reason why you're going to be successful and that you are successful is because you are selfless and you're, you're giving, you're always pouring into others. And I'm so glad that this show we're pouring into you because you deserve it. We have covered a lot of information. We've had some fun with a good friend of mine and if some point in, in this interview, in this episode of talking with Kevin and son and the people, you should know if we have touched you in a way that changes not only the view, but changes something in your heart. Because we believe in love. And love starts from the heart. I want to thank you. If you liked us that much, go to our YouTube page at RMK Productions and Network on YouTube and subscribe and ask. And if you like it that much, share it. And if you'd like to be a guest and I'm going to say, Stacy, you are always welcome anytime you want, there's always an open seat. We'll keep it warm for you. You can come back. And you can go to www.rnkproductions.org or send us an email at inform K Productions. Org if you'd like to be a guest or have someone you would like to recommend. I appreciate you 1000 times over. My hashtag is find 1000 reasons to be kind to someone. My grandfather always said, when you get to a point in life that you can help someone, it is your duty to do so. I am Kevin McLemore. I'm your show host. And like my grandfather said, reach one, teach one. And with that, with that said, we'll fade to black. And we're out. Thank you, Stacy Lawrence, for being our guest today. Thank you.

Thank you. Thanks for having me.

No problem.