Steve LowiszFounder of Guide, Don’t Drive™ Leadership | Keynote Speaker |

Why Everything Keeps Coming Back to You

30 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief leadership talk, the speaker challenges managers who habitually answer their team members’ questions immediately because it’s faster. He explains that these seemingly reasonable, quick‑answer moments train employees to rely on the manager, creating a cycle where the same issues keep resurfacing. The speaker reframes the manager’s frustration from “Why do they keep bringing this back to me?” to “What am I teaching them?” and suggests that allowing people to work through problems fosters autonomy and reduces repetitive dependency.

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How many questions have you answered today that you probably didn't need to? Not because your people aren't capable, but it was just faster. See, you knew the answer. They had a customer waiting. They had 30 seconds and were trying to keep things moving. We've all done it. But see, tomorrow when that same person has a similar question, who are they going to go to? Are they going to work through it or come find you? And then what about the next time? And the time after that. See, before long, you're sitting there wondering, "Why does everything keep coming back to me?" And it doesn't happen because people suddenly decide they need you for everything. It happens in all those little moments that felt completely reasonable while they were happening. So maybe the question isn't just, "Why do they keep bringing this back to me?" Maybe it's, "What keeps teaching them to?"