HealingEmotoins#6: Anticipating Relapse.mp4

Hi, this is Steve Barnes of the Diamond Hour with Healing Emotions part six. And part six is anticipate and expect relapse. This is important. Now hang on, we're going to go quickly here. Now, there's never a straight line to any worthy and challenging goal. This is one of the rules we learn in childhood and then conveniently arrange to forget every single day. Why do we do that? Well, the hero's journey details not a circular path ending back at the beginning, but a four dimensional spiral traveling through time, space, motion and personal evolution. A true journey ends with the person not back where they began, but beginning the next level of their development. They may return to the village, but the very act of bringing the elixir back to changes their status and therefore the nature of challenges and opportunities they'll face next. Remember, you can't step in the same piece of water twice. Now this is where it gets tricky. The ego perceives change, either positive or negative, as death and will fight to maintain homeostasis. That means that if you attempt positive change, your ego will work to sabotage you unless that change is in alignment with your self image and pre existing belief patterns and values. Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to lose weight, increase income or improve relationships? Well, now you know. In terms of healing emotions and in terms of healing your heart, you'd better grasp that if you have a pattern of self harm or attracting and accepting people who harm you, some part of you is getting off on it. It believes that this is what you are worth. An ugly, ugly truth. And this part that does not want you to change will make you forget that the pattern of growth is always 100% of the time accompanied by failure. Look at any skill you've ever acquired, walking, talking, riding a bicycle, whatever, and you'll realize that you failed again and again. You fell down and bruised yourself, but you got back up. You got back up and kept trying or you never would have learned. We lose this as we get older. Our ego shells are thicker, less flexible, more convinced that we know who we really are. So when we resolve to change, then take action and begin learning new skills, it is inevitable that we fall on our faces. Depression returns, the inappropriate relationship resurfaces, we pick up a cigarette, we break our diet, we get writer's block. And if we interpret this as signifying that we can't, or it's hopeless, or we can't do it, and so forth, your ego has fooled you into believing that you are your internal images, beliefs and values and your ego wins. But if you take the long view, you look at what the elders of the world's villages have been saying about the path of life, you'll get the joke. You realize that failure is just a sign that you were one of the very few with the courage to step up to the plate and take a swing. Keep going. Celebrate your courage. Pick yourself up. Get back on the horse. You're bloodied, but unbowed. Failure is just a part of the process. Recommit to your values and goals. Remember that you are the only one who can set yourself free. If necessary, cycle back and get more allies, more resources. Believe in yourself. Love yourself as you would love your most precious child. Before you begin, understand that you will fail. Understand also that if you pick yourself up and keep going, you will win. This is the message the village elders have been telling us. Life is a bumpy road. It is tough. Be tougher, damn it. Life is not a dress rehearsal. Every day is a new chance, but there is no time, no room for self pity. Love yourself without mercy. This is Steve Barnes of the Diamond Hour inviting you to join us at www.diamondhour.com. and to always remember that you are what stands between you, your dreams and oblivion. It's up to you. Be the hero in the adventure of your lifetime.