A short self-development talk by Steven (Stephen) Barnes (The Diamond Hour) advising listeners to seek emotional equilibrium to avoid extreme swings between depression and exhilaration. Barnes recommends practicing detachment (witnessing emotions), making small corrective actions rather than large swings, and using focused breathing tied to a brief "five minute miracle" practice. The talk closes with a call-to-action to visit diamondhour.com and an exhortation to "be the hero in the adventure of your lifetime."
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Hi, this is Stephen Barnes of the Diamond Hour welcoming you to healing emotions, Part 9. Don't Let yout Victories Defeat You. Now, briefly, the idea is if you don't soar too high, you'll never fall too low. In other words, seek equilibrium. In the process of healing your wounded emotions, you're very likely to cycle between depression and exhilaration. In both cases, it is useful to attempt to maintain balance. When you're up, you're in bliss, but not survival, and therefore it can be easier to gain perspective. Survival fear creates tunnel vision like nobody's business. It can be almost impossible to interrupt that pattern without enormous effort. What you want is to avoid violent swings of the horrible wheel of your emotions. Right or left. It is much like driving. When we first learn we're likely to swing wildly with time, we make tiny course corrections left and right until we appear to be traveling in a straight line. The same thing is true of walking a process of throwing your body out of balance and then regaining and then repeating the process again and again. Not too high equals not too low. People become literally addicted to the swing of their emotions and it can tear them apart, leading to substance abuse and open them to inappropriate relationships. Just because someone punches their emotional or sexual buttons, take control. Develop the capacity to sit slightly back from your emotions witnessing them. They are too extreme. Detach a bit, they seem healthy. Jump into the flow and enjoy. You have this ability, but it must be practiced to be useful. In time it will become automatic. The very best way to change or balance your state is to focus on your breathing. Hyper excited breathing is simply different from balanced happy breathing. Learn the difference and tie it into your five minute miracle. Practice as you proceed down the path of life. You will have victories, but don't let those victories defeat you. This is Stephen Barnes, the Diamond Hour saying that if you like this approach to self development, please Visit me at www.diamondhour.com and I'd like to close as always by reminding you to be the hero in the adventure of your lifetime.
