Uzi Moses PhD warns that using a child as a weapon against the other parent causes severe damage: anxiety, depression, identity confusion, and neurobiological stress. He calls this emotional triangulation a spiritual crime that forces children to process emotions they're not equipped to handle.
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There is no deeper spiritual breach than using your child as a weapon against the other parent. It harms the child long before it hurts the adult. Psychology calls this emotional triangulation. It means the child is forced into loyalty conflicts, carrying emotions that they are not built to handle. This increases anxiety, depression, and identity confusion. Neuroscience shows that when a child are pulled into adult conflicts, their stress hormones rise, their immune system weakens, and their brain wiring becomes unstable. Kabbalah teaches that a child's soul is a pure channel of light. When a parent uses the child to punish the other that light becomes tangled. The child carries pain that is not theirs. Parents say things like, "I'm only telling them the truth. I want them to know what really happened. They need to choose sides." But the spiritual law is simple: a child is never supposed to carry the weight of your battles. They came into this world to grow, not to be used as a shield, a messenger, or a weapon. When you weaponize the child, you are not hurting the other parent. You are damaging the child's spirit, and one day that child will understand exactly who did it to them. If you want to protect them, stop using them. Heal yourself, not through the child, but for the child.
