Is your socks life spontaneous? 👀 This is what we have to say... #relationships #marriagetips

My hot take is that spontaneity is so overrated. And I think that people use spontaneity as an excuse to not actually put effort into their shit life.

Or not have to like really talk about it too much.

Yeah, like, and I don't blame people, to be totally clear. I'm not saying you're a bad person or anything like that. All that we have ever been fed about shit is all about spontaneity. Fireworks. Yeah, if you're, you know, you just look at each other and it's on and you're supposed to feel this like wild, hot, passionate chemistry and it just happens. Nobody has to do anything. Nobody has to talk about it. So of course all of us have internalized that in our heads that that's how sex is supposed to work, but that's not, and especially not in a long-term relationship. Most of us lead lives that are not very spontaneous. Like I always ask people, like you want spontaneous sex, where's the space in your life for spontaneity? What else do you do in your life that's spontaneous? If you're truly like a nomad and your life is completely spontaneous and you can do whatever you want, you have no kids, you have no pets, you have no responsibilities, you just like have that space for it, sure, you can have a spontaneous fuck. But everybody else, we need to put some effort into it. We need some planning, we need some communication. And again, honestly, I believe that communicating and putting effort into it make our fuck lives better. So I think that what you're really saying is I want fuck to still feel exciting.