Parents: How to Split Responsibilities During the Football Recruiting Process

All right, so you're probably a parent watching this, and you're going through the recruiting process thinking, like, how do I even navigate this thing in the first place? You'd be learning about Twitter, you're learning about highlights, you're learning about recruiting coordinators and all this crazy stuff. So let's talk about how to go about this process the right way and how to split responsibilities up, because it's, it's just a huge part that not enough people talk about. And I want to give you my opinion. So hopefully you can form your own opinion and make a decision on what's right for you and your family. And so if you don't know who I am, I'm Trent Laurer. I am all about helping high school football players and their families get college football scholarships. So if you're a different parent from a different sport, I can still help you. Maybe this can give you some context, but just know that this specifically within the context of college football. 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So the first thing you should be doing as a parent is once you decide that, hey, my son wants to get recruited to play college football, you should have a conversation with them and just talk about their, their goals, how they want to go about all this stuff. Because I think that's something that a lot of families skip. And honestly, my family skipped this part too. And nothing bad on my parents love them. But, you know, it's just a crazy process and it's hard to go about it when you're just going about it the first time. And luckily, I was an independent enough kid to kind of figure out some things on my own and go about it without wrecking the entire process. So the first thing you should do again is just have that conversation, have an honest conversation about what their goals are, what's, what's reality as well, and how they want to go about the process. Because if you get their buy in and their commitment and it's really going to be extremely difficult at that point. So the way I think it should be split up, the way I think should be split up is that the player should be more focused on direct impact things. Grades, conversational coaches, improving as a player, as an athlete, as a person, and ultimately performing on the field. Those four things are really what their main priorities for the parents like. To me, nothing should be solely on the parents outside of just support. They should be supportive of their son no matter the decisions that they made. And of course that's, you know, you can disagree with me on that. I don't really mind too much. I definitely don't want to tell you how to parent, but the rest of it should be decided on how to split. So the three things I would talk over with your son about is number one, messaging and outreach. How are you guys going to go about that posting? Decision making? So I have some families that we work with and that I've talked to that, hey, the parent is handling all the messaging, outreach, all the posting. And I don't have anything wrong with that. I actually don't think there's anything wrong with that at all. If you want your son to focus on those things, not worry about any of the recruiting stuff except for like having a couple conversations, going on business, all this stuff, maybe getting some education here and there, that's perfectly fine. While I have some families that's like, hey, it's all on the kid. And I think that's also fine as long as the kid can't handle it. I think it's, you know, very, I think it's very hard to imagine that a kid's gonna be able to handle this super overwhelming process. Age of 16, 17. But if you feel like your kid can handle that, then there's no harm in that either, as long as they have the tools and the support at their disposal. And the last one is just decision making again, 16, 17 years old, probably not going to be the best at decision making. So just guiding them, helping them make the best decision for you, not saying that you should make the decision entirely, this is why it's kind of a split thing, but having those conversations and getting into their mind of why they're making certain decisions and hopefully allowing them to Kind of grow as a person, as an adult throughout this time. And then you could probably go into other minor things. I'm probably skipping some things right now that I can't think of. But you just want to make sure that each responsibility has what I call. And it's kind of a weird term, but one throat to choke. You want to be able to go, hey, this was your job. You should have done this. So, like, if you're saying, hey, my son should be messaging and reaching out to coaches, or my son should be in charge of posting, if those posts don't get done or don't get it properly, you can be like, hey, this was your job. Like, why aren't you doing this? And vice versa, if you know it's your job as a parent to do the messaging outreach, that way your son can be like, hey, like, why is there messaging outreach? And so making sure you're clear on that. So that way it's not like this weird thing where it's like, oh, neither of us did it. It's like, okay, it was your job. It didn't get done. Why isn't this going, getting done? Or, hey, I can actually get mad at you for some reason because we made this commitment earlier on as well as just makes it very clear. So I would say, hey, like, this is what I got to do. I don't have to worry about anything else. And for the kid as well, it's very clear on their part as well. To kind of sum it all up, and this is a relatively short video, is just that. Have the conversations. I don't think there's any right or wrong on what should be focused on by the parent or what should be focused on by the kid. But the problems happen when there's not clear communication and there's not clarity on what should be done by either side. And so make sure you're having that clarity. Make sure you're having those conversations. I think things will go just so much smoother and make the process just a lot less stressful because you know things are getting done. So hopefully this helped. And again, if you happen to want to get direct help with recruiting and work with us at your first scholarship, you click the link below, book a call with our team. They'll kind of walk you through what we do, how we do it, so that way you can figure out if it's the best fit for you. So I hope to see you in there soon. Peace.