Instead of asking "Do you understand?" ask what someone's goal is and how they'll proceed. It reveals whether they actually get it. The speaker warns against over-guiding, which blurs into micromanagement without clear guardrails.
If you ask the question, "Do you understand?" What will most people say? People will say, "I understand." How do you know in fact they do? So what's the goal? What's the next step? How are you gonna— you'll know right away if they're going down the right path or not. But don't ask the term, "Do you understand?" What are we trying to accomplish? What's your next step? Just to make sure we're on the same page. There's nothing wrong with that. Now let me go back to the original question. What is guiding? We ought to put some, some tangible guardrails around this because could we go too far in guiding if we don't understand what guiding really is? Because I don't, I don't, I think if you go too far, we're actually not guiding.
