Robert Ta argues that changing how you talk about your feelings shifts your power. Instead of saying someone made you feel something, say what you felt and why. This linguistic shift moves you from blaming conditions to taking ownership, the difference Ta sees between victims and winners.
Own your own feelings. Nobody caused you to feel a certain way. You own it. So change the language. You didn't make me feel this way. I felt this way because of the situation that you were part of. That's different. You take ownership word by word, sentence by sense, action by action. Small, consistent habits like that, where you take extreme accountability and ownership over your own goddamn feelings. That changes your life. You end up being a fighter, not a victim of circumstance. Everybody's deal the hand they're dealt. Victims blame conditions. Winners win regardless of conditions. So are you a victim? Or are you a fighter and a winner? You get to choose.
