A brief excerpt from TJ Walker (YouTube) explaining that actions perceived as intentional slights often stem from others’ unrelated personal traumas (e.g., a family death). He argues that learning the broader context can shift interpretation from a trust violation to recognition of external pressures.
And sometimes people do something we think was really an intentional slight to us, and we find out later that day or sometimes 10 years later had nothing to do with us. They were going through some other trauma, a close family member dying. But, you know, it was the night their mother died, and they didn't want to tell anyone. And once you know that, you realize, well, they didn't violate my trust. There was just other things going on in their life.
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